What should I do when chatting with blind date girls? That's because you don't know these chatting skills.

Blind date has become the standard for such young people. More and more young friends are either on a blind date or on their way.

Especially by the end of the year, it directly sounded the alarm of completing the kpi index of bringing the object home at the end of the year!

It's easier said than done. If you are a girl with blind date experience, you will find that as long as you have blind date for a period of time, you will find a cruel reality: the communication between adults is not "going back to my home for the New Year?" Yes or no? "It's too simple. There can be too many bugs in the dream blind date process, which makes people bald.

For example, what happens to many girls, such as boys chasing after each other very tightly at first, suddenly getting cold, not knowing what happened, not even knowing the ending, and finally not knowing the reason.

In chat, too, there are often many confusing conversations, which make people feel:

The battery of the mobile phone is dead. Let's talk about it another day.

I'm too busy these days. I'll talk to you later.

You're so good. You are my mother's type.

You're fine. Look at the others.

Wait, these seemingly rejected attitudes seem to give people a glimmer of hope and do not make things clear. What does he mean? Why?

Today Mia will take you to learn the chat skills you have to know about blind date.

First, it is ok to be reserved, but it should be measured.

First of all, it must be clear that blind date itself is fast-paced, so slow fever is almost equivalent to waiting for death.

There are always girls complaining that the blind date has a strong purpose. Yes, the purpose of most people's blind date is to find someone to marry, not to go out and meet more friends. Therefore, it is ok for us to be reserved appropriately, but we don't have to be too passive.

For example, many girls often look for clues from the speed of the other party's reply, the number of words, and some language hints, so as to confirm whether the other party likes me or not and whether the other party has the intention of further communication.

Or block the circle of friends and try to create unavailability and mystery. The WeChat avatar may not be me yet, so shall we let others fall in love with you through the WeChat name?

Girls, wake up, this is all our own inner play.

Students often ask me: Miss Mia, can I talk to him on my own initiative? What I want to tell you is: don't ask, just say it.

Here I also want to share with you a few interesting chat opening remarks:

Come on, I'll tell you something very interesting!

I think you are a little different today.

I found a secret of yours!

Hey, let me guess what you're doing.

Above, the two main points of the opening remarks: arousing each other's interest and related topics can easily break through each other's psychological defense and start a relaxed and interesting conversation.

Second, the first impression of blind date: first be a small sun, and then be an emotional black hole.

Generally speaking, girls will unconsciously have a tendency to express their various small emotions to men who have their own communication intentions.

Because for girls, expressing their small emotions means opening their hearts, for example, saying "Oh, I'm so tired recently" to boys every once in a while. My job is boring. My period is coming, and my stomach hurts. My water pipe is broken. what can I do? Somebody help me. "

Well, I'll give you a clear indicator at this time, that is, when you find yourself starting to say something strange, such as what I said at the beginning of the article, you are fine, I'm very busy recently, I'll talk about it another day, I'm going on a business trip, I lost my mobile phone, etc. There is no doubt that he has begun to avoid you.

Comfort is the most important prerequisite for a relationship to go on.

Comfort comes from our love of life and positive and optimistic attitude, which are all reflected in your words.

Compared with what I said just now, I am too tired to work. You can say: I'm so full after work today, and I found that I forgot to eat lunch today when I got off work.

For example, the water pipe in my house is broken, you can also say: I had a good time today, and when I got home, I found my house washed away by the flood! The only consolation is that I don't have to mop the floor tomorrow!

So you don't have to say much, and boys will take the initiative to ask you and care about you. You should know that negative emotions are not impossible to express, at least until the relationship is stable to the next stage, rather than killing good feelings in the cradle from the beginning.

Third, sincerity is greater than skill.

Another common phenomenon is that boys have a good impression at first, but girls have to use skills forcibly. As a result, they didn't go on because of the strange and cold operation in the early stage, and then they regretted it.

What is a skill? In fact, the real skill is never to be hot and cold, or not to reply to a text message for several minutes, never to send a text message on your own initiative, and so on. It is actually very blunt to create some so-called emotional gaps.

Besides, there are some words that everyone can apply, such as "What would I do without you?" Or directly apply the love words of the soil, occasionally, but the long-term routine is definitely not good.

Our real language ability is to deal with people, which is based on our deep understanding of human nature.

You can see the opposite person, see his armor and weakness, see his joys and sorrows, see his joys and sorrows in the depths of human nature, you can accept his most fragile appearance and appreciate his powerful ability from the heart.

Then it is reflected in the expression that you have your own independent personality and independent thoughts, and you have your own perspective and insight into the problem. This must be based on saying that we have the ability to think independently and express ourselves sincerely.

Many times, the same sentence is really not as effective as saying it directly.

For example, if you express your feelings and thoughts in good faith, you can be sincere, but if you complain, accuse or ask for emotions, that is another matter.

Many girls are eager to show their value when dating, such as how much value they have, how much property they have, how high their education is, and how harmonious their families are. ......

But these are "known information" for men, and they are satisfactory to him, otherwise he would not choose to agree to blind date.

For men, offline "blind date" is to examine the "added value" of women! Because these added values determine whether he is comfortable with you.

So, what additional value should be shown in blind date? To this end, I have prepared a practical guide to blind date for you, so that you can learn to show it properly and make the other person feel better about you ~

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