Tomorrow's Valentine's Day ~' I hinted that a girl wanted to ask her out', but she said she didn't know how to refuse? Don't you accept it? What should I do?

First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)

1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Not too formal, but not too casual.

Where it is serious, it is serious. It's funny when it's funny.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

Step 4 look mature

A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.

Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)

1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.

Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.

Step 2 start with a low profile

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.

Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.

4. Create opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.

5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.

If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.

Third, what is a "girlfriend"?

1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.

You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "

So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.

At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

4. Don't export the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.

Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.

1, not every MM can catch up.

There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.

Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.

So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.

2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.

Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.

Finally, add two points:

Never show cynicism in front of MM. Cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".

Be sure to reply after reading it, otherwise no girl will like you ~ ~ ~

I like her, but I'm afraid of abrupt her in front of others. I really want to ask her out to talk alone. Here are some tips for your reference:

1. The date is ripe, so make an appointment in time. Whether the date is successful or not is directly related to the timing of your proposal. It is not good to ask for a date too early or too late. When feelings reach a certain level, we should boldly invite each other. Otherwise, if the time is ripe, but you don't date each other for a long time, it may cause misunderstanding and miss the opportunity. Of course, if the time is not ripe, it is inevitable to make a move and hit a nail. What is the right time? This requires careful observation of the relationship and wishes of two people. After a period of contact, both sides have a good impression and can take the initiative to ask her out.

Important appointments should be notified in advance. When an appointment is needed, it is usually notified in advance. As for the content of the notice, it depends entirely on the nature of the appointment. If you invite her to the party, your notice should be detailed, not as simple as inviting her to a movie or a ball game. You must give her considerable time to plan and prepare clothes. For important appointments, it is best to send an invitation notice two weeks in advance. Especially for girls who have a lot of dates, the earlier you give notice, the better your chances of getting her dates. Girls welcome appointments with advance notice, because it allows her to plan her schedule calmly, so that other activities will not be ruled out because of your appointment.

3. Minimize informal dating If you are with two or three friends and suddenly decide to go skating or watch some performances, you may want to invite a girl to go with you. However, she may think that it is an insult for you to drag her to join in the fun and flatly refuse the invitation. There is no doubt that you will feel disappointed on a whim. It's best not to make such an impulsive temporary date. Of course, if you have a good relationship with her, it is naturally another matter.

4. Face-to-face invitation is more solemn than calling or writing letters, and it is not as easy to be harassed as calling. If you are overheard on the extension when you are on the phone, you might as well call her yourself and ask her. In addition, when there are many people together, don't ask a girlfriend for a date, because this is between you two, and it is always inappropriate to ask in front of others.

People who feel uncomfortable about telephone invitations and heterosexual contacts always like telephone appointments. Some people are tongue-tied when talking to girls, which is more natural on the phone. So write down what you want to say in advance and send an invitation on the phone calmly. If she receives your call at home, she can easily ask her parents for permission.

6. Ask her for an answer to the appointment. In most cases, whether she can accept your invitation or not, she can always give you an answer at that time. If she is not sure to answer you right away (maybe she wants to ask her parents for advice), or if she has some other questions to consider, you might as well ask her to answer them together.

7. Make a date plan. Generally speaking, when you invite a date, there is always a predetermined plan. If the plan is not clear, you can also discuss with her what to do temporarily. It's best to give her a few different suggestions and let her choose within your wallet. Otherwise, we can't rashly ask her to decide where to play. This is a very important practical problem. Boys who can't control their wallets on a date often end up with their girlfriends.

When she says "no", she should prescribe the right medicine. Sometimes, even if she is willing to go out with you, she may pretend to refuse your invitation politely. You can apply according to her attitude and decide whether to show your sincere invitation again. If she sincerely refuses, you have to be sensible and stop asking. It is naturally annoying to be rejected on a date. If you know the real reason why a girl refuses you, you won't feel at a loss. If she says she has an appointment, you can invite her for the next date; But if she says I'm afraid I won't have time for a long time, it's probably telling you to find someone else. If a girl refuses your date without giving a reason, you don't have to force her to answer. If you are sure that she doesn't want to go out with you, you should easily propose rescheduling or another date. This will make her know you better and show that you are a considerate person.

Take the initiative to make an appointment, boldly make an appointment, and stick to it.

It was three o'clock! Take the initiative first, then don't be embarrassed, be bold, say it to your face, and don't hesitate to call. Then, there is a great possibility of refusing to date, because it is normal for women to show psychological reasons. She may have thousands of reasons. Remember, it's normal not to make an appointment! Still have to [take the initiative to make an appointment, boldly make an appointment, and stick to it] to have a chance.

If he has a reason to refuse, you should try to tell her that how to solve such a reason depends on your quick thinking and whether it is reasonable or not.

This is why many experienced people think that at 2 o'clock, glib words and repeated statements are sometimes the most effective!

What do you do after the date? You have to think about this question yourself, because there is no one-size-fits-all answer, because the people you face are different. You have to analyze her first, what kind of person she is and what kind of way she will like. Of course, on the whole, it is gradual. One is the most rustic and normal, such as visiting parks and watching movies to understand her hobbies and personality tendencies during her time.

Only by knowing all these things about each other can we work out all the strategies behind.

Maybe go deeper in the future, and that's it. Others can only show you the way, and you have to practice by yourself! ! ! !

Practice makes true knowledge! There are thousands of ways. Different people have different styles. It's up to you to analyze which style is most effective and suits you best.

Love needs skill, but also personal charm and wisdom.

Do you know what to do? Today, Valentine's Day still depends on myself to bless you.