How to save my girlfriend from deleting WeChat and how to save my ex-girlfriend who has broken up?

There is no love for no reason, and there is no separation for no reason.

Girls are creatures who love to break up, and they are also the easiest creatures to coax.

Too often, breaking up is just a tool to blackmail you into compromise and change, but if a boy is willful for a long time, the disappointment of girls will start to accumulate little by little, and finally only love will remain. Patience will also collapse.

Just because she says "I'm fine" doesn't mean she's really fine.

Just because she says "I'm fine" doesn't mean she's really fine.

Just because she says "I can do anything" doesn't mean she really doesn't care.

But if she says "Let's break up" calmly, it proves that she really wants to break up with her, and even if you keep her, even if she is soft-hearted, it will be difficult for you to keep her heart.

If you don't change, it's only a matter of time before we break up.

But when a girl starts to break up with you calmly, rationally and without any emotional fluctuation, it proves that you have brought her extreme disappointment, so that she no longer wants you to "coax" and more hopes to seek a kind of self-liberation. At this time, excessive "coaxing" will often be counterproductive. What we need to do in the face of a real breakup is change.

So today, let's discuss how to correctly save the ex-girlfriend who has broken up.

First of all, you need to know that "redemption" is only the first step to make the other person temporarily change his mind. It is divided into several stages: disconnection → reestablishment of contact → establishment of comfort → relationship upgrade → recovery.

No disconnection has two meanings. The first layer refers to the two parties who were originally together, cutting off all common contact information. The second meaning refers to the "push-pull rule" in emotion.

Girls break up, which can be divided into true break-up and false break-up.

Girls who really break up generally have the following performances:

① The rational and logical way of breaking up has no strong emotional conflict in the atmosphere of breaking up.

(2) Cut off all contact with you and common social circle, and let you check this person during the cooling-off period.

(3) Take the initiative to be nice to you, showing a cold or unresponsive attitude.

(4) revealing the news of being single in social circles.

The girl who broke up falsely is just the opposite of the one who really broke up. They are usually in a fierce mood and like to express their emotions in a circle of friends. They haven't told their common relatives and friends about your breakup.

Whether it is a real breakup or a fake breakup, the two meanings of breaking off are equally applicable. Girls will cut off contact with you first, so as to strictly distinguish personal boundaries.

Therefore, in the face of the break-up of girls, it is not to give boys time to let themselves go, but to give each other a cooling-off period to re-examine love and make positive changes. Indifference is likely to eventually lead to a complete break-up of girls.

Time limit for breakup: fake breakup (30 minutes ~ 3 days) and sincere breakup (3 days ~ 2 1 day).

Then, let's pay attention to the second meaning: "push-pull rule".

Push-and-pull law refers to letting the other party have huge psychological fluctuations and emotional gaps in a way of one advance and one retreat.

Push: adopt negative behavior patterns, ridicule, suppress, create emotional contradictions, and keep a distance from each other.

Laura: adopt positive behavior patterns, praise and affirm, resolve emotional contradictions and narrow the distance with each other.

To understand push and pull, you can give an example.

For example, if a girl breaks up with you, her psychological inertia is that she wants you to coax her and save her from leaving. Although she said she wanted you to go away, she still hoped you could turn around.

Woman: I have nothing to say to you. Let's break up.

Man: No coaxing, no coaxing, so we won't eat tonight. (push)

Woman: Why don't you let me eat?

Man: I'm afraid you'll kill me if you're full. I'm going to be paralyzed by you, and I can't even hug you then. (pull)

Even if the girl really broke up and is hostile to your "pull", then the boy's attitude should not be too tough.

Push-pull is a psychological tactic. In this process, not pestering and begging can reduce the resistance in girls' hearts and create a very attractive person.

You can first agree to the proposal of girls breaking up, send a signal to girls that "you can be friends without being lovers", stabilize the situation, and try to keep each other's contact information.

This laid the foundation for the subsequent reunion and the emergence of secondary attraction.

No, the premise of rebuilding contact is to find the attraction again. The quickest way to rebuild attraction is to change your appearance. According to research, in the concept of mate selection, besides the personality that both sides attach importance to, the second is appearance.

Personality can't be effectively solved in a short time. It takes long-term and in-depth communication to find the problems in the other person's personality, and it takes time to solve them.

Therefore, in the short term, the most obvious and effective way to rebuild its appeal is to reshape its external image.

You know what she wants to see is not the untidiness after your breakup. If you go on like this, it will only make her more determined to break up with you.

The principle of "seeing color" also applies to the recovery direction. Re-shaping their external image and trying some new dressing styles and image collocation can not only make girls shine, but also give them positive psychological hints and improve their self-confidence.

The purpose of doing this is to hope that your ex-girlfriend will see the change of your life and give them a signal that you have moved out of lovelorn love and started a new life. Seeing these ex-girlfriends, they will be curious about your life, and at the same time ignite their desire to conquer, which will lead to the idea of turning back.

When you re-establish your external attraction, some impatient girls will take the initiative to re-establish contact with you. At this time, boys should avoid arrogance and carelessness, avoid talking about your feelings appropriately, and send out invitations to meet as friends.

There are also some girls who may just stop praising your friends or not respond. While waiting to see what happens, boys can also start some more daily topics with their ex-girlfriends as friends.

