Others' ambiguity, but you think it is love.

Others' ambiguity, but you think it is love.

Others' ambiguity, but you think it is love. Ambiguity and love are actually two completely different things. We should recognize the difference between the two and not mistake ambiguity for love. Then I'll take you to understand other people's ambiguity, but you think it's related to love.

Others' ambiguity, but you think it is love.

First, ambiguity is a habit, which has nothing to do with liking it or not.

"What is ambiguity?"

"That is, everyone thinks that you are together, and only you clearly know your distance."

Reading a story, every word hides an ambiguous breath, but once you try to debunk it, you will find that both of you tacitly deny it.

Two people are colleagues in the company, with opposite positions, but they don't chat directly, but start sending text messages to communicate.

The woman said, "I met you among thousands of people. I just said that there you are."

The man who received the text message quickly replied: "I prayed in front of the Buddha for 500 years, just to pass by this life."

I thought it was the beginning of a beautiful love, but after work, the woman patted the man on the shoulder and smiled.

"Are you startled? Don't be afraid, I didn't say that, it was Zhang Ailing! "

The man paused and smiled.

"The same to you. I didn't send my message, but Xi Murong did."

Ambiguous, we can contact directly across the distance of time, but you choose to communicate online.

One step away, with the rise of ambiguity, a gust of wind blows, and it is close at hand. No one remembers this story except the two people involved, but most of them are just one of them.

Rainie Yang sang in "Ambiguity": "Ambiguity makes people feel wronged and can't find evidence of love."

Love Yang once had a poem "Ambiguous", which told all the vicissitudes of life: "Why give yourself a chance to indulge? Might as well end up with a misunderstanding. Anyway, now that we are embarrassed, the feelings I am willing to pay are wasted. "

Ambiguity is a habit and has nothing to do with liking. Ambiguity takes many forms, but ultimately it is inseparable from loneliness. You are the antidote when he is lonely, the playmate in the long night, the helping hand when he falls into endless darkness, and the pedal when he returns to the heat wave.

Second, most things you don't like are ambiguous ways of playing.

In this summer vacation, Lucy, whose mother is single, told us that she fell into the swamp of love.

Boys met in Weibo. Lucy commented on a funny Weibo at that time. He praised her Weibo, and later paid attention to her private letter, saying that Lucy was interesting and wanted to apply for WeChat. Looking at the boy's request between the lines, Lucy relented and agreed. Boys love singing. On the night of making friends, the boys played the guitar and sang to Lucy. Although the boy's face can't be seen in the video, Lucy is still immersed in each other's singing.

They chat like this. Lucy sometimes shares new things in her life with boys, and sometimes she is silly. The boy at the other end will be spoiled and say "fool". Lucy had a nightmare and told the boy at the first time that the boy called without saying anything, comforted and cherished it, and soon coaxed the depressed Lucy; Lucy's birthday is coming, and the boys have carefully prepared gifts. There is also a photo of Ps in the gift, which is a photo of the boy wearing a panda hood and Lucy.

It seems that apart from the words "I like you" and "Let's be together", everything between them is no different from ordinary couples.

But there are still some differences. For example, boys never say "good night" to Lucy.

In the emotional world of girls, "good night" actually means "I love you", and the pinyin of good night is the pinyin of I love you.

But Lucy found that boys never say good night to her, even if they send expression packs, they are all "bye bye", "sleep" or "goodbye".

I don't know if it's a period of emotional burnout. After knowing each other for a month, they began to become indifferent. Boys no longer reply to Lucy's news. They can even take the initiative to find Lucy for several days, but when they look at their circle of friends, they can see the music shared by boys and the photos of going out to play.

What really made Lucy lose confidence in this relationship was the news of quitting.

It was twelve o'clock at night. Usually everyone was sleeping at this time, but I didn't, so I saw the sentence sent by that boy when I was playing with my mobile phone:

Good night. Love you.

At that time, they had not spoken for nearly a week, but Lucy was still rubbing her hands happily. However, the news was quickly withdrawn. Lucy froze and didn't sleep a wink all night.

The next day, Lucy pretended not to know what the boy had withdrawn, but the boy didn't care:

"Nothing, just boring news, wrong."

It was also at that moment that Lucy realized that it was not that boys would not say good night, but that they would not say it to themselves. This joy of love is just a veil over her eyes. Now that the cloth has been lifted, everything is clear.

Mr. Gu Long once said: "Love is like a master's trick, and the one who gets it first loses."

When you find yourself in an ambiguous situation, don't think too much, don't ask too much, don't say too much, don't expect too much, just leave quietly.

People who really love you won't let you fight alone.

