My parents said I wouldn't talk to others, and my relatives wouldn't chat when they came (for example, my aunt and uncle). I sat there, but my classmates and I,

How to find the topic:

(1) Past experience. Memory of the past

When I was a child or after reading it, many impressive things must have happened.

We can discuss it and ask each other.

If there is some overlap, the topic will extend a lot.

(2)*** and friends.

Because it was introduced by a friend, both sides should know this friend.

You can extend the topic discussion from this friend

PS: It's best to talk about topics that the other party will also be interested in, such as hobbies.

(3) Interest discussion

Understand each other's hobbies and introduce your hobbies.

Find out if there are any similar or identical ones.

Activities as future contacts.

(4) Discuss future plans with each other.

For example, "Do you want to continue your studies in the future?" "What kind of job are you looking for? 」

"Do you want to travel abroad this year?" "Where do you want to play in the future? 」

"When to get married? 」

(5) Bits of recent life

The above points will take almost a while.

At this time, it is necessary to put daily life

I was particularly impressed when I took it out.

Or a particularly interesting discussion.

(6) Pay more attention to recent hot topics.

Such as the latest popular news, TV, movies, singers, food, drama performances, activities, social events, popular phenomena and so on. , can be your topic!

(7) In case there is really no topic to talk about, sometimes it can be a topic!

I still remember when I was in primary school or junior high school, I once met a classmate on my way to school. Of course, they went to school together!

But halfway through, we have nothing to say. After a long silence, I said, "What should I do? I've been thinking about what to talk about, but I can't figure out what to talk about. 」

Unexpectedly, she immediately said, "Me too! Sometimes I am like this ... "After that, the two of us continued to talk until we got to school. Well … it was a good experience!

(8) Create a pleasant atmosphere. Of course, you should be a good listener yourself.

In addition, you can also talk about your own experience or mood first, sometimes this will cause the other person's * * *, and you will also come up with your own ideas to share with you!

In fact, not only do we need to find a topic ... our usual speaking skills are very important.

Below I list the cultivation of speaking skills for your reference! !

1- clear and clear

2- Adaptability (whether the knowledge of temperament cultivation is rich)

3- fresh breath

Don't forget ~ when talking to others ...

Be sure to keep your breath fresh ~ otherwise others will feel sick from the heart.

4- Confidence

Keep your eyes bright (shiny)

PS: Don't talk too white.

Before you speak, you must make use of that extremely short time.

Think about it! ! If you say this,

Or is it hard to hear others say that?

How to increase and cultivate self-confidence;

(1) Know yourself clearly

Because if you know your own advantages and know yourself clearly.

You can have confidence from the inside out.

The specific way is: read some related books.

Cultivate some of your own interests to generate self-confidence.

(2) How to make yourself more lively,

Cheerfulness (and what jobs and activities you can get exercise from)

This ..... actually, the point is not how to make yourself more lively and cheerful, because as long as you are confident.

If your satisfaction with life is stable, you will naturally feel cheerful and happy. Your temperament will also appear cheerful.

(3) How to get along with people (men and women) and have a heart-to-heart talk.

This question has returned to the old point of contention.

I want to improve my interpersonal relationship.

You must start from your own direction of expression step by step.

Interpersonal skills. Communication skills and increasing self-confidence begin.

Finding the right topic in communication with people belongs to interpersonal skills and is also related to personality. Because there will never be an introvert who is afraid of strangers but can keep talking and discussing with others! Even if you have a topic, you are afraid to talk and it is difficult to get along with others.

So if you want to have a topic with people, you must first learn to be a listener, be considerate and care about others, and let them have a common topic with you. Is it difficult to keep thinking about topics in your head without talking to people? Read more books and pay more attention to current events, so that you can get along with others.