How many days will you have to wait before you get disconnected? How long did you persist in breaking up after breaking up?

Not contacting your ex may be the hardest thing you have ever done.

The first day of breaking up: you are depressed and decide to break up with your ex.

The day after the breakup: my predecessor didn't send any news. You decided to unplug it, but it didn't work.

The third day of breaking up: you check your mobile phone at six in the morning, and there is no information. At night 1 1: 59, I entered the circle of friends without any information or dynamic updates, so you

Day 4: You finally got in touch. I waited for hours, but you didn't reply. After waiting for hours, you still didn't reply. When you receive a reply at 1 1: 38 in the evening, there are only a few cold words in the reply, just like a few sharp knives stuck in your heart.

Waiting for a few days to break up brought another heartbreak and torture.

I know how bad this is.

When you wake up in the morning, the pain hits you like a tsunami. What you want to do is send a message to your ex and let it all go.

But you know you can't. This will only make things worse.

The result is that you feel confused, scared and don't understand why.

I know, I've been there.

But you are not helpless.

You can make it. I'll teach you how to get through it.

0 1. Why bother to contact? You must admit that you are suffering from some form of addiction. So the concept of not contacting after breaking up is very similar to abstinence.

Avoid doing things that make you addicted.

In other words, stay as far away from your predecessor as possible.

You need time to heal and leave your ex.

I believe you have met with difficulties in this matter, because it is really difficult.

02. "No contact, it's killing me."

Sometimes, you miss your ex so much that it hurts you. It's easy to pick up the phone, text or make a phone call, isn't it?

But can it also relieve your pain or help you recover?

I won't.

Trust me, it won't.

Actually, it's just the opposite.

Let me tell you something:

In the long run, anything your ex says to you on the phone or in a text message (or in private) will not relieve your pain.

They will only make things worse.

You don't want to know what they are doing.

Besides, your words and deeds will not impress them or make them like you.

This is an unacceptable fact.

03. How to break off diplomatic relations?

Again, "disconnected" means that you have no contact with your ex at all, whether by phone, social media, email or text message.

This means no friends to follow, no phone harassment, and no parking/driving in front of their house.

You can try for 60 days.

But when you are really having a hard time, when you can't bear to think about your ex, when you pick up the phone and prepare to make a phone call, what will you do?

"disconnect" execution process

In the meantime, there are three effective ways to help you stay disconnected.

1. Recreation

The human brain can only focus on one thing at a time. So, if you want to contact your ex, prepare a distraction list so that you can take immediate action.

The best choice is to get your brain involved and let it think about something. For example, doing research on a specific topic, taking quizzes, trying puzzles and so on.

The more work the brain needs to do, the better the distraction effect.

2. Find some friends to supervise yourself.

When you are ready to call your ex, call your close friends or relatives first and ask their opinions.

They will persuade you to give up and give you some reasons.

3. Gentel becomes your "disconnected" friend.

Everything you want to say to your ex, take it out! (Put these in Thiel's problem-solving grocery store)

By "disconnecting":

You will find that the need to contact your predecessor will be greatly reduced.

Replies from other readers will give you hope and strength.