Is it true that women who like to chat with friends of the opposite sex are bad women who betray their husbands?

My first feeling after reading it is: he is reluctant to leave you. The second feeling is that he doesn't know what marriage is. First of all, it is necessary to tell you responsibly that I am 20 years old and a junior, female, so that you may consider that I may be a little naive and extreme when referring to my answer.

You said you loved him very much and treated him well. I think this may be the external motivation of his behavior. A male teacher once said: Men are born cheap, and the better a woman is to her, the less he treats her like a human being. It's a bit tacky, but I think it makes sense. If he has another woman outside, the first point is that he has the energy to have sex with others only if he is at ease with you. He will be very moved at first to see your loyalty and love for him, but after a long time, he takes it for granted. Since he doesn't care about you (for fear that you are having an affair), he has the energy to do other things in his spare time. Of course, I'm not saying that you shouldn't be so kind to him, I'm analyzing the reasons.

The most essential reason still lies in himself. Don't blame me for saying that he is not good. I don't think his sense of responsibility is enough. Since he cares so much about your marriage, it shows that he still designated you as his marriage partner, but he did so externally and didn't know enough inside. It is not enough to get married with a partner, but also to consider the responsibility to each other in the next few decades. If he can solve all those ambiguous things before you get married, at least he can afford to be a man. But judging from his current behavior, I don't think it's necessary to guess his relationship with those women. It's obviously an emotional entanglement. I don't know if he is not mature enough to play games, but this can't be an excuse. He is hurting you!

I don't think I have a perfect solution. After the self-righteous analysis, I'd better talk about my suggestion. I am a radical person and can't stand betrayal at all, but I still want to tell you that forgiving each other is also a happy opportunity. You must hold back, impulsiveness will only lead to bad things. I don't think you communicate enough. When you repeatedly ask him for short messages, his attitude towards you is negative and evasive. Since he is so passive, you should take the initiative completely! Find a quiet night (it will make people relax) and have a good talk with him. You can't give up halfway when you mention it. If you want to say it, make it clear at once! First, ask him why this woman repeatedly involves emotional problems in short messages. Naturally, he won't admit it. You can go on to say: I don't want to talk about the past, but why did this happen again? What do you want? How many times do you think I can forgive you? If he refuses to admit it, I suggest you provoke him. Ask him if he can be a man! You ask him what he thinks marriage is? Could it be a joke? Wait a minute. Last resort, break up. I know you don't want to, but you should let him deeply feel your anger and determination to break up. To tell the truth, at this time, even if he kneels down and says it will never happen again, you should be careful in the future. He may not be able to do it.

Feelings have reached this depth. Is it sad to listen to me again? Women are really naive sometimes. My friend said that only women who are desperate for men can be invincible. However, as long as love exists, we can only find ways to solve it, not how to change men. Whether I can help you solve the problem or not, the most important thing is to hope you are happy!