Do you need to send messages to contact girls every day?

Everything should be measured. If it exceeds this degree, a good thing will be counterproductive.

Take the matter of contacting a girl when you are chasing her. If you contact her every day, won't you worry that it will backfire and make her feel stressed or even disgusted because of your frequent contact?

If two lovers have established a relationship and are inseparable, then it is normal to contact each other every day, because both of them like each other very much.

However, you are still in the pursuit state, and the other person's mind is still unclear. If you contact others every day, they will feel uncomfortable, as if they have to report everything to you and spend time dealing with you every day.

Actually, people are like this. Your persistent posting has seriously exposed your sense of need, so even if the other person has a good impression on you, it will be consumed by your stupid behavior.

However, not contacting you every day does not mean that you have not contacted actively. It is best to keep the freezing time at a fixed frequency, not too long.

Chat interaction is just a bridge. If you don't have the advantages she appreciates and give a woman a sense of mystery, it's hard for you to make a woman infatuated with you. Learn to put it away freely, control yourself, harass girls and not make trouble, so that you can create mystery. Only the unknown mystery can lock her curiosity, and if she is curious, the girl can continue to pay attention to you. She will continue to pay attention to you, explore you, and then slowly sink in and like you.

Why can't chasing girls contact each other every day?

1, I need to do a lot of my own things every day, and chatting for too long is a waste of time. Men must be positive and not idle.

We talked for several hours at once, and all the topics were exhausted. What shall we talk about next time?

3, dare to take the initiative to end the chat, let her feel that you are not entangled, will not appear to have an attempt, will be very alert to you, will not be afraid that you will harass her in the future.

4, dare to take the initiative to end the chat, resulting in a feeling of wanting more, that is, mystery. Every time it ends in a relaxed and happy atmosphere, she will look forward to the next chat and pay more attention to your latest life dynamics.

5, differentiation, everyone sticks to her and wants to talk nonstop, but you dare to take the initiative to end it, which will produce "unavailability", which can stimulate a woman's desire to conquer, and what she can't get will make her inner turmoil.

How often is the best time to contact girls?

How often is it better to contact your girlfriend? It seems that the frequency of contact with girls has always been a problem. Chatting with my sister is an eternal topic. If you speak well, you will be attracted quickly, and eventually you will get a girl. If you don't talk well, you may not even be a friend.

But in chatting, your relationship with your sister is different, and the frequency of chatting is different. Today, we will talk to you about how to grasp the degree of chatting with your sister in the four different stages of your relationship with your sister, so as to really promote the relationship step by step.

First, the initial stage

Basically, the girl you just met will not contact you as long as you don't take the initiative to contact her. Even if you take the initiative to contact her, she may reply slowly or even not.

So how can chatting with my sister at the first meeting stage attract her more easily?

Is to maintain a high frequency, take the initiative to contact the sister, and attract the attention of the sister? Still don't take the initiative to contact your sister to avoid exposing your sense of need?

Obviously, neither is right.

Don't understand, doesn't mean you can't understand, defensive, doesn't mean that any girl you say will think you have a purpose.

So at this stage, you can just talk to her once in a while. If your sister doesn't come back from the chat, don't ask her why she went. People have no reason to tell you.

It is also important to note that even if you chat with her occasionally, you must have a legitimate reason. For example, her circle of friends has been updated, and you can use this to start the topic. If your sister hasn't updated her circle of friends for a long time, then look at her previous circle of friends and get to know her hobbies so as not to make your topic too blind.

Second, the stage of ordinary friends

Girls at this stage will not take the initiative to find you unless something happens. Even if you take the initiative to find her, in most cases, your chat content is limited to a group of friends, and basically will not involve each other's private affairs.

At this stage, there will be some seemingly good chats between you and your sister, but this does not mean that your sister has a good impression on you. In essence, it is her response to maintain her image.

After all, you are friends. If you don't return or return coldly, you may think she is cold and arrogant. This is not the impression that my sister wants to leave on you, so my sister will still reply to you positively. In fact, it's like a popular saying on the Internet that "smiling at you is purely polite".

