What should a woman do first when she is young?

Cherry was a senior when she came to our unit for internship. She is diligent, brave and hardworking. She can always finish the task given to Cherry quickly and well. With such good qualifications and hard work, our department was recruiting people at that time. I told Cherry that we would consider keeping you, and you should prepare your resume well. As long as the human resources department passes, you will be our colleague after graduation.

My work unit is a national first-class newspaper, which, to put it mildly, is a place where students of the National Department of Journalism and Communication worship. That year, the employment situation was extremely bleak. According to common sense, when you hear such news, you are ecstatic, or you have turned around three times. It's suppressed.

Cherry refused.

She said that her childhood dream was to be a good wife and mother. As a reporter, the working hours are too unstable. Although you don't have to punch in, it also means that you can't get off work on time. She wants to find a nine-to-five job, such as being a teacher, entering a state-owned enterprise and being stable. Because her boyfriend is engaged in IT and busy at work, she hopes that he can eat her cooking every day when he comes home.

Kind and virtuous, what a rare quality.

I should praise her.

But I really regard her as my sister, so I told her that the most important thing is not to let men eat first, but to let you eat well by yourself.

She said, yes, so I want to find an iron rice bowl. I don't want to take any risks. Look for things that need to work overtime.

I said: What is an iron rice bowl? You have nothing to eat in one unit, but you have something to eat everywhere. You're only 23 years old, and you want to be stable? Stability needs capital. I worked hard when I was young and survived the first few years. At the age of 30, you have accumulated enough ability and experience to be qualified to talk about stability. For example, when I was an intern in a newspaper, I was almost beaten for making an unannounced visit to the shelter, and I was almost involved in the underworld for interviewing migrant children. I was also threatened with negative reports by the president of a university pointing his nose and told me to be careful when going out. Later, I officially became a reporter, crying because a manuscript was not well written and crying because a title was not well shot. It makes me feel safe.

Then, I earnestly advised her: Sister, it is better to earn some money than to bet your youth and life on men. With your diligence, it is not difficult for us to get 10,000 manuscript fees a month, and you can also accumulate contacts. If you want to transform in the future, there are many possibilities.

Lao tze Tao Tao lung, saliva is dry. Cherry listened carefully and said, I know what you said is very reasonable, but I still think marriage and family are much more important than career.

So Cherry smartly chased after her boyfriend and her iron rice bowl.

This story has become one of the evidences that I love myself and am a teacher. I was teased by my friends.

2.

Cherry sent me a short message some time ago. Sister Mi Meng, can I come to see you?

I said yes. What do you want to eat? I'll treat you.

So we ate hot pot and talked about her recent situation. Originally, hot pot was really delicious, and duck blood tofu was also delicious. As a result, she cried several times during the dinner, which made me very unhappy.

Cherry graduated from university and went to a legendary stable enterprise. It's really nine to five, and I really cooked a hot meal for my boyfriend.

Not long after, Cherry's department leaders were defeated in the workplace, which led to their department being laid off, so Cherry was assigned to a relatively idle department. The other two people here are relatively idle and don't go to work all the year round. Cherry plays with herself every day. Work is boring. I tidy up my papers occasionally.

What broke through Cherry's bottom line was that after changing jobs, her monthly salary dropped from 5,500 to 2,500, and Cherry could not even afford to rent a farmer's house. Cherry quit her job and started looking for another one. She found that she didn't have much choice. On the one hand, after working for two years, she learned nothing. Basically, her life is at a standstill, and she can't answer any professional questions raised in the interview. On the other hand, the employment situation this year is even more severe.

For better or worse, this time is also a time when Cherry's relationship with her boyfriend is in jeopardy. The biggest difference is spending money. Boyfriend is a typical Phoenix man who hates women spending money indiscriminately. Cherry's hair turned white because she was looking for a job. She went to Taobao and bought a fake L 'Oreal hair dye, 25 yuan. Her boyfriend said he was a loser.

If Cherry spends her own money, she can shut her boyfriend up, but she is unemployed and must bear it herself. No, the work pressure is too great. She went to a website with a monthly income of 4,000 yuan, worked six days a week and worked overtime until 10 every day, and was scolded by abnormal leaders all day.

Now she has figured it out that making money is more important than men. She wants to choose a well-paid job, but she has no chance.

3.

In fact, every time I see young girls spend a lot of time and energy studying how to catch a rich husband, how to make their boyfriends not change their minds, how to inspect their posts, and how to get a mistress, I really want to say, why don't you put these things down and make some money first? If you spend half your life with men at work, your pattern will be much bigger.

What can you get by earning money? As long as you don't do crooked ways, you can get a sense of accomplishment and value while getting money, you can improve your workplace skills, and you can make progress and grow.

When you get rich, your living standard improves, and you see more of the world, you have more possibilities. You can find a man or not, and you can meet a higher-level man.

The so-called workplace security means that whenever your company goes bankrupt, you can find a job with a comparable income. In marriage, the so-called sense of security means that at any time of divorce, you have the ability to raise children by yourself, and the quality of life will not be reduced.