When you encounter someone who complains behind your back, don’t be impulsive. Just master these 5 counterattack methods.

From ancient times to the present, no matter in the ancient palace or in today's workplace, villains who accuse you behind your back are everywhere.

There are almost no people who don’t hate villains. Since everyone hates villains, why do villains still exist?

Everything in this world follows one rule: existence means rationality.

Since the villain exists, it proves that his existence is reasonable.

In the workplace, there is a person who really likes villains.

This person is the leader or boss of the company.

In general large companies, leaders have their own independent offices, which are generally isolated from employees.

Although physically isolated, the leader still needs to know what his employees are doing at all times, and at this time he must rely on informants.

When I first entered the workplace, I once heard a leader say something.

He said that subordinates must be able to become the leader’s little eyes. If employees have any trouble, they need to report to him in time.

Leaders need whistleblowers, which will help them manage and control their employees. It is not difficult to understand why there has always been a place for whistleblowers from ancient times to the present.

The essence of why some people like to snitch lies in the plunder of resources.

In a unit, there are only so many resources available. If you have more, I will have less. If you have less, I will have more.

Therefore, the essence of people who like to make snitches is to plunder resources.

Just like the emperor's harem in ancient times, why are the concubines always fighting openly and secretly among themselves, and fighting fiercely?

The essential reason is that they are all plundering the same resource-the emperor's favor.

(1) Jealousy type

In the workplace, there are many excellent people, people with better abilities than themselves.

For villains, when they meet someone who is more capable than themselves, they will feel jealous and resentful, and they will find ways to slander them.

Complaining to the leader is a good way to help you eliminate dissidents with the help of the leader.

(2) Revenge type

In the workplace, there is a very narrow-minded person. Maybe you accidentally offended him at work because he is too small-minded. He will feel that you have bullied him, so he will retaliate against you.

The best way to retaliate against you is to file a complaint against you. He cannot deal with you by himself, but he wants to use the leadership to deal with you.

(3) Benefit-type

The purpose of a profit-based villain to complain to others is more to gain the favor of the leader, in order to improve his or her reputation in the team. status.

A friend of mine once told me a true story:

There was a new colleague who came to the company and had few friends. She was afraid that the girl would be left out, so she took the initiative Eat together with this girl, talk together, and share company affairs together.

One day, she saw on the Internet that the position of department leader for a new girl was being recruited, so she curiously asked the new girl if the leader was resigning?

What I didn’t expect was that the new girl didn’t have any reaction on the surface, but turned around and immediately complained to my friend.

I told my friend’s department leader that my friend leaked information casually and should not discuss matters such as the resignation of the leader.

As a result, the head of my friend's department ran to the office and scolded my friend openly and secretly.

Later, my friend found out that it was her that the boss had scolded, and she also understood who had filed a black record against her.

(4) The borrowing type

There is another very scheming villain in the workplace, the borrowing type.

This type of person is very scheming. If you don’t go to your boss directly if you have any opinions or suggestions, he will say it in front of you and use you to make you go to your boss to talk to him.

For example, there is a little girl who has just graduated. She is relatively simple. She joins a company, and an old employee complains to her all day about the low salary. The boss does not increase the salary. If the salary does not increase, he will not Done.

This girl felt that this veteran employee was a good employee and it would be a pity if he left just because of his salary.

So she ran to her boss and asked if she could give everyone a salary increase. As a result, she was reprimanded by her boss, and her impression of her was greatly reduced from then on.

Just like the queen in "The Legend of Zhen Huan", she wanted to harm Zhen Huan without taking action, but used An Lingrong's hands to harm her, and finally pushed her away completely.

There is also the Jia Guiren in "Ruyi's Royal Love in the Palace". When she wanted to harm other princes, she did not do it herself, but ran to Concubine Gao to give her advice. In the end, the simple Concubine Gao listened and He used the methods of noble people to harm other people's princes.

(5) Self-exclusion type

In the workplace, it is important to take sides. It is possible that a department may be secretly divided into two or several teams, with different teams led by different leaders.

People from different teams are very likely to harm you, especially when your position is very important and others want to pull you down and replace you with someone of their own. At this time, it is very easy to find ways to harm you. you.

For example:

There are two small teams in a large department. People in one team always keep an eye on whether people in the other team have made mistakes.

Once someone in another team is found to have made a mistake, their team immediately goes to the leader to complain.

I even often go to the company to @the person who made a mistake, so that all the leaders can see that this person has made a mistake. If things go on like this, the leaders' impression of this person will be greatly reduced.

(1) For jealous villains - learn to stay away from small-minded people.

Small-minded people are too sensitive. Once you make them feel that they are being bullied by you, or you are in trouble, If he feels wronged by you, he will find a way to get back at you.

So learn to identify the petty people around you and keep a certain distance from them.

(2) For vengeful villains - learn to do things in a low-key manner

Being too high-profile can easily lead to resentment from others, especially when you are much more capable than others. You must learn to cover up your sharp edges and learn to do things in a low-key manner, otherwise you will easily be harmed by vengeful villains.

(3) For profit-oriented villains - don’t just be a good person

In the workplace, never be a casual good person, especially for profit-oriented people. Never feel that others are isolated and pitiful, treat them as friends and talk to them with all your heart.

You are a farmer yourself, but you don’t know whether the person you are helping is a cobra.

(4) For the villain who borrows the knife-don’t be the first person

When someone says something heartfelt to you, you must analyze the other person’s motives and purposes. , so that you can tell whether the other person is trying to use you to achieve her own goals.

Never go to your boss for someone else. If you act as his spokesperson, you will only be hurt in the end.

(5) There are ways to respond to self-centered villains

When it is obvious that the other person is not in the same boat as you, and the other person intends to embarrass you in front of the leader Don't get excited.

For sarcastic and jealous slander, you can choose not to respond.

For example: Your husband gave you a skirt on Valentine's Day, and you wore it to work in the company. Someone said that your skirt is really beautiful, and you said that your husband gave you a skirt as a Valentine's Day gift.

Some people say, why is your husband so stingy? He just bought you a skirt.

It’s best not to respond at this time. Once you respond, the two people will inevitably get into an argument. If you don’t respond, it will simply appear that the other person is being mean.

Another situation is that when the other party complains to you, the truth is mixed with a few lies, which is very dangerous.

It is difficult to succeed with a naked complaint, but it is easy to succeed if the truth is mixed with lies. Sometimes the background of the matter is deliberately concealed, and the result of the matter will be different.

For example, it is often seen on the Internet that the guests in a certain program have been maliciously edited, showing that the guests are acting like celebrities and being uncooperative. But if you watch the unedited version, the truth will become clear. , it turns out that’s not the case.

When you encounter such a complaint, you must clearly explain the ins and outs of the matter to your boss. You must let your boss know the detailed process of the matter and expose the villain's lies/

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You can also guide the focus of the story to other places, otherwise the lie you tell the other person will easily turn into the truth.

In the workplace, never think about plotting against others, but you must also learn to protect yourself when others plot against you. When facing different types of villains, you must learn to use different coping strategies:

(1) For jealous villains - learn to stay away from petty people

(2) For revengeful villains - learn to do things in a low-key manner

(3) For profit-oriented villains - don't just be a good guy

(4) For borrowing-type villains - don't be the one who stands out

(5 ) For self-exclusive villains - there are ways to respond

Finally, I hope that no one will be plotted by others, and that I will not become the person who plots against others.

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