Confess to a married man?

Woman, if you fall in love with a man and are deeply loved by him, but you are doomed not to live together in this life, and you don't want to lose him, then please remember, don't be lovers, just be friends! Distance produces beauty. The best love between men and women is when they are friends. Distance produces obscurity, and obscurity produces beauty. At this time, both sides try their best to show their best. In the eyes of men, you are so gentle and elegant, cheerful and generous, and you exude charming feminine fragrance. He doesn't know that hardcover women are all displayed to men outside their homes. In the eyes of women, he is so funny and romantic that he can bring you a long-lost heart, but I don't know that he is also covered in smelly shoes and socks at home. However, men and women who are friends can enjoy that kind of relaxation and pleasure, as well as the pleasure brought by that kind of subtle ambiguity. It's just that once the paper is punctured, once the two sides become lovers, after a short period of joy and passion, there will be endless suspicion, worry, missing, waiting and tears day and night.

Because it's too hard to be a lover. Being a lover is too sensitive to tolerate sand in both eyes. His words and deeds may touch your sensitive nerves. The text message is not answered in time, the phone is not answered, and there is attachment to the family and guilt for your wife and children ... which will make you look trance and bitter. When the dispute is out of control, when you don't like him, he may disappear in front of you at any time. At that time, sad tears will accompany you through the long night.

Because it is no longer easy to be lovers, there is an unclear responsibility between them. Because there is no guarantee between lovers, and you are under great pressure from public opinion, you will naturally make many demands on each other, material, spiritual and time, to satisfy your mentality of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss. When he can't meet your requirements, you will fall into an emotional whirlpool.

Because being a lover cannot stand the test of time. Although you only care about what you once had and don't care about eternity, any change in life can make him swear to eternal love. Many, many bright futures he designed for you have been completely washed away. You can't pin your hopes on him, and he can't control his own future, let alone design yours. In the end, what you gain is definitely not the beauty and sweetness you once had, but more the dark and disgraceful past, and the smile that he precipitated once made you infatuated will also become.

Because being a lover also needs a strong psychological endurance. Although stealing words is exciting, you will be overwhelmed by fear for a day. Worried about whether the hotel has a needle camera and JC surprise inspection; Worried that the other wife will knock on the door to embarrass you; I'm worried that once in a while, when both of them go out, they will meet the eyes of acquaintances, and that he will suddenly get tired of you and leave you silently. I have to bear the loneliness and loneliness of holidays, because at this time he usually goes home to accompany his wife and children ... once his wife and children call, you have to make way for a little thing. In short, stealing from others is not fun at all. After all, stolen gongs and drums are used to knock. What's the use of stealing since you can't knock? A lover should be able to be with him at any time. Since you can't walk hand in hand in the sun, you can't introduce yourself to each other's relatives and friends, you can't be with you when you are sick, and you can't hold you silently in your arms when you need it most. ...............................................................................................

Because, a lover should have enough patience to wait, wait for his phone call, wait for his short message, wait for his rare time to ask you out-wait for him to marry you ... day after day, year after year, wait for his face to be haggard, his hair to turn white, wait for time to pass like water, but never wait for his ring and a marriage certificate. Because what most men yearn for most is to let colorful flags fly outside their homes and red flags stand upright at home. More importantly, he is absolutely unwilling to give up his position, property and reputation gained through years of struggle. Although he will say something on impulse when he is in high spirits, you will be moved to tears, but when it comes to pants, you are far lighter on his scales than in his past. You are just a flower climbing on his towering tree, embellishing his life, not too monotonous. Therefore, a smart woman should not be a lover, shed tears for him, because he can't sleep and wait for his arrival, don't worry about the long-overdue text messages, don't be angry about the absent-minded words on the other end of the phone, don't be angry about the absence of gifts, don't be sad about holidays ... Being his friend will make you relaxed and happy, and you will never lose him. Because being friends will respect each other's life and will not ask too much of each other. They can call and send messages to him at any time, without worrying that his wife will find out that they can joke together, drink together and share each other's happiness or sadness.

Men long for freedom and beauty. When you stand beside him, he will regard you as a valuable asset, appreciate your smile, remember your charm and miss your beauty. You will always be so cheerful and happy in his heart, and you will always be his dream lover. Although he is so eager to get close to you, don't let him get too close, distance will produce beauty. Be a smart woman and always be her best friend.