"Husband, where are you? Come back quickly" "Wife, I'm sorry, let's get a divorce"

01.

Someone said, "Emotions are like a handful of sand. The tighter you hold it, the faster it drains." So, sometimes, we have to learn to let go appropriately. If you don't know how to let go, you will lose everything in the end.

Li Juan is a woman who attaches great importance to relationships and marriage, so since she married her husband Cheng Ming, she has known Cheng Ming's whereabouts very well.

Whether Cheng Ming goes to work, goes out to eat with friends after get off work, or goes back to his parents' house, Cheng Ming must report everything to his wife Li Juan.

Only when Cheng Ming reported his whereabouts in detail did Li Juan feel relieved to wait for his return at home.

When he first got married, Cheng Ming thought this was a sign of his wife's love for him.

So no matter where he went or what he was doing, even if it was just a small matter like having a cup of coffee with his colleagues on the street corner during his lunch break, Cheng Ming would report it to his wife via text message or phone call.

Li Juan felt very happy and thought that she had her husband firmly in her hands, so she was a little complacent.

Recalling that my father was not imprisoned by his mother, he made a big mistake and betrayed his mother, which led to divorce and my mother was sad for 15 years.

Therefore, Li Juan does not want to make the same mistake as her mother. She hopes to hold her husband firmly in her hands, so that she can be happy for the rest of her life.

However, sometimes a man is like a little bird, he likes the free sky. If you care about a man, you can't control him too tightly. You should give him appropriate freedom and let him find his own sky.

If you lock him tightly in a cage and restrict his freedom, sooner or later a man will want to desperately escape and get away from your control.

02.

After the honeymoon period of the wedding, Cheng Ming became more and more busy at work. Sometimes, he was so busy that he forgot to report to Li Juan. whereabouts. Li Juan felt very anxious about Cheng Ming's neglect.

One day at noon, after she received no message from Cheng Ming, she quickly called and asked: "Husband, why didn't you send me a message? What are you doing? Are you at work?"

The person who happened to answer the phone was Cheng Ming's colleague. He smiled and said, "Sister-in-law, Cheng Ming just went to the bathroom. We are working overtime at noon and are very busy. I will tell Cheng Ming later to find him."

When Cheng Ming came back, several colleagues gathered around and joked. Everyone said that Cheng Ming was a "hep wife" and had to report his whereabouts even during working hours. This was too pitiful. ?

Cheng Ming's face turned red and purple. After he returned home, he asked his wife not to call him again during working hours. He said that he was busy with work and had no time to answer the phone. He was also teased by his colleagues and blamed himself. No face.

Men are animals that love face and freedom. A woman’s constant tracking will make a man feel that he has no face and that he has lost his freedom. He will feel that he is under your control, a little bit. Suffocating, wanting to escape quickly.

03.

In marriage, women must also take the initiative to respect men's time and freedom. At least during working hours, women should not interfere with men's work. This will make the man laugh at others, and it will also make the man feel annoyed, which will affect your relationship.

However, Li Juan still bombarded Cheng Ming with messages and WeChat, making him feel that he was being monitored all the time, and he couldn't help but feel dissatisfied with Li Juan.

On this day, Cheng Ming forgot to tell Li Juan before going out that the boss would invite his employees to dinner and sing after get off work tonight.

When it was time to get off work, Li Juan called Cheng Ming. Cheng Ming was toasting with his boss at the time and did not have time to listen.

Less than a minute later, Li Juan called again.

Cheng Ming was picking up food when his colleague pressed the speaker button for him.

Li Juan's voice came from the phone: "Hubby, where are you? Come back to me quickly." Li Juan's voice was full of anxiety and a commanding tone.

Cheng Ming couldn't help but blush under the gaze of his boss and colleagues, and stammered: "The boss invited us to drink, we will go back later..."

Cheng Ming's words Before she finished speaking, Li Juan said angrily: "What are you drinking? Don't give me any excuses to fool around outside. Come back right now. Did you hear me? Right now!"

Boss and colleagues Looking at each other, everyone stopped to drink and looked at Cheng Ming with their eyes full of sympathy.

Cheng Ming felt that he had lost all his dignity. He said angrily: "Wife, I'm sorry, let's get a divorce."

Then, Cheng Ming turned off his phone and let it go. Li Juan was yelling on the other end of the phone. He didn't care about anything, he just wanted to escape, escape from Li Juan's surveillance, escape from Li Juan's control, and come out to take a breath.

In marriage, a woman cares too much about one person and wants to take care of him and control him all the time, thinking that she can rest assured and that the man will stay by her side obediently. .

As everyone knows, the more firmly you hold on and the more stubborn you are about letting go, the easier it is to arouse a man's disgust.

He will feel an invisible pressure, like a huge net covering himself inside, with nowhere to escape.

Therefore, a man will desperately want to break away and stay far away from you, so as to get rid of your control over him.

The most important thing for a husband and wife to get along is to respect each other, trust each other, and give each other corresponding freedom. Only if you give men appropriate freedom will men like to come back to you.

A woman’s real control over a man is not to restrict his free space, but to give him more free space to do something he likes after work.

In this way, a man can feel free and comfortable around you, and he will be extremely attached to you.

No matter how wonderful things are outside, I can’t wait to come back to you; no matter how late the time is, I will rush home. Because he feels free and respected around you and just wants to give you more time and more company.

(Xi Xi Nuan Qing Picture | Internet)