How to chat with your ex on WeChat?

Don't put too much emphasis on love. Let the other person know your current situation through your circle of friends. After adding WeChat again, the other party will generally look at your circle of friends and understand your current situation. If you have been sending some negative energy in your circle of friends after breaking up, or if you continue to send out negative energy emotions, or even maintain your previous shortcomings, the other party's first reaction will be that you are still the same. Therefore, if you want to save each other, you must do a good job in building a circle of friends, correct your mentality, understand the root causes of breaking up, correct your own shortcomings, and appear in front of each other with a new side. Enrich your life and build more similarities. In the process of redemption, when the other party accepts your Friend Request on WeChat, many people will get excited, want to talk to each other more, and even send messages to each other constantly, and the demand will soar. Some people have no more topics after chatting with each other, and the chat atmosphere is very embarrassing. So if you want to attract each other's goodwill, while enriching your life, you should establish more * * * same sex, send out high-quality photos in the circle of friends to attract each other's attention, and talk about some topics in the circle of friends at the same time, which will help your chat atmosphere to be more harmonious and mobilize the * * * of both sides. Don't always take the initiative to confess that some friends are flustered when they break up with their lovers: I can't live without him, and I want him to know how much I love him. "When you have such an idea in your heart, I believe that there will be more words in your information about saving your boyfriend, that is, how much you love him and how much you can't bear him. But, is this useful? Don't make any changes or take any measures to solve the problems between you. On the contrary, keep telling each other, so exposing your SOD will only alienate your relationship. Don't always emphasize that you are wrong. Some friends, in order to save their boyfriends, tell their mistakes and how in the information. You know, apologizing won't solve anything. You are wrong, you realize it, but have you changed it? So, stop apologizing. What you have to do is not only let the other person see your apology, but let your boyfriend know that you know how to cherish this relationship. Respect your love, so you know how to correct your mistakes. Because only by letting the other person see your change and let him feel your sincerity to your feelings can you completely save your feelings. How to chat with your ex on wechat 2. Preparation stage-adjust your mentality. If the time is right, don't pester me to send the first WeChat. For example, you just broke up, but the other party didn't blacken all your contact information. If your relationship is very stiff, and the other party has blacked out all your contact information, then whatever you do at this time will have no redeeming effect and will only deepen the other party's dislike for you. Therefore, the situation written in this article only applies to the situation that we have a good relationship with our predecessors and still keep their contact information. In addition, everyone's emotional experience is different, and the reasons for breaking up are also various. Before you make a decision to save it, please think about what is the most fundamental reason for your separation, what is the problem and whether there is a solution. If it is a matter of principle, it cannot be solved. Even if it is recovered this time, the same problem may still appear in the future. Please pay special attention to this. Adjust your mentality and put yourself in a correct position. After breaking up, please adjust your mentality in time and define your relationship as "ordinary friends". This is very important. Some people don't put their positions right in time after breaking up, and always make some inappropriate remarks in the other party's circle of friends. For example, the other party shared a party, and he commented, "Where are you now? Don't drink. This sentence is a normal comment for lovers, but for "ordinary friends", some of them are too close and suspected of "crossing the border", which may lead to the other party's action of blocking you and increasing the difficulty of recovery. Remedy has always been a "scheming" problem. You should think more and don't let your emotions lead you by the nose. Correcting the position is conducive to preventing yourself from doing the above-mentioned cross-border things and leaving room for secondary attraction. Make good use of the circle of friends WeChat has a good function, that is, the circle of friends. In the case of just breaking up, the other party who rashly sends WeChat may ignore it. At this time, you can try to leave a new impression on each other with your circle of friends, and pay attention to the slightly positive content, such as an inspirational message or a small sharing on a weekend trip. Don't let the other person feel that you are in a self-pity situation, because people will always unconsciously stay away from negative energy. Second, chat promotion-from strangeness to familiarity is a process of secondary attraction, so there are still many skills to grasp in this WeChat chat, and there are also many nodes that need you to play some small "hearts". The overall rhythm can be like this: start with a relaxed topic-learn to listen to each other's troubles-share each other's lives! 1, learn to throw questions and guide the other party to answer WeChat to save. The choice of topic is very important. If you don't have anything suitable to ask, and there is no topic related to the other party, then you would rather not move, send nothing, and don't send information that makes it more difficult to save. If the other party has dabbled in or experienced in a certain party, girls can send messages for help. Or you can choose a topic that the other person is interested in or relaxed. In the process of chatting, don't talk to death, learn to "throw questions" and guide the other party to answer. For example: You (the first message): I plan to travel to Tibet recently, and I have found many strategies on the Internet, but my friends think the route arrangement is not reasonable. I remember that you have been to Tibet before. Can you help me see if this trip is reasonable? (To travel itinerary) Pay attention to asking a very specific question at this time, and don't be too general, otherwise the other party will easily have the idea that "it's a long story, it's better not to answer". He (the first reply): Not bad. Don't rush to add topics or questions when the other party's reply is obviously lacking in interest. Just end the chat with a thank you, which will show