Sincerity and gentleness

I watched a Japanese drama yesterday, "The Lost First Love". I realized a long-lost word - sincerity. When we were children, we read descriptions of sincerity in many books and talked about the power of sincerity. But as we age, we become less and less sincere. We cannot be sincere to others, and others treat us the same way. We take it for granted and even think that only children can be sincere. If applied to adults, it becomes synonymous with childishness, immaturity, low emotional intelligence, etc. We do not feel the power of sincerity and we despise it. But in this drama, for the first time, I felt the power of "sincerity" that touches people's hearts.

At the beginning of the story, Ida mistakenly thought that Aoki had a crush on him because of an eraser with his name and a heart written on it. Although this was something he had never imagined, he did not treat this feeling casually. It was still a same-sex crush. There is no ridicule, contempt, or bragging to others as a means of showing off. But he said he would seriously consider the matter. It was this kind of sincerity and tenderness that made Aoki begin to fall. Of course, there were also a large number of girls watching the drama who fell at the same time.

In order to help his female classmate Qashixia escape the siege, Aoki volunteered to play Cinderella. He almost fell down on the stage. Fortunately, Ida saved him in time and avoided close contact with the earth. This scene was photographed and made fun of by the classmates. Although there was no malicious intention, it still felt a little uncomfortable for the person involved. But if you get angry, or ask them not to make such jokes, you may be called hypocritical, glass-hearted, and no one has any ill intentions, so why are you so incapable of making jokes, etc. We are often bound by these thoughts and dare not reveal our true emotions and thoughts when being teased, and we have to pretend not to care and talk and laugh with everyone. It seems that only in this way can I appear generous, careless, cheerful and gregarious. But Ida was able to bluntly say that this was not funny. Aoki had clearly made a great contribution to the class, so why did he make fun of him? The atmosphere at that time was awkward for a moment. For those who were joking, Ida might think that Then some of them are inappropriate and too upright and don't understand the atmosphere. But for Aoki, who is at the center of the topic, it is so heart-warming that someone can help him express his grievances, and he can ignore the ridicule of others. So he would stand up and joke to save the situation, once again liven up the atmosphere, so as not to embarrass everyone and prevent others from having opinions about Namada.

The new teacher Gangno tutored Aoki. Aoki made great progress and the two got along very well. However, Teacher Gangno accidentally discovered the secrets of Aoki and Ida, and showed an extreme resistance, which made Aoki very disappointed. It can be seen from the play that Aoki is a very emotional person and values ??his friends more than himself. He regarded his teacher as an older brother, but it was hard not to feel depressed when he was suddenly rejected like this. But he didn't plan to do anything, he just thought about licking his wounds silently and waiting for this matter to pass. This is probably what ordinary people do. Faced with such straightforward dislike from others, they really don’t have the courage to change the other person’s opinion. Because we always worry too much, are afraid of being hurt again, are afraid that the other person may hate us and don't want to see us, so we try to avoid disturbing the other person, etc., thus ignoring our true inner thoughts. In comparison, Ida is much more straightforward. When the three met at the door of the ramen restaurant, Ida's expression made people think that he wanted to fight with Mr. Okano, but he actually said, do you want to eat ramen together? Aoki said a little speechlessly, look at the atmosphere now! Ida I asked him, hadn't he always been looking forward to eating ramen with the teacher? So, the three of them ate ramen together, each with a different taste. Teacher Gangno finally understood that his previous prejudice was wrong, and sighed while eating noodles, everyone has the right to freely choose what they like!

Ida has always been in the play He is a bit slow-tempered, upright, and ignorant of the world. When the beautiful manager Matsuuchi confessed to him, he said that dyeing his hair was against school rules. Ida did not reject Matsunai in person, but returned the gift to her in an empty classroom. Because he knew that the other party definitely didn't want others to know his secret.

Even though he knew that Aoki's first crush was a misunderstanding, he was not angry, but said that it was great that Aoki didn't have to worry about it. When Aoki confessed for the second time, he still chose to believe it because he felt the other person's emotions. Ida treats others with sincerity and can feel the sincerity of others.

Many boys are always careless. When their girlfriends are angry, they say, "How can I, a straight man, understand this?" But in fact, if you treat others with sincerity, it is not difficult to understand how others feel. If you hurt others and then accuse yourself of being careless and careless, in the final analysis, you don't take others to heart and you don't really care about other people's feelings.

Teacher Taniguchi in the play is also a very warm character who cares about and respects students. His attitude towards Matsunai-san is also very touching. The innocent high school female student confessed to him several times and gave him handmade gifts, but he always firmly refused. At the same time, he also paid attention to protecting the girl's face and told everyone that she wanted him to deliver gifts to the boys in the volleyball club. Teacher Taniguchi did not accept the girl's feelings, nor did he act like a snake or a scorpion towards her. He did not make the girl feel embarrassed. He felt that he was so bad that the person he liked hated him so much. Instead, we always treat each other with the attitude of ordinary teachers and students. But it's precisely because of this tenderness that girls can't let go. But it doesn’t matter if you can’t let go. If you fall in love with an excellent person who has qualities such as gentleness, bravery, kindness, etc., even if you can’t be with him in the end, you can still proudly say that I once liked that person. Sparkling people! His quality will always warm you, allowing you to work hard to improve yourself in the days to come, follow in his footsteps, and grow into a person as good as him. Let you learn how to love others and give others warmth.

In the past, I always mistakenly thought that gentleness meant gentle movements and soft words. After watching this drama, I realized that gentleness is not necessarily reflected in words and actions, but more of a spiritual tolerance. Teachers Ida and Taniguchi may not seem to be gentle on the surface, but they put themselves in the shoes of others, respect everyone's right to free choice, and protect the secrets of others. It is this respect, understanding and tolerance. It makes people sincerely sigh, "xx is such a gentle person!"

We are always easily swayed by worldly vision and comments, and cannot treat ourselves and others sincerely. I hope this drama can bring some inspiration to other viewers and maintain a sense of sincerity and tenderness in this complicated world.