My husband and my best friend don't return text messages.

Your husband knows that you are kind, but when he is outside with friends, if you are too strict with him and call him often, he will lose face and of course get angry. Put yourself in others' shoes. Sometimes just to give men some independent space. Besides, your husband is not a child, so be measured and don't worry too much about him. If you really think of him, do a good job of logistics support for him at home so that he has no worries, he will appreciate you more and love you more.

I don't think we should do what is said upstairs, because that will only make the situation worse.