How to save a girl?

When two people are looking forward to being together, all kinds of advantages and disadvantages are slowly exposed, and women will subconsciously narrow your advantages and enlarge your shortcomings. Whether it is successful to save love or not is very important. Therefore, if you want to save your friends, you must first make up your mind and act, and don't hesitate and entangle.

Love is a running-in process. It is essential for two people to get along and understand each other. If you really want to recover, you can ferry (Wang Lingling's successful recovery experience) and learn the recovery process. I wish you an early restoration of love. Come on!

First, the wrong behavior in recovery.

1, argue with each other, reason, and try to convince each other.

If you say that a woman is wrong, she is even more wrong. When she broke up with you, she had a bad impression of you. At this time, you still want to persuade her to change her mind with a lot of reasons. Then, it was all wet. She'll think you don't even have the least remorse.

Let's imagine, what would you think if someone you hate kept trying to convince you in front of you?

2. Keep making promises to each other.

Many people are anxious when women say goodbye, thinking of fooling each other, and will say, "I promise I won't do it again, and I will change it in the future." Please believe me. " "or" I will never lie to you again ","I will never contact another woman again "and so on. In fact, at this time, women will think you are hypocritical, and she will think about how you used to do it and how boring you used to be, so this method won't work.

3, stalking, constantly harassing each other

After breaking up, many people's first reaction is that women are angry. In order to get back their ex-girlfriends, they have done all kinds of tangled things, such as buying gifts for roses, or standing downstairs waiting for all kinds of diaosi behaviors, or constantly begging each other to say "I love you, I really love you", "Please don't leave me", "I really don't want to lose you" and so on.

Although I understand that this is the normal reaction of most people, I don't know that women will think that you are forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do, and as a result, women are very annoyed. Because of these behaviors, many people's contact information has been deleted and blacked out.

4. Low mood, pessimism and depression.

Although we understand the pain of lovelorn love, we should remember that women don't like pessimistic men. Many people suffer from loss of love all day long, and their hearts are full of negative emotions. They think about their previous unkindness to her, their previous mistakes and regret that they didn't cherish her before. Brothers with poor psychological quality are devastated and have mental illness.

What's more, extreme behaviors such as self-harm and jumping off a building can only make women more convinced that breaking up with you is right.

Second, give each other a way to lower blood pressure.

When the other party proposes to break up, the impression of you is at a negative emotional point. The idea of many women at this time is that they want you to disappear in front of her and leave her alone. So, what we have to do is:

1, agree with her mood.

The core point of identifying with emotion is: no matter what she says, don't go against her. Even if she says break up or never meet again, you have to promise. Many people will say, if I agree to break up, won't I really break up?

From a psychological point of view, at this emotional point, it is easy for people to make impulsive actions against themselves. If you are still trying to convince her at this time, it will only make her hate you more.

For example, when she says "I don't want to see you", the correct response is "OK, I'll go out" or disappear immediately. She said "Don't talk to me" and our response was "Okay, I'll shut up". She said you were wrong, so you should follow her. I was wrong, I was wrong.

Don't mention your feelings in front of her.

Women are actually very sensitive when facing feelings, especially after breaking up. She has a confused impression of you, and if you always bring up emotional topics in front of her, women will subconsciously resist communicating with you, and you can communicate with her about other meaningful topics, which will help her to lower her guard against you. Let the other person feel that you don't care, and feel your positive, optimistic and cheerful attitude.

3, get along with ordinary friends.

After breaking up, women will say, let's be friends. In fact, the woman said this sentence because of the mutual affection of the two before, and she didn't want to go too far. However, even if many brothers agree to be ordinary friends with women, they still can't.

After all, it doesn't feel good for a woman who loves you to be your friend. Some people will ask, the woman who agrees to be my friend is definitely giving me a chance. Yes, it's really giving you a chance, but many people will still get along like they didn't break up before, and will only waste the opportunity given by a woman.

Third, the principle and application of freezing

Many people were shocked to hear a woman break up. After they react, they often apologize, explain, be ashamed and beg again and again. Repeat this behavior again and again. They think that doing so can make women soft-hearted and even change their minds. In fact, this kind of behavior is not only not conducive to saving feelings, but also will hurt your self-confidence.

Actually, women don't just break up When she brings it up, it means that everything in her heart is negative for you. When a person holds a negative attitude towards another person, no matter what the other person says, he won't listen.

