There are no hard things, only hard feelings.

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? 1.

Probably because I know, I chose to accept

but I didn't succeed.

a sweet female voice at the other end of the counter said to me, "I'm sorry, but you can't handle the social security transfer because your two insurance expenses in July have not yet arrived."

at that moment, my heart was "sad".

You know, in the hot weather, braving the heat, I took the high-speed train and transferred to City A. In the end, I still didn't solve this long-delayed thing as I wished.

When I put down my luggage, my eyes rolled and my feet paced. After a few minutes, when I decided that I couldn't change any status quo in a short time, my mood was a little ugly, but my inner anxiety gradually disappeared.

yes, I choose to accept this "small loss" and even a little "small happiness".

I have been rushing to several places, and finally I have a reason not to hurry, say goodbye to City A and go to eat seriously.

I took out my mobile phone, made a phone call to my little friend whom I hadn't contacted for a long time, and met him in a very delicious restaurant. I took a long breath and felt that life was still a little interesting.

I don't know when it started, and there is always an inevitable "mourning" in life.

The wonderful thing is: voluntarily admitting that there is inevitably a "mourning" mentality in life, on the contrary, people feel that they are steadfast in their hearts, and letting go of some things that are difficult to force will relieve some pressure on themselves.

A while ago, I saw a definition of "small loss" on the Internet, which is very accurate, so I often compare it with my hard life.

what exactly is a small loss?

"Small true loss, derived from small true happiness, describes small but definite depression and despair. Predictable, unavoidable, and continuous, people feel that their bodies are hollowed out. "

yes, I often feel my body is hollowed out.

Some people say that we are negative, world-weary, and muddle along. Little do we know that we laugh at ourselves and expose ourselves in order to better smile at life after releasing the pressure.

The truest of us, after habitually saying "It doesn't matter if we are unhappy today, but tomorrow will not be better anyway", we still greet a new day with full mental outlook.

2.

Compared with the small true happiness, the small true loss is our real life

Who hasn't ordered the "small true loss" yet?

when you take a long-distance bus, you find that your mobile phone is low in power. When you take out your charging treasure, you find that you don't have a charging cable.

I was so tired from work that I took a nap on the subway home. As a result, I accidentally fell asleep and missed my stop.

I took my umbrella out for several days, but it was cloudy all the time. Finally, you left your umbrella behind before going out, but it was raining cats and dogs that day.

You may say, "It's tiring to be alive", but in reality, you never give up living a good life.

One day a few months ago, I accompanied a close female colleague to get a courier. On the way, she couldn't restrain her inner joy and happily shared her story with me.

It turns out that express delivery is a ribbon embroidery sent from a distant place by her close friend whom she has not seen for many years. Needless to say, it is a gift embroidered with friendship.

but when we arrived at the express delivery point, we couldn't find the express delivery we wanted.

I was full of expectation, but I couldn't resist the accident. My colleagues' mood immediately became "sad" and all the smiling faces before were gone.

After searching for it, the courier boss slapped his forehead and said to us with great annoyance, "I remember, the courier was taken away by a young man. Recently, there were too many pieces, and something went wrong. I'm really sorry."

I thought that the boss could follow the number on the courier list and find the guy who took the courier by mistake, so that this matter could be solved smoothly. Unexpectedly, the story similar to the dog blood in TV series happened in the lives of colleagues without warning.

The young man who received the call told the boss that the courier he wanted to take was an empty package with a single bill, so he didn't read it, tore up his personal information and threw it directly into the trash can on the side of the road.

That is to say, the thin ribbon embroidery was mistaken for an empty bag with a brush, and was mercilessly thrown away.

We went through several trash cans by the roadside with the owner of the express delivery point, but in the end, we still couldn't find the ribbon embroidery.

in desperation, I had to accompany the waiter to discuss the compensation with the boss of the express delivery point and leave in disappointment.

On the way back, I didn't dare to say much. I only heard a few complaints from my colleagues and suddenly said to me, "Forget it. Now that it's a reality, I hope someone can pick it up. Although it's not worth much, it's at least a beautiful thing. It's good to stay and have a look."

although I don't know who will find the ribbon embroidery, or whether the ultimate fate of this ribbon embroidery still belongs to the garbage disposal site, I am quite pleased to hear what my colleagues said.

In fact, most of us have the ability to comfort ourselves to live a good life after knowing so much helplessness.

Although the reality will be cruel, we always choose to convince ourselves.

3.

The so-called "mourning" process is just the eternal theorem of "negative gains positive"

A few years ago, my old friend Dameng complained to me about her work. She not only had to deal with complicated colleagues, but also had endless classes and endless engineering projects.

besides work, there are many trivial things that you need to worry about in your life.

At that time, there was no such thing as "small loss", and her complaints were no different from those of thousands of office workers in Qian Qian.

The reality is: the work continues to torture the body and mind, the salary is stagnant for a long time, the landlord is always urging the rent, and there is not enough time every day.

today, what are these not "small indeed"?

Complaining returns to complaining. Dameng students are not eager to jump ship, but devote themselves to "torture" and turn every "small loss" into strength. No matter how "mourning", the seriousness of their work has never been discounted.

Today's Meng Meng, because of persistence, has become the key training object in the company, and the salary is no longer as meaningless as it was then;

Thanks to her hard work in previous years, she has accumulated more work experience than others, and now she is comfortable with her projects.

On weekdays, Dameng pays attention to getting along with others, and is very appropriate in dealing with people. Occasionally, colleagues invite us to chat and have tea together, and life is quite comfortable.

Looking back, how many people's "small loss" in those years has gradually turned into "small happiness". All "mourning" will become purposeful and directional because of persistence, and finally give you a gorgeous transformation.

Dickens rightly said, "This is the worst time, and this is the best time." For us, there is no difficulty, no life, and what you want will never fall from the sky.

Only by enduring the torment of "small true loss" can we have the sweetness of "small true happiness".

4.

You can only recognize the truth if you can see through it.

There is a saying in the book: "People can only bear the burden of the world and get rid of the shackles of the world if they can see through it."

the meaning of the ancients is very clear, but it is only through thorough understanding and true recognition that we can shoulder the heavy responsibility of the world and get rid of the complicated shackles in the world.

The most ordinary people in this era don't need to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the world. Living this life well is already awe of life.

As the song goes, "There are too many disappointments in this world, but you have to go on with your life."

I've seen someone jump from a dozen-story building, leaving a short message of "exchanging life for money" in the process of changing from the living to the dead, ending his "mourning" that he thought only his life could be spent.

We regret and sigh. In this life, many things are taken seriously blindly without really understanding them. Sometimes it is a terrible thing.

romain rolland said: "There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after knowing the truth of life."

what we want is to have the courage to move on.

At the moment when the "mourning culture" is prevalent, we vent our inner depression. Some things will be understood when we talk about them, and some roads will be clear when we walk.

We are "mourning" and awake. "Little mourning" is really bitter, but it is also a good medicine.

Therefore, the occasional "loss" may be an alternative way of loving life. What if a "small true loss" comes after efforts are made to eliminate it?

About the author: Chu Yang, a signing author of reading at ten o'clock; After 9, Gemini, who is good at literature and art, works in the library during the day and reads and writes at night, and has been working hard.