If you come at four o'clock in the afternoon, I will start to feel happy from three o'clock in the afternoon

“There are no good-tempered and patient people in the world. There are many things that require us to wait, so we have become good-tempered and patient people.”

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There is an uneasy action called waiting.

The dinner ordered, the resume submitted, the confession message sent to him/her... When we complete the actions of clicking, submitting, and sending, we start the "waiting" action at the same time.

On New Year's Eve, I started doing this action at four o'clock in the morning.

Waiting for the driver to drop you off, waiting to pass the security check, waiting to board the plane, waiting to fly.

Waiting is not accompanied by boredom, but by worries about gains and losses.

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What does the meal I ordered taste like? I really want to eat it quickly, but if it doesn’t taste good, it will be over.

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If this company can hire me, I can have a new and cool life! But if they ignore me, I will continue to look for a job...

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I really hope that he likes me, and I really want to have a baby with him. But, he might not have feelings for me at all.

Me too.

While waiting at the airport, I absentmindedly watched the variety shows cached on my iPad. My mind came to mind about the route home, the delicacies cooked by my mother, the hugs from my family, and the fun on the mahjong table. ...Although we are still on the way, I already feel very happy.

But today, seeing that in three or two days, I will leave all this again and go back to work in another place, the happiness that has not been used up in front of me has turned into loneliness.

Zhang Ailing described this feeling and said:

People always feel happier when they are close to happiness, but worry about gains and losses when happiness is in progress.

"The Little Prince" also said:

If you come at four o'clock in the afternoon, then from three o'clock onwards, I will start to feel happy. The closer the time comes, the happier I feel. But when it really comes to four o'clock, I will be restless: then I will discover the price of happiness.

That's it.

Because I feel that I am about to lose it, I feel a little overwhelmed holding the little happiness left in my hands.

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Happiness is a parabola.

To put it more concretely, it is like a mountain.

From the moment you take the first step towards happiness, you become a mountain climber.

You yearn for the beauty and height of the top of the mountain, so you take pride and bravery with every step you climb.

The closer you are to the top of the mountain, the more confident and happy you feel.

The moment you reach the top of the mountain, you finally reach your destination. At this time, you realize that you will start to go down the mountain before evening. So, standing on the top of the mountain, you suddenly I feel a little melancholy and wonder: Why am I not as happy as when I reach the top of the mountain?

The so-called "price of happiness" may be: when you really get happiness, you are no longer so happy, replaced by anxiety, worry, and endless worries about gains and losses.

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In the process of mountaineering, what makes you worry about gains and losses is not only yourself, but also the pace of other climbers.

I have a girl friend who writes novels on the Internet.

She started writing on the day she finished her college entrance examination, and has been writing for almost six years now.

Writing online articles is really a hard job. She seems to have had no social interaction in recent years in order to update articles, and she is more of a homebody than me.

In the summer of 2014, we both graduated from college. I found a job and became a working dog. She thought about it and decided to continue writing online articles.

As a good friend, I actually have the same idea as her family. I hope she can find a stable job, because life really needs stability; but as a friend, I absolutely cannot I know how annoying it is to point fingers at her life, so I can only say: It's good, maybe you will become a great god someday.

In the blink of an eye, it has been more than a year since I graduated. On the morning of New Year's Day this year, she sent me a big red envelope on QQ and asked me: Can this red envelope buy you an hour of listening to me cry?

I sent her another bigger red envelope: Come on, cry for me. I happen to be bored and too lazy to go to the movies, so this red envelope will be used as a ticket for me.

She said that she was still updating her essay on New Year’s Eve. Not only did she not get the understanding of her parents, she had a fight with them, but she still hadn’t finished writing until three in the morning. When she woke up in the morning, she looked confused. Ashes.

What’s even more tragic is that when she was about to go to bed, she checked her WeChat Moments and saw that a girl who had been writing articles for much less time than her had already sold the film and television rights of a novel. , will soon be made into a web series.

She thought about how she had been updating articles diligently over the years, but she always had bad luck. She thought that maybe she was still not suitable for this job. At that moment, she felt that she couldn't hold on.

The mountain is still as high as it was at the beginning, but because other climbers took the lead in letting out hearty cheers at the top of the mountain, the road under their feet seemed to be getting longer and longer, even a little bit longer. Out of reach. Those climbers who were still on the way were suddenly deflated, as if something had been taken away from them.

Others have done things that she couldn't do for the time being but wanted to do, which made her feel a little flustered and her heart was full of frustration when she was still enjoying it.

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In fact, in my eyes, she is already great.

After writing for so many years, she has a good savings, paid the down payment for her own house right after graduation, and has a lot of readers who love her. She is not as bad as she thought. .

But she said that maybe it was because she chose a different path from others and suffered a lot of doubts and criticisms, so she cared more about it and hoped that she could go faster and follow the path of more people. Ahead, go better.

Achieving goals is also the action of waiting.

I can understand how mixed emotions this kind of waiting is.

So I admire my cousin very much.

At a family gathering the day before yesterday, I learned that my cousin had left her job at Sina and Baidu to start a business with a few friends.

They made an App. I browsed it and I really liked it.

I was making noises next to her, asking her to buy me this and that and be my sponsor. She said she couldn't afford it because she was poor. I said, didn't you get investment, and you still told me you were poor. She said that to get investment, you have to save money one by one.

Starting a business is not as exciting and beautiful as depicted in Japanese comics, and their small office is filled with disputes and a sense of crisis.

I asked her, now many young teams are making popular apps and are ahead of you. Do you feel envious and jealous when you see them?

She said, if I see other teams succeed, I will go and see how good their app is, and then continue to work in that small office. What's there to hate? There is no limit to the number of successful candidates. What impact will someone else’s success have on me? It's just a few steps faster than me.

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She likes to run marathons.

People who are fast runners can finish the marathon in more than two hours. She is a slow runner and can finish in four or five hours. But she still loves marathons.

She said, I just like running!

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You don’t have to be the first one to cross the finish line, but you have to be the one who keeps running towards the finish line.

There is no need to envy the vastness and majesty of the mountaintop. It is not what you see from the highest point that is called the world. Every plant and stone you meet along the way is the world.