"He doesn't really like you that much" has long told us the truth of love:

If a man doesn't call you, he just doesn't want to call you; If a man thinks you don't care about you, then he really doesn't care about you; If a person wants to see you, believe me, he will let you see him, even by running.

The biggest difference between ambiguity and love is whether one person is trying to get close to another person or two people are going to each other together.

We are always used to finding reasons for ambiguous people, such as he is not mature enough, such as he is shy, such as he may be planning to confess, and so on. But he only missed one possibility, that is, for example, he just wanted to have fun.

There is a simple reality-he may just not like you that much, that's all.

If we like someone, our possessiveness will change accordingly. Whether it is a man or a woman, we will subconsciously encircle our lover, just like raising a canary, which can only be cherished by ourselves, and no one else can covet it.

Chang Xia often complains that her boyfriend is too generous. She is not allowed to wear shorts and short skirts, talk too much with the opposite sex, or even go shopping together. She will hold her hand tightly for fear that she will slip away halfway. When complaining, Chang Xia was smiling with starlight in her eyes.

But before falling in love, my boyfriend was too shy to say love.

It was not until Valentine's Day on Qixi came quietly, and it was not until Chang Xia made a circle of friends who wanted to fall in love that this relationship was repaired.

He Jiong said a passage, deeply impressed:

"He and you play ambiguous, just don't like you enough. Men really like a person. I can see from his eyes that he can't wait to tie you up. How can he be hot and cold, advance and retreat? Yes, I know. I always wanted him to look after you before I had sex with you. So, don't be sentimental about the man who is ambiguous to you. Even if he often pulls you out and sends text messages and calls every day, even if he hugs you and kisses you, it still doesn't make any sense. "

No confession, informal relationship is not love, just ambiguity. People who really love you won't let you fight alone in your feelings. Even shy boys will summon up courage for what they love, just to say to you:

"I like you, let's be together!"

Fourth, learn to say "good night" to yourself.

Ambiguity has three major manifestations: denial, rejection and irresponsibility.

Love rat's success in ambiguity lies in their familiarity with love routines and insight into girls' psychology. They know when to cast a net, when to put bait, when to close the net, and when to leave those stunted fish and shrimp behind.

When ambiguity has an effect, you will find that you can always get comfort when you need it, and you can always find a place when you want to share it. But once you want to be honest with love, you will find the opposite person erratic. He is still talking about love words and still making ambiguous expressions, but he never takes the initiative to say love and should not "woo" you.

People will be lonely, and loneliness can be divided into benign and malignant. Benign loneliness is the best emotion to cultivate oneself, while vicious loneliness is the driving force to fall into the bottomless abyss.

We don't always want to pin our feelings on others, but always expect a "good night" from others.

Good night may mean "I love you", but in the eyes of people who don't love you, it's just a farewell expression.

Some people can't extricate themselves from the emotional swamp, while others are calm in their feelings. The difference is whether we will say good night to ourselves. The love you want can be given not only by others, but also by yourself. It is not difficult, but it is only one of the compulsory contents of personal psychological quality.

A word from Zhang Ailing:

"I want you to know that there is always someone waiting for you in this world. No matter when and where you are, you know there is always such a person."

Others' ambiguity, but you think it is love. Do you think it is love? It's just an affair.

Ambiguity is the fourth emotion in the legend, which is more complicated than friendship and more pure than love.

Ambiguity means that two people have never promised anything, but even so, you are willing to pay more than a committed couple. There is no responsibility, but you are eager to take it and ask for nothing in return. We are ambiguous, but we don't belong to each other. Ambiguity is never love.

Looking back on the past, I often feel that the time before the feelings began was the most unforgettable and happiest.

So, I secretly rejoice, feeling that the other person's eyes are full of love and that the other person's little moves have ulterior motives.

Occasionally cross your eyes, or panic and avoid, or smile at each other.

There is a secret feeling that others don't know, you know, and I know.

So, you regard this as love, so you think you can go further, so you wait and wait, and all you can get is a surprised expression: why do you think so?

So if you regard ambiguity as love, you may find it ridiculous.

Ambiguous is that although many things have happened, it seems as if nothing has happened. Ambiguity is the person you will think of when you see these words. Ambiguity is always ambiguous, and it is an involuntary temptation, so we can't stay together well. There is such a feeling in the world that it's really hard to say it, and it's wrong to say it, so everyone chooses not to start, but never to end.

So some smart people like to play ambiguous games. We can flirt with each other and not talk, but please don't break this rare balance. Because it can make beauty last longer and longer.

Ambiguity is near, love is far, starting with emotion and ending with ceremony. Maybe this is the highest level of feelings.

May you be serious and not ambiguous. May you have fun and don't miss others.