My ex-girlfriend broke up with me for seven months. Send me a message asking if I'm okay. What does she think?

It's been more than half a year since your ex-girlfriend broke up with you. Now I send you a message asking how you are doing, which shows that she still cares about you. Maybe she feels that she left you and owes you something and wants to know.

How are you doing? Seek comfort from the heart.

After thinking about it, it's been a long time since we broke up, but it seems that we haven't come out yet. Maybe it's because I love you too much. Even after breaking up, I still live in that shadow and it's hard to get out. Breaking up is usually considered to be painful and irritating. Just talked about breaking up, but it didn't go well. Even if we break up, how should we face our former predecessors?

Number one: don't bother.

There are not a few friends who have broken up around us. There are many reasons and scenarios for breaking up, but there are nothing more than two situations after breaking up. First, one month after breaking up, I began to regret it, began to contact my predecessor crazily, launched an offensive, and prepared to get my predecessor back; The second is to find a new girlfriend immediately after breaking up, and then live a new life and forget the good moments before. Either way, as long as we break up, there may be some estrangement in our hearts.

It's like a cup that breaks when it hits the ground. You stick them together, even if it's a cup, but you have a crack and no longer belong to a complete cup. Love is the same, even if you find that person again after breaking up, you may not be happy afterwards. The best state after breaking up is not to disturb, to develop in your own field, and not to interfere in other people's lives is a good principle.

The best way to get along with her is not to explore everything about her, not to listen to everything about her. After all, you loved each other, and you will be more or less worried. Once her life is not smooth, your heart naturally wants to help her. Your unintentional help may break her existing life, and helping her may be counterproductive.

The second point: don't black, don't delete.

Many people may feel that they will be enemies in the future because of breaking up, and they will delete everything that was once beautiful. Especially the dribs and drabs of two people who were together, these things you deleted can't be recovered. They belong to the dribs and drabs you once owned and are your only memories in the past. And delete their respective contacts and anything that can be deleted or blacked out. Anyway, for the purpose of not being able to contact, the relationship between two people is even stranger than strangers.

In fact, the real way to get along should not be like this. Even if two people break up, they should face this reality bravely, without escaping, refusing, blacking out or deleting. Breaking up means that two people are not in love enough, or that two people are not suitable, but there is no need to break up. You can still be friends after breaking up. Let's bless each other.

I still remember someone saying, "after breaking up, those who can be friends must not have really loved!" " This is actually a false proposition. It is because we have been in love that we know each other better and we have the foundation to be friends. Only because of the simple relationship, and sometimes because of the influence of breaking up, they no longer accept friends, and the image of "enemy" appears.

The third point: love yourself.

You may be puzzled by this, but you really have to treat yourself well. After breaking up, many people will drink and get drunk in order to forget the people they once loved most; Some people will go on a diet and so on, and torture themselves in various ways in order to make themselves forget that person as soon as possible, but the more so, the more they can't forget this person.

After breaking up with your ex, the best way to get along should be to love yourself and hurt yourself. If you are ill, do you think you will be happy to let your ex know? So after breaking up, don't choose the way of self-abuse, but let yourself live better, strive to improve your ability, and let yourself blossom and bear fruit on the road you choose.

Although you may have broken up and no one has said good morning and good night, life will go on. Your love with someone may come to an end temporarily, but you are still moving forward. I only hope that we cherish each other when we learn to fall in love, and learn to let go in time when love is lost, because there are more beautiful scenery on the way forward.

In fact, when two people have parted ways, if you still want to hold each other firmly in your hand, it's like holding an empty shell. Is it worth it? It's better to give up than to torture two people like this. Learn to save you both. Whether you have loved or not, I just hope that when it's time to let go, you should be brave and learn to let go. Don't torture you two, it will kill your feelings.

Miyazaki Hayao said: "Life is a train to the grave, and there will be many stops on the way, so it is difficult to have anyone to accompany it from beginning to end. When the person accompanying you wants to get off the bus, be grateful even if you don't give up, and then wave goodbye. " There is a passage in Jay Chou's Unspeakable Secret: "Chopin's favorite woman, they were together for ten years and finally separated, but they can have it for ten years, which has been a long time."

Thank you for the people who accompanied me through a long journey. During this journey, I have been happy, moved, angry and sad. I believe that since I have loved, it is fate, but it is fate. I have only traveled a short distance in my life. Even if there are thorns everywhere, I will hold my head high and move on. Goodbye, my former lover.