The more reliable people are, the more they like to say these five words, which is worth making friends with.

talk about character. A person's character is not good, when he speaks, he must actively safeguard his own interests, and the performance of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages is obvious; A person's character is very good, he will take the overall situation into account when he speaks, he will consider many aspects, and he hopes that others will get better.

In fact, those unpleasant words are often the truth, and those "selected" words, which sound pleasant, will actually hurt you. Especially those who are glib, say some hypocritical words, which make you feel very happy, but for a long time, you are in the "sugar-coated cannonball".

The more reliable people are, the more they like to say these five words, which is worth making friends with. With such a person, your life will become sunny, and you will be grateful to him later.

1

If it is unpleasant, I like to point out your shortcomings and make some pertinent suggestions.

our ancestors told us, "A good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action." Those ugly words are often words that promote your progress; Those hardships in life are actually helping you grow up and are wealth on the road of life.

my colleague Li Zhen made a data sheet yesterday. Lizhen promised to show the data sheet to her boss. Colleague Lao Liao said, "Lizhen, this data sheet of yours is really not beautiful. If you don't read it carefully, you still can't understand it."

lizhen said, "Lao Liao, I didn't offend you, did I?"

Actually, Li Zhen didn't know that Lao Liao had been in the company for seven or eight years, during which he changed many jobs, and he knew the situation of the company like the back of his hand. His suggestion was very pertinent. However, Li Zhen thinks that Lao Liao can't hide her kindness.

Many people are used to listening to hypocritical words, but they can't listen to some unpleasant words, especially those who have been in leadership positions for a long time. Most people around them like to say flattering words. If you say something "different" to him, he will think that you are a person who is talking nonsense and singing the opposite. Really smart people like others to make suggestions, point out shortcomings, and take some unpleasant words as words to spur their growth.

2

I like to say "I can't help you, there's really nothing I can do" if I refuse you.

Some people say, "Being rejected is a compulsory course in life."

Everyone should be prepared to be rejected. Don't think that all people will actively help you. In this society, except for your parents, few people really hope that you will get better. At the same time, you should understand that the person who refuses you is actually telling the truth and is worthy of communication!

once, I went to Guangzhou on business. In high-speed railway station, I was carrying my luggage, and my hands felt sore. There was a young man beside me, and I quickly asked him for help: "Young man, can you help me with my luggage?"

The young man said, "Sorry, I can't help you. I'm waiting for someone."

at that time, I thought, nowadays, young people are becoming more and more impersonal, and people are becoming strangers. After that, I seriously thought that if the person he was waiting for didn't connect in time because he helped with the luggage, then he would get into trouble.

a person, knowing that "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages" is instinct, can't think that he is selfish. He turned you down because you didn't deserve help, or his ability was limited and he couldn't really help you. Those who casually promise to help may be deceiving you and perfunctory, and he will not keep his promise.

3

If I remind you, I will remind you of some bad results beforehand.

"To err is human?" Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. If you make mistakes, people around you are still supporting you, defending you, or helping you cover up the truth, then you will be harmed by such people.

A thief stole someone else's purse on the bus. People around him not only didn't stop him, but someone covered for him. In the future, this thief will become an "unscrupulous" thief, which will lead to jail and ruin his life.

When a child has done something bad, his parents not only fail to criticize and educate him, but feel that his child is still young and ignorant and needs protection. Parents' doting on their children makes them more and more arrogant, and when they grow up, they become giant babies.

If someone reminds you of a mistake, it is helping you. If someone "scolds you", it is also helping you. In a song, there are some lyrics like this: "A man is full of ambition in one breath, thanks to his big brother for slapping me at the beginning, I know what is strong in the wind and rain."

The person who reminds you, please cherish the fate and associate with him more. With his help, you will become a good person.

4

If we trust each other, his words will be as good as his word.

reliable people say reliable words. When people communicate with each other, they lose their trust and all their feelings. Relatives and friends, couples, classmates and colleagues, as long as they don't trust each other, don't want to associate, and you will feel disappointed.

If someone around you can keep his word, cherish it desperately. For example, if you start a business in a big city, but you have no money, ask someone to borrow money. One of your friends promised to lend you 1, yuan, but it will be a few days before he gives it to you. You are dubious, because many people hesitate to say a few words, but later they don't count. When you arrive in a big city, you suddenly receive a text message. Your Carido has paid 1, yuan, and your friend's promise has been fulfilled.

being trusted is a happy thing. Therefore, if you meet someone who keeps his promise, be nice to him. You should also insist on trusting each other and don't take others' help for granted.

5

"Body language", he is very silent, but he will tell you some "words" with actions.

Some people are not good at expressing their views, and even very silent. If you meet such a person, don't think that he is unworthy of association. You should observe his actions and look at his expression.

For example, when you are depressed, he gives you an encouraging look and makes a gesture of cheering. When you make a mistake, he shakes his head to show disappointment; When you succeed, he smiles and wishes you well.

Some people, when you are down and out in life, give you a hug, say "Come on" to you, or send you a WeChat greeting to help you find a job. Such people are all people who really treat you well. Although he didn't chat with you face to face, he has proved that he cares about you and that he is a reliable person.

Everyone should learn to rely on themselves, but people should learn to be with reliable people when they are mixed up in the society. "Everyone gathers firewood, the flame is high", and Qi Xin works together to do great things.

friends don't care about quantity, but quality. To be a man, you should have a clear distinction between grievances and grievances. When you meet someone who is hypocritical, you should stay away from him and never take it seriously. When you meet sincere people and hear sincere words, you will often come and go and be honest with each other.

author: coarse food in cloth.

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