A woman with "girlfriend wisdom" needs to have nine characteristics.

A woman with "girlfriend wisdom" needs to have nine characteristics.

A woman's wisdom is more important than independence.

1. Smart women have the wisdom to make men relax.

Men's sense of smell is extremely sensitive, and they can smell "girlfriend wisdom" in the first second. If you look at these girls again, you will find that they are very kind, docile, smiling, willing to refuse and welcome, unwilling to gossip, unwilling to complain, unwilling to compete, emotionally stable, calm, not too cheerful but not aggressive. For men, such women make them feel particularly relaxed and have a natural sense of closeness, so many men will put such women in the column of "long-term mate selection goals". In fact, in daily life, we can make others feel like spring breeze by slowing down our words and actions, giving kindness and praise, and showing tolerance and easygoing. These are all advanced "girlfriend wisdom".

Second, smart women have the wisdom to value and cherish their families.

Whether to put family/man first is a question of values. In the past, women received such education from childhood, naturally putting family first. However, in today's era of diversified values, both men and women attach importance to family spontaneously, which is often the mentality after middle age. You don't like a man who is careless about his family/women, so you should understand why men don't accept women who don't care about their family and their feelings. It doesn't mean that women have to sacrifice others for their families, and it doesn't mean that you love men unconditionally. Instead, when there is a contradiction, let the other party see your efforts and compromises for your family and him.

Third, smart women will have the wisdom to understand men's psychology, and get twice the result with half the effort.

When men and women get along, if they can't take care of each other's feelings, the final result must be mutual loss. If you don't take a man seriously, it means that he will in turn destroy your happiness. Smart women might as well try to do:

1, save face for him, don't quarrel in public, don't ridicule his views.

In front of his parents and relatives, he is virtuous, diligent and intelligent.

3. Praise him often, learn from others' praise and express your feelings.

I am especially lucky.

Give generous help to his family when they need help.

5, don't complain, don't nag, let him feel that you are satisfied with life and happy with him.

6. Cook him a bowl of hot porridge or noodles when he comes home from work overtime. 7. Don't compare other men's strengths with his weaknesses, and don't say enviously what other men's husbands have done.

8. Be decent and generous with his friends, don't play with people in his social circle, and don't reveal your privacy to his friends.

4. Smart women give men support in adversity, which is long-heard wisdom.

Although it is no longer the moral requirement of society for women, there is no spirit of sharing weal and woe at all, and the opportunity to cultivate strong feelings is completely lost. Therefore, if a smart woman chooses a man, she should follow him instead of being half-hearted. No matter what he does, as long as he is good to you, it is worth your sincere maintenance of this relationship, no regrets. Whether you win feelings or win word of mouth, you are the ultimate beneficiary.

A smart woman has the wisdom to manage the family atmosphere.

As a smart woman, it is ok to cook one or two special dishes two or three times a week. Usually, study more food strategies, develop affordable and delicious restaurants, or practice 10 minutes to put two or three delicious side dishes on the table, turn off the lights, and have a candlelight fried rice with ham and eggs dinner. This kind of atmosphere is more addictive to men. You don't have to do housework, but you should know how to find high-quality and affordable hourly workers; You don't have to live with his parents, but you should always be caring and attentive; You can be busy with your work and not pick up your children, but you should invite the whole family on weekends ... In short, keeping the family in good order can make men really cherish it.

6. Smart women have the wisdom to understand psychological warfare.

A smart woman will never maintain her relationship by relaxing. A woman with a girlfriend's wisdom, even in an advantageous position, will not be arrogant, but give a man face, buy and sell some flaws, make him feel indispensable, and lay a good emotional foundation; If you are in a weak position, you will not be willing to be suppressed, but on the one hand, you will cherish this relationship and do your duty, on the other hand, you will strictly abide by your bottom line and have the right to speak in some aspects of your family. Smart women know the truth of "bowing in front of their own men" and don't fight. Maintaining this delicate balance in the relationship between two people is an important factor to maintain the quality of feelings.

Seven, smart women have the wisdom to understand the role of women.

Men and women have their own advantages and disadvantages, and the family division of labor is also different. When both parties have to go to work, men can take on more external responsibilities, while women take on more internal affairs. This is a model of "peace" and "mutual benefit and win-win". You want me to go to work every day, why do you want me to do housework? Is the lack of girlfriend wisdom. Housework is a woman's business. No matter whether she does it herself or asks someone to do it, a smart woman will never give up her position. If your man likes doing housework very much, you will not be at ease if you don't let him do it, and you can be happy at leisure.

Eight, smart women have the wisdom of not haggling over every ounce.

When you are dissatisfied with some small things, don't rush out, count silently in your mind, or go to another room to calm yourself down and think about whether to speak; When you find an ambiguous message on his mobile phone, you might as well ask him generously: "Hey, I accidentally saw your message just now. Which sister is this? " You are a famous person, don't hurt anyone! "Give him a warning in a careless way.

A smart woman has the wisdom and psychological dependence from family background.

As an adult, to form your own family, everyone should psychologically break away from the dependence on the family of origin. At least on the surface, they should treat their parents equally, and even on the surface, they are more oriented to each other's families. This will make the relationship between the two sides harmonious and resolve family conflicts.