How to say the first sentence of breaking up and getting back together, and how to edit the first message?

Everyone must remember that the first chat after breaking up should weaken your purpose, blur your intention, don't make trouble, and don't talk nonsense with your ex.

There are three situations:

1. We can be friends now.

The so-called can be friends now, that is to say, the current state of the two sides is not the time when they were very excited when they broke up just now. The two sides are relatively calm and emotionally stable.

Two people have been able to communicate, but their attitudes towards each other are relatively cold.

In this case, don't lower your posture and lick each other. Besides, don't talk to him about some boring topics. Your seven aunts and eight aunts all came out to chat. In fact, the other party has already replied to you: "It's none of my business!"

This bland chat will alienate the other person and even arouse his defense against you.

After all, you have broken up, and the frequency of his chatting with you, including his world, no longer intersects with you.

If you don't talk to him often, he will reflect that you have evaporated from his life and realize that he has lost you. At this time, he is likely to miss your kindness.

But if you have nothing to do, talk to the other person and expose all your status to him, your mystery will disappear. The other party has been adapting to this state, and he is also looking for new goals.

Therefore, in this case, you can choose the following two initial modes to reconnect.

Choose 1: Let nature take its course and associate it with common memories.

You can connect through some common memories, saying that these memories remind you of each other. But please remember this message and stay relaxed and happy. And it's best to add a little humor to make the other person feel that you're not here to find fault or get back together.

It is worth noting that the more natural this memory is, the better.

For example, "I happened to pass by Hubin Street today and saw the restaurant we often go to. Their facade has been renovated. I saw the sign at the door saying the new single crispy chicken. Have you been there again? "

In addition to associative memory, you can also associate things that happened to each other recently.

For example: "Recently, an old classmate of mine was ill in hospital. It is said that he has entered the Icu. He is also a doctor. You are really tired when you are a doctor. You must be careful, don't be too tired and protect your body and stomach. Does it often hurt? "

Option 2: Ask for advice

The way to ask for advice must be used with caution. After all, when you ask for help, you belittle yourself. Therefore, the questions you want to ask must be valuable and good at.

For example: "Recently, my aunt's children have to volunteer for the college entrance examination. The child is very good at studying law. You study law. Can you tell me about the application requirements and employment situation? "

When the other person responds to you, you can say, "Thank you! I'll ask you if you have any questions in the future. Thank you very much. I can invite you to dinner another day. "

When you ask your ex questions, you must be true, and don't let the other person think that you did it on purpose.

There are many ways to compound, so I won't list them here. Methods and strategies are reference for thinking, so don't copy them mechanically.

Here, I want to remind everyone that we should constantly infiltrate in the chat. My chat with you is casual. I really don't want to chat with you, but I need your help.

And explain your motives appropriately. I'm not here to get back together with you, which can greatly reduce each other's defense.

In this way, even if the other person doesn't want to talk to you, he will reply to you. Because if I don't come back to you, I'll look narrow-minded

After a long separation, remember this secret: you don't even admit that you want to get back together, throw a pot if necessary: you think too much.

2. The relationship between the two sides is in a vague and repeated state.

This situation is actually in the middle. The ex's attitude is very complicated and vague, and he misses you occasionally, which is why he will contact you after drinking in the middle of the night.

But at the same time, unhappiness still exists. He still has a shadow on you. He wants to have an intersection with you, but he is afraid of having an intersection with you.

action & gt； So at this time, the predecessor will have two attitudes-tend to get back together, or tend to continue to break up.

In this case, we should abide by such tactics: the enemy will not move, I will not move, and I will not show the cards you want to talk about, but first test whether the other party is willing to contact you.

So, you can try to find an objective reason to contact, there are several better ways:

(1) Emotional bond method-pets you have together, concerts you agreed to attend, etc.

(2) How to return things to their original owners-do I still have something/I just found this after cleaning, do you want to wait?

(3) Simple ways to help-I sent the courier by mistake, or I was on a business trip recently, but I have a very important courier. Should I send it to you first?

(4) beat about the bush-find a middleman and pretend to mention you casually in front of him to test his attitude.

3. Resolutely disagree with getting back together

My ex still hates you. In his impression, you are still the one with only shortcomings. He has too many emotions to vent.

But at the same time, now you are in a very uncomfortable stage, and you have not accepted the fact of breaking up, so you will often mention this matter now, trying to convince your predecessor with truth+oath+truth.

Your actions will make him more and more angry, and finally make the other party think that you are unreasonable, so the other party gives up communication.

The tactic in this case is that the enemy moves and I don't move. You have to let the other person speak first. Besides, most of your calls now should be emotional. The more the predecessor said, the more information he revealed.

If you do a lot of wrong actions before and after breaking up, it is definitely not advisable for you to pretend to be an innocent person and send messages to each other in the above way to restore contact.

At this time, the "Elephant in the Room" speech comes in handy.

The "Elephant in the Room" speech consists of three parts:

1. Apologize for breaking up.

2. Express the fact that you accept the breakup.

3. Tell them how you changed.

Once you send the speech "Elephant in the Room", you must disconnect for at least 1-2 weeks before another speech.

Finally, I want to say, never try to save him by persuasion or reason, or influence him subtly.