What if children reject us and don't want to talk to us? How should their son be educated during the rebellious period?

After children enter adolescence, they often feel depressed and are in an "annoying" state because of their immature psychological development. Children in this period: good face, strong self-esteem, easily influenced by peers, doing things that challenge their parents' authority, is just a declaration of independence for them. During this period, as parents, if they want to force their children to obey through high-level "authority", then nine times out of ten they will enhance their rebellious psychology. So, how should we educate our son in the rebellious period?

First of all, care but not interfere. For example, when a child goes to a friend's house to play at night, parents can say, "It's getting dark, don't go to dangerous places, ok?" Otherwise my mother will be worried. " Do you want to go to college? You must come back at nine o'clock! This makes children feel that their freedom and privacy have been disturbed, and naturally they will become more rebellious.

Secondly, reduce the attitude of parents. Teenagers already have independent personalities and thoughts. They should not be treated as children, let alone talked to them in a high-profile way. As a father said, "One day, I suddenly found that my son could look at me. Looking at his firm eyes, I feel that I can no longer force him with an authoritative role. " Parents should try to understand their children's thoughts from their children's perspective and discuss the best parent-child relationship with them.

Third, pay attention to the evaluation of children. Adolescent children are psychologically fragile and care about others' opinions and evaluations of themselves. If parents give too many negative comments, children may form bad self-evaluation and gradually lose self-confidence. Therefore, encouragement should be the main focus, and their evaluation should be objective and constructive to help them develop their self-esteem and sense of self-worth.

Finally, respect children. Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, let alone compare their children's weaknesses with other children's strengths. When in contact with children, parents should try to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to their parents. Empathy. Parents are also born in the rebellious period of youth, but the children are not obvious. Therefore, in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, you may wish to think about it and think about why your children are like this. With * * * Ming, you will understand children and find the crux of the problem.