Your explanation, remorse and pleading can only become evidence that she denies you more. The more you pester, the more she hates you and avoids you. Over time, you no longer have any intersection. The success rate of this recovery is basically zero.

So what should we do? Of course, stop this meaningless behavior, admit the fact that you have broken up, and then gracefully disappear from her world and stop contacting her.

What? Make me disappear? You might as well let me die!

In fact, keeping you out of touch and disappearing doesn't mean giving up. The purpose of this is to keep the opportunity to communicate with her again in the future and re-enter her life. Only when we can communicate again can we have a chance to save her. Since it's useless to say or do anything now, it's better not to contact. In fact, this is called delaying tactics in Sun Tzu's art of war, leaving an opportunity for a fresh start in the future.

But most people will think in their hearts, what if she forgets me and she is with another man during my disappearance? In fact, time and space will indeed dilute some beautiful things, but at the same time it will also dilute her negative impression of you.

That question is coming, and some people will ask, what if she forgets me? What if she marries another man?

1, what if she forgets you?

After a period of freezing, when you appear in front of her again as a beautiful image, she will subconsciously compare your current image with the previous negative impression, and women will think that you are really different from before, and you have really become more attractive. At this time, you can still pursue her through the normal process of picking up girls.

What if she marries another man?

First of all, it is her right to find another man, which can only blame you for not meeting other people's standards before, so it is normal for you to be pass, and this is the principle of survival of the fittest. Secondly, even if she has another man, you only have a chance if she is not married. When you appear beside her as a friend, as long as you attract and operate properly, it is not impossible for you to rekindle your feelings, because many women are actually nostalgic.

So what is suitable for freezing?

She didn't answer your phone, didn't return your text messages, blacked out your phone circle of friends and refused to meet you!

This shows that she hates you now, so you must take freezing. Only if you keep the chance to see her again can you save her.

Of course, if you two still get along like ordinary friends after breaking up, there is no need to bury the hatchet. But don't be too enthusiastic. If you still treat her as before, it means that your sense of need is too strong, and she will be under pressure to think that you are in fall in price.

Of course, you can have dinner and get together with friends occasionally, but not too often. Most importantly, let her feel your change and dilute her negative impression of you. In short, the most important thing is not to mention feelings, but to talk about interest.

How long does it take to freeze?

Theoretically, the longer the time, the better, because the longer the time, the weaker her negative impression of you, and the greater the chance that she will reconsider you.

During the freezing period, you have many things to do. You need to re-examine yourself. You need to think about the causes of emotional problems. You need to transform yourself and make yourself more attractive and meaningful. Simply put, it is to manage your own life and let others see your colorful life. Only when you love yourself will others love you.

Fourth, the principle and application of disconnection

Disconnecting is actually disappearing completely, like turning into air. Breaking off diplomatic relations is definitely a very effective means of recovery, but many people can't.

Disconnection principle

1, creating freshness and mystery.

When people first met, they all wanted to explore each other's inner world and get to know each other's information. This is people's desire to explore the unknown. In the relationship between men and women, freshness and mystery can play a good role in attracting. The contact between people at any time has different degrees of freshness and mystery. The longer the break-up, the fresher and more mysterious it is.

2, create a strong psychological gap

You can imagine, if a person is kind to you, but one day she suddenly goes far away and doesn't know when she will come back, is your heart empty?

You used to be very kind to women, but one day you suddenly disappear, and she will actually be very lost inside. Because she was used to your existence before, in fact, when you disappear, she will slowly think of your goodness, especially when she is empty and lonely at night, women will recall all kinds of good memories of you. It is for this reason that I have seen many women give chicken soup with memories of the past.

3. Create enough time and space to enhance charm.

When two people look forward to being together, all kinds of advantages and disadvantages are gradually exposed. Women will subconsciously narrow down your strengths and enlarge your weaknesses. Because human nature is cheap, every woman wants a man who can bring happiness to herself and win in front of relatives and friends.

If you keep in touch with her frequently and meet her often after breaking up, it will be difficult for the naked eye to observe your changes. After breaking up, what you need is to strive to improve your high value and charm in all aspects. When you suddenly appear in front of her one day, your every move and change will have a strong visual and psychological impact on her, so you will attract her more easily.

Of course, mentality is very important to save the success of love. If the mentality is not stable enough, it will be difficult to live out of touch for a long time, and many people will give up easily when they encounter setbacks. If you have no determination and action, the effect of improving your high face value is very bad. Therefore, if you want to save your friends, you must first show your determination and action, and don't hesitate and entangle.