How to talk to the girl I saw in the library, how to send a text message after I got the number, and how to ask an interesting question to make her remember me.

Rule 1: Don't send text messages and avoid making phone calls.

Before you send a message to a woman, you should ask yourself what you want to achieve by doing so. Most of the questions I get from men about SMS are similar to the following:

"One day I met a girl and we had a good chat. My sister and I have made gratifying progress. TD, I got the number. When should I text her and what should I send? "

My answer is: "Don't text her. Call her. "

In my opinion, many men, especially those who have just come into contact with social art, think that texting to contact women is a safer way than calling. This is completely understandable, but it is totally unacceptable. In fact, consider the following. If you just met a woman and wrote down her number, then your next goal is to meet her for the second time. Remember, you are unlikely to meet her by SMS, but build more verbal comfort by phone.

Besides, if you text only because you are afraid to communicate with her, how can you expect to feel comfortable when you communicate with her face to face? When I arranged a second date with a woman (the next day), I only texted her in three possible situations:

1. She sent me a message, so I have to reply.

I called her, but she didn't answer. Instead of leaving a voicemail, I send a short message, which makes me less thirsty and usually gets a reply faster than sending a voicemail.

The implicit purpose of my texting is to communicate with her by phone. In this case, I will tease each other through short messages, but after a few short messages, I will call her.

Rule 2: When you send a text message, bring value. Don't ask for value.

When I send a text message first, I don't even ask an open-ended question aimed at asking about value. For example, "How have you been?" Or "What are you going to do tonight?" In my opinion, these short messages make you hungry, and at the same time, they can't cause any emotional reaction from women. When I send text messages, my goal is to arouse women's emotions and show my interesting personality. An example of these messages is "I saw a man with a wallet, which reminds me of you." Or "Hey, Benben! I bet your stupid index today must be 100%. " When used as an initial short message, real cold jokes have a good effect in laughing and expressing humor. Recently, an ultimate SMS guide for picking up girls in loveyuanmengla tested this concept on the spot and gave some good examples. What I offer is:

SMS 1: What's the name of a fish without eyes? (Waiting for her reply)

Sms 2: f ssshhh

(Note: The letter I in the English word fish has the same pronunciation as eye. )

Besides, if you send a message to a woman, you can try to use what you said to her before and use "a hybrid" from it. Callback is a humorous technique, which means that after a period of time, you bring up the jokes you said before. For example, if you used to give a woman a nickname when texting her, such as "little finger" or "salty pig hand", you can use these nicknames again in your text messages.

Rule 3: Avoid sending too many short messages!

I know she may be the only one in your heart at the moment, but let's keep silent about it, or you will scare her. So send a short message and send it to her after getting her reply. If she stops texting you, you usually need to wait until the next day to try to contact her.

Meanwhile, after receiving her message, I will wait a few minutes before replying. The reason why I do this is that I don't want to give her the impression that the only thing in my life is waiting for a new friend of the opposite sex to send me a text message. Remember, "not hungry" always equals "not needed always equals sexy", because it conveys a message that there must be other dating options in your life.

Rule 4: Use SMS to generate familiarity.

This is a higher skill, but it is also very helpful. I found that the best skill in using SMS is to use SMS in the scene. After I met a woman and received the number, I immediately sent her a short message, while I was still standing next to her. This situation is humorous in itself, especially if you send her an interesting message. Try SMS: "You have my number now, but you can only call me once a day" or "Who is the handsome guy standing next to you?"

After texting her, if she saves your number, you can use it as an explicit interest indicator (ioi). More importantly, when you call her later, your number will pop up and you will look familiar with her.

A woman is always more willing to answer the phone with the number she knows.