How to recover after breaking up? The best time to recover

How to save the best time after breaking up?

When there are contradictions at present, we must not rush to solve them. Nothing you do in an emotional state is rational. During the break-up, there will be an emotional backtracking process. When you are not entangled, the other party will take the initiative to think of your good memories. Just find the emotional window of the other person accurately and then take the initiative to throw out the steps to save it. Secondly, if the other person is stubborn, the emotional concentration between you will also consume a lot. Then you must cooperate with the remolding of attraction, let the other person feel your progress or change first, mention your interest and curiosity first, and then you can guide the other person to recall your advantages.

Optimal recovery time

1. Fake breakup-Cold treatment time: 1-7 days 2. General breakup-cold treatment time: 7- 14 days 2. Moderate problem breakup-cold treatment time: 14-2 1 day 4. Serious problem breaking up-cold treatment time: 30 days+

How do you know which psychological stage the other person is in? Generally, there are four stages: rejection period, blank period, thinking period and nostalgia period.

1. Exclusion period-When you just break up, you must control your eagerness to contact each other. Because at this time, the other party is very resistant to receiving news about you again, and doesn't want the freedom just gained to be disturbed and destroyed by you. At this time, what is most needed is calmness and solitude. This period is hard for everyone. The one who wants to recover is deeply anxious and nostalgic, and the one who wants to break up just wants to be quiet and doesn't want to be disturbed. Many people died at this step, pressing hard until the other party blacked out and deleted. In this case, we should do the opposite and choose to reduce contact or disconnect. Give both sides a cooling-off period to prevent feelings from deteriorating again.

Correct operation method

First of all, you should meet each other's needs, such as telling him that you accept the fact of breaking up and stop harassing each other. This can reduce the vigilance of the other party, without fear of being forgotten by the other party or being replaced by a new lover. Under normal circumstances, within a week or two, the other party will not suddenly lose memory. Second, even if a new lover appears immediately, the image of your old lover has a place in the other person's heart. Be sure to adjust your mentality and don't scare people away before you start attacking, then it's really over.

Salvation is a psychological war and a game. Focus on the present and be yourself. If you really can't stand it, you can turn it into a driving force for fitness and go out for a run to vent. Give the other party enough space during the rejection period, and there will be no more conflict, entanglement and harassment. Then you are safe and your relationship is benign. You just need to wait until the other person comes out of the peak of negative emotions, and you have achieved a preliminary victory. Of course, if your relationship is already vicious, then the rejection period will be extended. You need to restrain yourself more, change and improve yourself, and wait for the next opportunity.

2. Blank period-a period without any emotional fluctuations, but it does not mean that the alert has been lifted. At this time, many people will mistakenly think that the other party has forgiven themselves and started harassing and seeking reconciliation, which will only bring the relationship back to the rejection period. At this stage, we must maintain a sense of alienation and can only test each other as ordinary friends. Remember, ordinary friends are not good friends, and we can't cross the line.

So how did you get in touch? Might as well ask for help. Starting from the field or interest that the other person is good at, such as the trend of the property market, you can ask the other person, "Hello, my parents/friends/relatives want to buy a house recently. Is there a recommended property? " If the other person replies to you, you can talk about it, of course, around the topic of buying a house. Remember to say "thank you for your recommendation, I will give it to him for reference, and invite you to dinner when you are free". The advantage is that it not only makes the other person feel that you are not entangled, but also makes vague invitations by the way.

Similarly, you can also send some holiday greetings, such as the Lantern Festival, and send a "Happy Lantern Festival". This kind of news similar to mass sending has a sense of existence.

Remember that you can contact at this stage, but you can't continue to call. Please note the following points:

1. Don't talk about emotional topics, you can't even scratch the ball.

2. Pretend to send holiday news in groups. It doesn't matter if the other party can't come back. Don't speculate on 100,000 reasons.

Don't send "good morning and good night" or anything like that. Do your own positioning. Will you send this to your ordinary friends?

4. Control the time of each contact, with a maximum of four round trips.

The contact interval should be controlled once every three or four days, not frequently. You should have your own life.

3. Thinking period-being able to reach this stage shows that you are only a little bit away from success, and you have all recovered your calmness and become rational! But it is precisely because the other person is more rational now that you still can't make mistakes, otherwise you will be labeled as "you are not suitable for being together". At this stage, the other party will generally reconsider whether you are suitable to be together and whether your love is correct, that is, the rationalization of the decision to break up.

If you are returned to the rejection period, the second rejection period is likely to take twice or more time. It stands to reason that my mentality at this stage should have been stable, and I can find an opportunity to have a simple shallow online communication with each other. Why is it shallow communication? Because at present, we can only talk about the progress from ordinary friends to old friends, so we can only talk about the recent situation and catch up with the past. Remember not to talk about the idea of breaking up and getting back together. The main purpose now is to take a walk and pave the way for the next invitation to meet. Therefore, we still try our best to show our positive changes and cooperate with the display of our social platform to let the other party continue to leave a good impression.

At this stage, the other person's emotions are easy to be capricious, and they are hot and cold to you. Please be sure to keep calm. The other person is just thinking about your relationship, because your sudden intimacy will make him entangled again. All you have to do is let nature take its course and keep the previous state. At this stage, as long as the other party doesn't refuse you, you are basically one step away from success.

Nostalgia saves time not because you are always right, but because you are wrong. Sometimes, as long as you take the wrong step, you can put the relationship back to its original shape, and you must not rush to save the rhythm. In the nostalgia period, the other party will remember your good memories before. When you observe that the other person posted some emotional pictures and words on social platforms, or listened to some emotional music, or actively interacted with you in a circle of friends, it means that you have entered a nostalgic period. At this time, you can make specific invitations, such as the good thank you last time. Try to choose the dating projects you used to do and go to familiar places, because these places and projects may remind you of good memories.

Of course, excluding what you do during sex, you must have your own bottom line. Who doesn't want to be looked down upon by each other? Even if the other person is unhappy, then refuse. Sometimes refusal is also an attitude. After you refuse the other person, the other person will think about you, why don't you follow yourself and whether there is anyone else around you. When the other person starts to care about you and start to be nervous about you, then you can take the initiative at this time.

5. False breakup/emotionalization

The best recovery time for men holding women: 1 to 7 days; The best recovery time for a woman to hold a man: 4 to 7 days.

Seeing many people here, I wonder why there is a difference in recovery time between men and women. Here comes the point. Knock on the blackboard and take notes. This mainly depends on the differences in thinking patterns between men and women. Men are naturally controlling things around them and don't like others to refute what they have decided. Besides, boys usually break up after rational thinking. At this time, you can only increase his disgust and prolong the recovery cycle. So don't try to make up for it within three days after he broke up, except for a small fight. If you want to coax, you have to coax, regardless of gender.

Then a fake breakup is a fake breakup after all. It's a play for you. I mainly want to express my emotional reaction and vent. I hope you can pay more attention to him/her, apologize for what you did wrong and make some promises for the future. The other person doesn't dislike you to the limit, just wants to tell you how you feel.

I hope you can meet some of your own conditions, but this is a way to pressure you to make changes and commitments. This recovery time needs to be controlled within one week. It is best for men and women to recover on the day of breaking up. After all, girls' emotions come and go quickly. To a large extent, girls just hope that you can take a soft suit, show your attention and give yourself a sense of security. During this period, if one party voluntarily admits failure first, then the other party will realize its mistake and can naturally make it right. Taboo: you can only cater to it properly, but you can't kneel down. Without bottom line and principle, you will make the other party feel that you are cheap and unworthy of being together again.