How to text a girl if you want to meet her for the first time

It’s best not to be so insincere when texting to strike up a conversation. If you don’t know how to strike up a conversation, I can teach you.

First impression The first impression is very important. If your first impression is not Well, when a girl sees you, she will run away before you even say anything urgently. I have asked many girls about hairstyles, and the answer I got is, as long as it is not too weird or disgusting. Most girls say that they are more accepting of people who are more cheerful and decent. The issue of overall appearance is not difficult. As long as it is clean, it should make people look clean. Girls are very particular about feeling. They also love cleanliness. As long as you make them feel that you are clean, they will I will accept you better. It’s best to dress in something that everyone can accept, not too idiosyncratic, and choose bright colors so that you can easily impress the person you want to strike up a conversation with. In addition, you should pay attention to the small details: your hair should not be messy, and your tone of course should be fresh (nonsense). 2. Experience. Many compatriots have already met the above conditions, but they still failed to strike up a conversation. Why? Because you lack the most important thing in striking up a conversation - experience. When you are striking up a conversation, you look nervous, speak incorrectly, and stutter. Do you think that girl will accept you? The answer is NO! As mentioned above, a girl is a very emotional creature. When she senses that you are nervous, she will think that you are weird or want to do something wrong with her, so she will not even dump you. you. How can you develop the courage to strike up a conversation if you just turn around and walk away? There are several ways to do this. 1. Go chat with your good friends. Good friends here are not close friends, but friends who are interested in striking up conversations. At this time, let your friend pretend to be the person who wants to get to know the girl, and you pretend to be the one who went over to help. Isn't it much easier to strike up a conversation from the perspective of an outsider? You can just ask for your name directly, make a phone call, make a few jokes and leave immediately. Of course, this job has to be done in turns. You can't ask your friends to do it in front of you all the time, and you can't practice it. 2. This imaginary scenario is very similar to the salesman’s method. My mother once took me to listen to other people’s sales classes. I heard it all the time, how to improve your courage to sell your products to others. I modified it a bit and recommended it to a friend, who also had good results. Just get up every day or when you are free, imagine that you are at the place where you are being struck up a conversation, and then strike up a conversation with yourself. After you feel that you are doing it naturally, you can try to strike up a conversation. By then you will feel that it will become much more natural for you. oh. 3. Daily practice method. This is something I learned from Taiwanese pick-up leader Zheng Kuangyu. I think this method is not only helpful for pick-up, but also for communication and interpersonal relationships. It’s a long time to practice this method in three months. (Sharpening a knife doesn’t stop cutting wood.) The first month. During this month you try to smile at the people you see. Second month. You try to nod and smile at the people you see. The third month. You should try to nod, smile and say a polite hello to the people you see. 4. Strike up conversations with people around you. This is a method I used before. It is to strike up conversations with people in my classroom who are not very familiar with me or people who know me but are not familiar with me, to practice my conversation skills and courage. Then to the teacher. The owner of a fast food restaurant, the owner of a bookstore, the owner of an Internet cafe (the one I know best) can be deduced in this way. Slowly you will become a master. 3. How to overcome the pressure before striking up a conversation. This should be the biggest headache for everyone who is just starting to strike up a conversation. Actually this is not difficult. The most important thing in striking up a conversation is to be confident. If you are not confident in yourself, you should first make yourself confident. First of all, you have to be careful not to tell too many friends about your idea of ??striking up a conversation before you strike up a conversation, because they will make noises and add a lot of invisible pressure to you. For example: If you fail, won't you be embarrassed in front of your friends? My friend Xiao Y once encountered this. At that time, he wanted his friends to cheer him up. Who knows, when he told his friend that he was going to chat with XXX, his friend kept going. Encourage him and keep making noises. Of course, in the end he went to strike up a conversation, but the result was a failure.

Later I asked him why, and he said that his friends put too much pressure on him, which made him nervous, and his brain short-circuited when he was in front of the girl. . Also, don’t think about her too much. Before you strike up a conversation, think about her shortcomings and don’t think about whether she will reject you. If you think you are so good, how could she reject you? Try to think as confidently as possible. What does it matter if the conversation fails? This can give me more experience. Besides, she is not the only woman in the world. It is her loss if she does not make friends with me. This is how courage comes. 4. In addition, 1. To have a successful conversation, it is essential to train your sense of humor. 2. Of course, sometimes you have to play a little trick, just like Will Smith said in the movie "Rivals" NO Trick NO Girl. 3. When striking up a conversation, be polite, don’t make physical contact with the other person, and don’t shake hands! 4. If she categorically rejects you, you can also say, thank you. Then turned and left. In this case, it will be very convenient for you if you meet her in the future. 5. It will be easier to strike up a conversation on a specific occasion than on the road, because it will give you more common topics. 6. You must practice, otherwise no matter how many articles you read about hooking up girls, you will just read nonsense. Remember, practice in picking up conversations is the most important! Strike up a conversation is the first and most important step for you to pursue your own happiness.