A talented programmer was cheated out of130,000 yuan by his wife and committed suicide, giving several good tricks to men and women who want to fall in love.

Su Xiangmao, a talented programmer worth tens of millions, committed suicide by jumping off a building at 5 am on September 7 because he couldn't bear the blackmail of his ex-wife.

The death of programmer Su Xiangmao has aroused great concern of the whole society and has been widely discussed. I want to analyze the lessons brought to us by the death of programmer Su Xiangmao from two aspects: education and emotion.

First, the wrong concept of consumption

Su Xiangmao: A rural baby born in poverty, a high flyers who graduated from Peking University, a talented programmer from Baidu, an entrepreneur with a net worth of tens of millions, and a young man who committed suicide after his ex-wife cheated him out of all his money.

Judging from the whole incident, Su's consumption view is surprising. Su Xiangmao and his ex-wife met in Jiayuan, so they knew nothing about each other before they met.

The two first met on March 30 this year. After the meeting, Su Xiangmao started the burning mode of Zhai buy buy.

According to the consumption records compiled by Su Xiangmao's family, in April alone, Su Xiangmao spent130,000 yuan for Zhai, including a million-dollar Tesla car.

To put it simply, they have known each other for a month, and Su Xiangmao has spent millions on Zhai.

Although it is too realistic to talk about money in love, whether feelings can be measured by money is not discussed for the time being.

But Su Xiangmao is just hard-earned money, neither rich second generation nor nouveau riche, so millions of consumption is not a decimal.

Obviously, this concept of consumption is problematic. In the second month after meeting, Su Xiangmao spent more than 3 million yuan on Zhai, and this time he upgraded from buying a car to buying a house.

Finally, when they realized that Su Xiangmao committed suicide, Su Xiangmao spent130,000 yuan for his ex-wife.

Su Xiangmao spent a lot of money kneeling in love. But can love be bought with money?

Because if one day you find that you have no money or not enough money, the other party will dump you and leave you.

The wrong consumption concept prompted Su Xiangmao to fantasize about getting the desired result in the wrong way without knowing each other.

Second, the lack of judgment.

"When she sent me a video, she accidentally saw the villa. I was quite surprised and showed her the balance of stocks and wealth management products. " This is what Su Xiangmao said when he recalled the original scene.

From the perspective of a normal person, it is obvious that a woman can't live without money.

However, Su Xiangmao did not make the corresponding judgment ability, but was eager to prove his own strength, and even spent 5 million yuan without knowing the details of the other party.

In just two months, he got married and finally became the handle of others threatening him.

Third, lack of social experience.

From the perspective of personal privacy and property safety, they told each other all the details of their property before they got married, which touched the bottom line of property safety. Obviously, the programmer Su Like Xiangmao lacks social experience.

There are many doubts about his wife from acquaintance to marriage, but he can't tell.

Wife's marital status: divorce is considered unmarried.

Wife's age:165438+October, 86.

Love experience: not as simple as my wife said. She has been married at least once or twice, and her name and marital status are quite different from the divorce mediation document.

Time spent in Jiayuan: I learned later that it was at least three years.

Encountered blackmail after marriage, I don't know how to ask relatives and friends for help.

Judging from the conversation between Su Xiangmao and his ex-wife, Su is extremely timid. The compensation that his ex-wife has been asking for is actually based on the compensation for the discount of the property of both parties.

However, in this case, the two people have only been married for more than a month, and it is unlikely that they have millions or even tens of millions of * * * assets, and Article 4 of the agreement states that neither party has * * * assets.

In addition, there is no such high compensation for divorce damages in China at present.

/kloc-the compensation of more than 0/00000 is very high. Moreover, judging from the information disclosed at present, there is no legal basis for asking for this money.

When the ex-wife blackmailed 6.5438+million, the 6.5438+million on Su Xiangmao's stock book had fallen to 6.6 million.

In Su Xiangmao's last words, he wrote: "I feel desperate, my capital chain is broken, and I am really desperate."

We knew in elementary school that we couldn't put all our eggs in one basket, but all his possessions were invested in stocks.

Fourth, the endurance is poor.

The day before Su Xiangmao fell from the rooftop, he used Google ID to post that he was forced to death by his vicious ex-wife, and WePhone would stop operating in the future, and announced his ex-wife's mobile phone number, work unit, chat screenshot and divorce contract.

Su Xiangmao said in the post that his ex-wife threatened to report his personal tax evasion, and it was a gray operation to report that WePhone had VoIP function.

Claiming to let him go bankrupt, asking for 6.5438+million yuan and real estate in Sanya.

Su Xiangmao said that the 6.6 million compensation involved in the divorce agreement with his ex-wife has been paid, and the remaining 3.4 million should be paid within 12 days, otherwise the daily interest will be 654.38 million yuan.

Subsequently, the ex-wife harassed herself by calling and taking others to her home and unit, which led her to commit suicide because she couldn't bear it.

Su Xiangmao is the founder of WePhone and worked in Baidu for several years.

Then I went abroad to start a business and made a wephone software, similar to VoIP. Users can make phone calls and send text messages for free, with smooth business, 30 million users and considerable income.

However, because of his ordinary appearance and short height, the lifelong event has not been settled, so he registered a VIP on Jiayuan and started dating.

The story of an entrepreneurial genius being forced to death by his ex-wife not only regrets the tragedy, but also shows that Su Xiangmao lacked correct values and ultra-low emotional intelligence in his short life.

Although Sue is from high flyers, she is also a poor child in the countryside, and the influence of her family has a great influence on her values.

Judging from his consumption view, he believes that as long as he has money, he can capture a woman's heart, and he is willing to invest all his property. After discovering that he was cheated, he found a short circuit. This endurance is really touching.

Nowadays, in the eyes of many parents, children who learn more knowledge and master advanced knowledge are successful.

Therefore, we spare no effort in children's intellectual input, but neglect children's quality education, which leads to children's lack of correct judgment and solutions when they encounter things in the future, thus being hurt.

In fact, IQ is important, emotional intelligence is also important, and love for the cause is more important.

1. Don't trust, sympathize, forgive and accept people who are full of lies.

Once the personal information and family background of the other party are found to be inconsistent or different from the facts, immediately try to stay away, avoid contact and stop loss in time.

2. Learn more legal knowledge, and don't believe what the other party threatens.

After encountering fraud and extortion, you should ask the police for help at the first time.

Even when you are in love, don't be carried away by love.

For some suspicious things, we should clear our minds and follow the logic.

If you are confused, write down the whole story from a bystander's point of view to help you analyze rationally.

4. When encountering problems, seek help from a mentor and friend who is more experienced than you, and seek advice and help from outsiders.

Friends and relatives may save you at a critical moment.

Thinker Arendt believes that we need a power that can transcend "natural morality".

The so-called "virtue" is not innate. It is something polished and tempered the day after tomorrow, with reflection and appropriate limits.

Being too kind is stupid, being too soft-hearted is laissez-faire, and being too tolerant is connivance.

You can be an honest man, but you can't be stupid enough to trust everyone.

I hope the tragedy and regrettable story of such a talented programmer will not be repeated.

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