Do you know how annoying it is to have low emotional intelligence?

Low emotional intelligence is a terminal illness, and you will always meet a few people suffering from this terminal illness. When you meet such a person, you must be kind to him or her, because you must kindly understand that he or she is sent by God to cultivate you.

Otherwise, you will definitely be so angry at their words or actions that you will become cerebral palsy.

Through some people I have met, let me recall the specific symptoms of low emotional intelligence:

Jane is an intern I once took care of. She is a typical sweet and talkative person. Nuo Nuo, I had this trick during the interview, so I hired him as soon as I got excited. Later it was proved that sometimes, the face really cannot be used as food.

One time when everyone was having lunch, we discussed that recently the client leader was often unable to make appointments because the leader’s mother seemed to have had an operation for pancreatitis. At this time, a little boy said: Wow, this disease is very serious. It hurts. My grandma also gave birth. I was still young at the time. I was so scared that I cried when my grandma screamed in pain...

We all asked how we got this disease. We should usually Pay attention to something. Jane, a weirdo, suddenly asked: What happened to your grandma? Does it hurt so much?

Everyone was stunned by this sentence. This girl was really big-hearted. She didn’t feel embarrassed at all. She calmly picked a piece of meat and ate it...

My child is only two years old. One time I asked her jokingly: Qingqing, can your parents have a little brother to play with you?

My daughter is very practical and asked me: Is there anything delicious?

I answered: You and your brother eat delicious food together. The daughter immediately nodded and said: I want a younger brother to play with and eat together.

Damn it, at this time a relative suddenly interjected: Qingqing, after your parents have a younger brother, the delicious food will be given to the younger brother. Do you still want a younger brother?

As soon as my daughter heard this, she burst into tears within three seconds: I don’t want my brother anymore.

I really don’t understand the mentality of this kind of person. If you say less, will you die?

I have a female client who has always been aloof. She likes tight-fitting suits and high heels. She has a delicate appearance and looks a bit like Fan Bingbing. The eldest sister is thirty-six or seventy years old and is still unmarried. Let’s call her Bingbing for the time being.

Normally, my colleague would talk to her, so my colleague once told me such a thing.

My colleague is responsible for planning and writing the training plan. A plan requires all aspects of content, so it takes a certain amount of time. Bingbing sent three WeChat messages to my colleague in the morning to urge him to read the plan. My colleague was in a hurry. Ah, I worked hard overtime to get it out. I squeezed three days of work into one and a half days, and finally sent it to Master Bingbing at two o'clock in the morning.

Bingbing asked my colleague again at noon the next day why the plan had not been given to her. My colleague was shocked. Could it be that the early morning email was eaten by a dog?

After a few seconds, I replied to my colleague: Why didn’t you send an email to WeChat to notify me?

This is a grievance for my colleague. Sister, your email is bundled with mobile phone text message notifications...

What’s even weirder is that after two days, Bingbing didn’t send any message to my colleague. For any feedback, my colleague took the initiative to ask her if there were any problems with the plan. She gave a classic reply: There is still a week until the bid opening. I will talk to you after I read your plan.

I was so heartbroken~~ When I heard about this, I quickly bought a Haagen-Dazs for my colleague to extinguish the fire and cool down the temperature.

There was a post on the Internet about a girl who had a fever and was lying in bed and texting a boy: "I have a fever..." (I wanted to express in just a few words that she was too weak to type)

Male reply: "Drink more water and cover yourself tightly with quilt"

Girl: "...39.2 degrees" (fully expecting him to brave the winter wind and suddenly appear downstairs at the girl's house and call her downstairs) Floor)

The male ticket responded with three words - awesome! force! ah!

The most intuitive characteristics of low emotional intelligence. I wonder if you have an arrow in the knee?

There is a certain difference between low emotional intelligence and uneducated people:

So, to sum up: Good people may do bad things unintentionally, but bad people must do bad things intentionally.

I have experienced low emotional intelligence, but what does high emotional intelligence look like?

In my opinion, the essence of high emotional intelligence is empathy. To put it bluntly, you can deeply look at problems from the other party's perspective and take the initiative to consider the gains and losses for the other party.

Regarding high emotional intelligence, I have ten tips for you:

It’s about “scale” – most behaviors with low emotional intelligence are due to poor “scale”: or lack of warmth. , or too much is not enough.

Say hello more, thank you, and I’m sorry.