that you are not so attentive. For example: You (the second message): Well, ok, thank you ~ When the other party replies in detail, congratulations first, the other party is still interested in you. But be careful not to send unnecessary information when replying. For example, he (the first reply): He went to Tibet for the first time and suggested taking the Sichuan-Tibet line to enter Tibet. The facilities along the way are relatively complete and friendly to people who enter Tibet for the first time. You (second message): OK, I'll take the Sichuan-Tibet line. Thank you very much. In this way, the other party feels that it is unnecessary to continue to reply, and the topic is over. In fact, you can add questions or topics at this point. For example, you (the second message): Well, I'd better take the Sichuan-Tibet route. I am looking forward to going to Tibet for the first time. I am very nervous. By the way, what else should I pay attention to when I first enter Tibet? Chatting is a one-on-one process. Pay attention to speaking skills, learn to ask appropriate questions, and guide the other person to continue chatting with you. If you start the topic by asking the other person, remember to give the other person a feedback after the matter is handled. For example, when you ask someone a question in your study, you can say, "The method you taught me last time was really great. Recently, I began to feel like a beginner! " "If the other party gives you travel advice, you can take photos and send them to the other party when you arrive at the scenic spots mentioned by the other party during your trip, expressing your gratitude and so on. Timely and good feedback can bring satisfaction to the other party and further enhance your goodwill. 2. Learning to listen to each other's troubles and tell each other your own troubles can bring our relationship closer. After a period of communication and familiarity, you can try to guide the other party to tell their troubles. Be careful not to ask the other person directly, "Do you have any troubles?" Obviously, you can only get a "ok" answer. You can try to share your feelings about life, or some of your little troubles, and create a feeling of "* * * sharing secrets" for each other. In this way, the other party will try to communicate with you some of their feelings or troubles. It is emphasized here that your troubles are only a small part of your life. The main purpose is to guide you, and you don't need the other person to comfort you constantly. Therefore, the trouble you choose can't be that you want to get back together now but the other person doesn't, and it can't be that you are simply transmitting negative energy. For example, "the company has set up a new project and put me and a very irresponsible colleague in charge." This colleague is really annoying and the project is terrible. What does the boss think of setting up such a project! " You can say, "The company has set up a new project, and let me take charge of it with a colleague.". Although I am not optimistic about the prospect of the project, who made the project set up? Try to be optimistic first anyway? " It can't be hypocritical or trivial, such as "I really want to eat, but I'm losing weight recently, which is really annoying." Please also talk with my girlfriends/brothers. It can be said that some troubles are easy to cause * * *, for example, "I always feel that my attention is not very concentrated recently, and my mind is easily distracted when I am doing things or studying." I remember you always doing things efficiently. In this case, how would you adjust? "If there is an intersection at work, the other party can understand, and it can be said that there is trouble at work. 3. Sharing each other's life has gone through the first two stages. At this time, your communication has become more natural. At this time, you can try to do some "interesting little sharing" with him that seems irrelevant in life. For example, there is an unmanned convenience store under your office building, or you found a delicious restaurant, or you participated in a very good activity/competition today. At this stage, we should try our best to convey an optimistic, positive, rich and interesting life to each other. Three: Pay attention to these two taboos when chatting. 1. Don't say that breaking up is right or wrong. Some people really need to explain the reasons after breaking up. In the process of questioning, they have been entangled in the right and wrong of small things. Such extreme behavior will not only cause the other person's guilt, but will affect the other person's daily life. In fact, many times, breaking up is not because of one thing, but because of long-term accumulated contradictions. You have been focusing on one thing during the breakup, which will not only make the other party think that you are too young to be entrusted for life, but also make the other party feel disgusted with your entanglement and rationalize the idea of breaking up with you. There are also some moral kidnapping words that can't be said. This may be more common in men, but it does not mean that women will not appear. After many people break up, they either give each other a grand compound confession, but they don't care about each other's embarrassed expression; Or blindly pay, self-righteous and give the best to each other, but don't want the other party to like or dislike it. " I propose to you. What do you want me to do? ""I beg a girl so much, why don't you accompany me? " "How can you not look back after this ..." Sentences like this make people feel tired across the screen. 2. If the other party doesn't reply to WeChat in time, it's of course funny to send messages one after another without replying quickly, but there's no need to be too pessimistic. It doesn't really matter whether the other party replies to your message quickly or slowly. A quick reply may be that he cares about you, or that he just has time. The slow reply may be just because he is busy at work at the moment, or he doesn't want to talk for the time being. The content of the reply is more critical than the time of the reply. As long as your question has an answer, it is already a good interaction. Because if the other party doesn't reply for a while, don't keep sending messages to urge you, you can put it down and do something else. Quietly wait for the other party's reply. Finally, remember to maintain an optimistic and positive performance during the chat and spread more positive attitudes. At the same time, give the other person appropriate praise, such as "I think you are really amazing, you can find so many interesting places." If you travel, you will really feel full of gains. "Remember, praise must be sincere, don't say anything false. After mastering these skills, it is easy to give the other person a relaxed and happy feeling of chatting with you, so that the other person will slowly be attracted to you again.