What do you do when you are misunderstood?

I just smiled and didn't talk. Sometimes being misunderstood can be a blessing.

A while ago, my cousin came to my house to play and talked for an afternoon, during which she talked about something that she felt was unfair to me. She heard it from her father, which roughly means that I have been married for ten years and have no savings. I have to borrow money from my family in an emergency, and then there are many feelings that my family doesn't understand how difficult it is to marry my daughter.

To put it bluntly, my husband and I were married naked. When we got married, there was nothing at home except people. In the first year after we got married, we were in the debt repayment period and paid off all the money we owed when we got married. The next year, I can save some money when I have children. At that time, I dreamed of buying a house in the county town two years later and starting a new life. Unfortunately, in the second year, I fell ill and began to take Chinese medicine, and I spent all my previous savings.

Later, because the curative effect of traditional Chinese medicine was not very good, I chose relatively cheap western medicine to alleviate economic difficulties. Then my dad said let me relax, don't always think about buying a house in the county, building a house at home is the business. My husband and I spent two years saving money to tidy up the house. Just after building the house, my father found out cancer, so he began to save money to see his old man.

My father died a month after my second daughter was born, and I had no money at that time. After my father's death, I collapsed because of being too sad and overworked. In addition, I was diagnosed with cancer and was being treated. Great, I have to borrow money from my mother to ease the financial pressure.

When my cousin mentioned that her father misunderstood me, I was actually very wronged. When people get married, there are indeed many times when they can't help it, especially women, who are far away from the familiar environment and are not understood by their parents.

However, no matter how I explain and justify this misunderstanding, I can only say that I don't care. I just smiled. However, this misunderstanding also made me realize that there is something wrong with my life. Maybe these years have passed too fast. People always have a rest and give themselves a buffer. When I was a child, I couldn't plan how to go to work to earn money. You should see your present situation clearly, then set your own goals and seek the direction of your efforts. And my fast-paced life in recent years is probably the main reason why my life is difficult.

From this perspective, this misunderstanding is also a blessing, which makes me realize that I should learn to cherish my eyes and walk slowly step by step.