When saying thank you, try to say "thank you" instead of "thank you", because thank you highlights the other person and makes others feel more comfortable.

The biggest difference between a domineering president and an escort girl is that the former is "based on me" and the latter is "based on you". So...

My mother once said: Why do people’s ears stand up? Just because I want to listen to good things.

If you think you are stupid and there is no topic to talk about, then try to praise the other person’s advantages as much as possible. For example: Your roommate bought a new dress, which is very beautiful, but your roommate is a little fat. You can see the fat on display, and at the same time you can also see that she likes this dress. Please swallow back the sentence "your arms look very thick after wearing it" that comes to your lips. Let me just say this: the color matches your skin very well, and the style is also good.

No one in the world requires you to boast about your ideas, what do you think?

In addition, when you praise someone, you should be specific. Don't always say "you are so awesome", "I admire you so much", "you are so handsome~~"

The other person You may have heard this compliment many times before.

You might as well say: I have always thought you are very powerful, and today I have experienced it. You can actually make this troublesome customer so obedient, and let her write an email to the boss to praise you, saying Well, did you sleep with her?

I have personally seen two good friends who were "brothers" in college end up having a big fight. One called the other party a country bumpkin, one scolded the other party for having a pair of blind eyes, one greeted the other party's mother, and the other greeted the other party's ancestors. The classmates persuaded the other party, and they also scolded the other party.

In the end, the two people basically stopped talking.

Do you know what they were fighting about? Just because Zhang Tongxiao thinks Jun Ji-hyun is the prettiest, Li Tongxiao thinks Song Hye Kyo is the real goddess.

This is the price of youth, this is the consequence of emotion overcoming reason.

I think a lot of things that cannot change the outcome are bullshit.

For example:

Do you find hindsight interesting? Hindsight is useful, so why do we need the police?

There are always people who exaggerate in the workplace. Just listen to them. There is no need to worry too much, let alone ask for details. You may defeat the other party logically, but you will lose the harmony between you and the other party. Relationship, is this deal really worth it?

Sometimes, even if you understand something, you are still polite on the spot, and both you and the other party enjoy a wonderful conversation.

However, it is best not to go back and share what you have seen with your colleagues and friends, because there is no airtight wall in the world. If it reaches the ears of the other party, you will be known as a "two-faced person" for a long time. .

What’s even more disgusting is that you have this bad reputation and you still don’t know why the other person suddenly ignored you.

Sometimes, when alcohol is on your mind, your colleagues will be "talkative" among themselves. The other person may say: "Teacher Bao, you are so damn serious at ordinary times. That person is a little afraid of you." La."

If it were me, I would answer: "Holy shit, is this even possible? I'm telling you, I'm not serious. Just pretending to be cool, you just need to be kind and understand, come on, I'll give myself a drink."

I said "Holy shit" on purpose, just to echo him and put both of us on the same "channel." superior. Self-deprecatingly referring to "serious" as "pretentious" is to make the conversation "on the same frequency" as the entire communication atmosphere.

If you laugh at yourself, you won’t lose meat anyway, and if you laugh at yourself, you won’t lose money anyway, what are you afraid of?

Everyone is in pain sometimes. When you are in pain, you really want to find someone to talk to to help you heal. But have you ever thought that your pain may make people who care about you feel uncomfortable?

People with high emotional intelligence have strong "empathy" and will consider the other person's feelings and thoughts, so happiness can be shared, but it is best to find a suitable way to vent pain and discomfort by yourself.

Once when our company was bidding, there was a version problem with the printed quotation. I immediately called the colleague who was responsible for preparing the bid and asked her how she could make such a mistake.

Before the little girl could answer, her leader Lily took the initiative and said: It’s not her fault, it’s my fault for not writing the version number clearly. In addition, I should check it a second time.

In fact, I know very well that the little girl saved many files on the desktop and the version number was not clear, which caused the error. I also know Lily's intention to take the initiative to block the gun.

In fact, I know better that Lily will say a few more words to the little girl in private, something like "Next time, record the version number in a way you are familiar with, and it will be fine if you communicate with each other a few more words before the official batch printing." ”.

This is not only a kind of mind, but also a kind of emotional intelligence in the workplace.

Someone has said: IQ determines your lower limit, and EQ determines your upper limit.

If we can really make others happy, and we ourselves can be happier, why not do it?

My name is @Lonely_Fish and I look forward to becoming your friend.

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