Reuniting after a breakup, how to ask your ex out to meet

Many times, after two people break up, they will think about getting back together with each other, but even if they regain contact, it is difficult to ask each other out to meet.

Let’s talk today. After breaking up, once you reunite with your ex, how can you make an appointment to meet him? First of all, it must be clear that although your ultimate goal is to ask the other party to make a date. However, if you tell the other person your thoughts directly, you should not leave the relationship in three words, but still want to make an appointment to meet the other party. For example, if you say to the other party: "We broke up a long time ago, and now we have a good chat, why don't we meet again and have a good chat?" If you say this, you can basically be sure that it will definitely end in failure in the end. of.

The reason is very simple. When you say something like this, the other party has only two choices, either accept or reject, which puts a lot of pressure on him. Moreover, if your invitation fails, it will also greatly affect your mood of wanting to get back together with the other person, and at the same time, it will also increase a lot of difficulty in the recovery process.

If you want to ask someone out, you cannot directly express your intention to meet them, so what should you do? First, we can adopt a roundabout strategy, and there are many ways to do this. For example, you can tentatively ask the other party: "I see that you are very busy on weekdays. Do you need to work overtime this weekend?" The other party may reply: "Oh, yes, you are quite busy recently, but you don't need to work overtime on weekends." "In this case, you will definitely get the message that the other party is currently available. Then, you can go on to ask: "Have you had any appointments recently?" Or do you have any plans for Saturday and Sunday? In this case, if the other party tells you the itinerary and you make other invitations or requests, the other party will not have sufficient reasons to reject you.

On the contrary, if you directly express your inner thoughts, you are asking them out. Then, the other party can completely fabricate a reason or excuse to stall you. If you go a roundabout way, first ask about the other person's schedule and find out if they are currently dating. After asking these questions clearly, you can invite the other person to watch a movie together, or have something to eat together, etc. If it is such a method of operation, it will be far better than directly inviting the other party to meet and chat.

In addition, there is a more effective way. When you invite the other party to meet you, you have to give the other party a choice, rather than asking the other party to agree to you or not to agree to you. For example, if you want to go to the movies with the other person, if you make a request like this: "Do you think it would be okay for the two of us to go to the movies together on the weekend?" Then the other person has only two choices: go or not. However, if you give the other party a choice instead of giving the other party affirmation or denial, the effect will be much better. For another example, you say to the other party: "Today is the weekend, I happen to be free, and you are also free. Do you want to watch "Spider-Man" or the Hulk?" Then, the two options you give the other party are actually After digging a hole, no matter which one the other party chooses, it will be beneficial to you, because in the end your goal is achieved.

But you have to know, what is the purpose of inviting the other party to meet you? Your ultimate need is recovery, not a simple meeting, so no matter what kind of interludes occur in the middle, it is not important. In the end, recovery is important when you achieve your ultimate goal. Especially after you have experienced a breakup or a brief reconnection, the relationship between the two people is actually very fragile. Just like many couples will have a fight for two days and three days before and after the breakup. Noisy state. Therefore, do not actively provoke conflicts at this time, as long as the other party agrees to your date invitation, even if the other party has some additional conditions. If you can accept it, accept it, no big deal.

If you want the other party to meet you on the weekend, you must confirm the itinerary with the other party two to three days in advance. In this case, ensure that the other party will not change their mind at the last moment. In addition, confirm again the day before the date to prevent the other party from changing his mind. As long as you can meet smoothly, it will be a good start for your recovery.

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