If you are satisfied with this situation, you will only go further and further on the road of friendship.

So how do you chat with your sister at this stage?

First of all, you should slowly change the content of the chat from "I have something to talk about, and I will come to you about my friends and everyone" to "talk about my own affairs", that is, share your life status with each other. To achieve this state, we must do these things well:

1. enrich your life. Including work, study, travel, fitness, parties, etc. Only when your life is rich can you share it with your sister.

2. Make your own statement. Life is rich, but also let my sister know that exhibition can not only let my sister know about you, but also make her want to know about you. For details, please refer to the previous article-"Is the girl's WeChat reply slow? 5 tips for getting her to call you back in a few seconds.

3. Interact well in the circle of friends. If your sister is interested in your life, you should respond positively, have a good interaction with your sister, and then choose WeChat for private chat at the right time.

Secondly, control the frequency, turn it off when it's good, and turn it off when it's good. You can't stop chatting. For example, you can say:

"Let's talk about it next time. It's a little late. I have to stay in good shape at work tomorrow."

"Forget it, I'm going ... I'll talk to you later."

Third, the ambiguous stage

At this stage, my sister has taken some interest in you. But you still take the initiative to find her more, although she will take the initiative to find you, but less. Usually at this stage, your chat will make both parties feel comfortable and have a good chat.

Why do girls seldom take the initiative to find you in the ambiguous stage?

At this stage, you can perceive that she has a crush on you. After all, every chat is very happy, so your heart hopes that your sister can often take the initiative to chat with you, so that you can better verify whether she has a good impression on you.

However, girls are still very passive, so you often wonder if girls are really interested in you.

As a result, the less your sister looks for you, the more you can't help looking for her, and you will be swayed by considerations of gain and loss.

In fact, girls just want to be reserved, especially when they like someone, and they don't want the other person to see them, so even if they want to chat with you, they will hold back and take the initiative, preferring to wait for you to take the initiative to find her.

Then how can I get my sister to let go of this reserve and take the initiative to chat with you?

Actually, it's not difficult. Just give your sister an excuse to take the initiative to find you. Because it has reached the ambiguous stage, it's not that my sister doesn't want to find you, but she doesn't want to be too active.

In the process of chatting, you can bury suspense for your sister and attract girls.

The ambiguous stage is such a direct request, and my sister will not refuse. The next day, my sister sent me good morning. Isn't that taking the initiative to chat with you? If you send it two days later, my sister will habitually send it to you every day.

Fourth, the stage of lovers.

This stage is relatively more complicated. Sometimes there is less contact, and she thinks you don't care about her. But with more contact, she will think you are very annoying and won't give her any space.

Why is this happening?

First of all, women are inherently insecure. The reason why you can be together is largely because you meet her psychological needs, that is, make her feel safe. Once you have less contact with her, she will not feel this sense of security, and naturally feel that you don't care about her, which will cause instability to your feelings.

Secondly, the love of beauty is a woman's nature. Women spend most of their lives thinking about how to make themselves more beautiful, so they need to spend a lot of time shopping, shopping on Taobao and communicating with their girlfriends. If you don't even give her these basic time and always want her to accompany you, she will find you very annoying.

Therefore, in the stage of lovers, you should grasp the degree and frequency of contact.

How to grasp the specific degree, because sisters have different personalities, so I can only give you some suggestions:

1. When your girlfriend asks for you, unless you really can't spare the time to reply, you must reply in time;

2. Contact your girlfriend in time when she is in a bad mood. She needs your comfort.

You tell her that she has something to do, so let her be busy first, and you won't miss it for a while;

Never say good night to her when you haven't replied to her other news, whether intentionally or unintentionally;

You don't have to contact her every day, but at least let her know what you are doing;

6. If your girlfriend is angry, you should contact her in time and coax her;

7. When she is shopping with her best friend, there is no need to pester her to chat;

8. There is no need to chat with her like three meals a day unless she asks;

It's really a stage for lovers. What you should consider more is how to maintain this relationship, how to make it last, and how to make her feel that you understand and care about her.