At this time, don't express your views and feelings at length, just do it like a dragonfly. Don't over-retain or complain about exposing the sense of need, but imply that "I have changed since I broke up."

Don't let girls notice your need for redemption, which will make them have a resistance and defense mechanism. Hide your needs in time, so that girls can't guess what you think, thus generating curiosity and wanting to know more about you.

No construction comfort and construction comfort are divided into online and offline ways.

Creating comfort online is a great test of boys' chatting skills.

We can be inspired by the following three techniques:

(1) To create a painful topic, it is best to talk about an open topic.

For example, the man said, "Do you know where the card of the cinema where we used to run is?"

Female "seems to be by my side.

Man: "Oh, I rushed 200 yuan into the card. Recently, your favorite four-character brother "Better Days" was released. Remember to go and have a look. "

Note: Let the girl know that you still care about her. At the same time, prepare for the next empathy.

② Find common topics and reach empathy.

Continue the above

M: "I received the ticket purchase record in this short message. Have you finished reading Better Days? "

Female "hmm"

In fact, there is a sentence that is particularly resonant. You protect the world, and I protect you. An old man cried when he heard this. "

Woman: "Yes, it's so touching. This is probably the best look of love. "

..........

Find the points that girls are easily moved and soft-hearted, and constantly explore each other's common memories through topics, so that once beautiful things can reach mutual empathy and make girls feel nostalgic and dependent on you.

(3) Appropriate ambiguous topics.

When you are in closer contact, boys can say something ambiguous to test each other's reaction. If the other party has no obvious resistance, it means that your online comfort has been successfully established.

For example, the man "saw" Better Days "and suddenly felt very empty and melancholy. He felt that no one used my clothes to wipe his nose and tears."

If the other party doesn't completely and resolutely deny these ambiguities, whether the other party's answer is "push" or "pull" has already indicated that the other party doesn't mind discussing sensitive topics with you, then this is a sign of upgrading the relationship.

The rendering of empathy is often inseparable from the following four elements:

① You can choose evening or evening.

This time is the most sensitive time for people, and it is also the time that most easily resonates with girls.

2. You can unconsciously mention the old place where you have had memories.

Such a place often carries a special meaning for you, which can stimulate each other's nostalgia.

You can use your common memories to enhance intimacy and tacit understanding.

This kind of chat has no special purpose and can also arouse the interest of the other party. Even if your relationship is awkward now, it won't put pressure on each other.

4. Try to hint to the other party that "you have changed the unbearable habit of the other party, and you still love each other deeply".

However, through the indirect hints of behavior and language, don't expose your love too much, which will make the other person feel suffocated and thus produce a sense of escape.

There is no relationship of promotion, and it is said to be "ambiguous, which makes people feel wronged", but sometimes ambiguity will make girls want to stop, and in the process of testing each other and suffering from loss, they will feel the freshness and excitement brought by the unknown and uncertainty.

However, in the process of testing, boys must have a good sense of proportion: they should not stretch the front too long, nor should they rush to achieve success, which will eventually lead to failure.

Upgrading from a friend relationship to an ambiguous relationship can be effectively carried out by using the online WeChat circle of friends:

At this point, you can use a key trick: disrupt the rhythm.

That is, you can send your ex-girlfriend something you want to talk about every day for 2-3 days in a row, so that she can get used to talking to you. Then the sudden cold made her suddenly feel that she had lost something and disrupted the rhythm of life. To consolidate your second attraction to your ex-girlfriend.

The creation of online friends circle should also be very cautious. You can create a different circle of friends based on your understanding of your ex-girlfriend.

For example:

① Appropriate circle of weak friends.

Such a circle of friends needs to create just the right sense of loneliness and ambiguity.

Send a pet, a green plant or a doll that we shared before, with the attached text "Only I am with you now."

It's just right to ask you to be neither humble nor servile. Ambiguous is that your ex-girlfriend thinks this circle of friends is addressed to her.

2 inspirational circle of friends.

Such a circle of friends needs to release the signal that "I have become excellent", which can make her feel a sense of crisis and stimulate her desire for peace.

For example, send a photo of a faceless suit with the words "Don't forget to love yourself and love you."

The choice of these two kinds of friends circle must be analyzed in detail. If it is a soft-hearted girl, it is more suitable for the first one. If you are a girl with straightforward temperament, I suggest the first and second mix and match. If you use the second one directly, it may lead girls to think that you have a new love and directly hack you.

No, the last step, which is also the most crucial step, is preservation.

At this time, it is necessary to consider the right time, the right place and the right person to save the confession.

For example, if you send her home on a happy date night, the surrounding environment is quiet and ambiguous. You can hold her hand silently and say:

"Don't take it away. I know it was my fault before, but I still can't forget you. Give me one more chance. You protect the world and let me protect you, okay? "

Such a moment will make the other person briefly enter the halo effect of love, forget the pain and fall in love again.

Of course, the premise of all this is that the other party feels your efforts and changes for this relationship and is willing to run this relationship with you.

Redemption is by no means a natural thing, it requires you to invest a lot of energy and time, even more effort and persistence than building a brand-new relationship.

But those who dare to work hard for love are always much better than those who are cowardly and evasive.

The ending of the song may not end, but the feelings will meet again.