Girls complain that boys don't often take the initiative to chat with her. Why?

Usually, the topic of initiative is just like our subconscious. We think that in love, a boy should take the initiative first, because only when he takes the initiative will this relationship last longer.

This logic has some truth, because men are hunters themselves. The more difficult women are to get along with, the more interested they are. The longer they pursue them, the more they will cherish them in the future.

Therefore, if women take the initiative, men may agree, but after agreeing, they may be more perfunctory or not care at all.

So if you ask me, do girls take the initiative in falling in love? My suggestion is: you can take the initiative, but you can only take a small part. As for the rest, you must give it to the children.

In fact, if a girl is smart enough, she should learn to give hints and use the law of attraction to attract the boy to actively pursue you and chat with you, instead of you actively opening the topic.

0 1.

As soon as I arrived at the company in the morning, the little girl at the front desk came to me to complain. It turned out that the boy she just met on a blind date last month never contacted her, but she took the initiative to find each other several times. He didn't say yes, but he didn't say no.

Huanhuan is particularly depressed. When I mentioned the boy, I could clearly feel her anger. Afterwards, she asked me, do boys dislike me with this attitude?

In fact, girls who are a little smarter should know that this boy is definitely not interested in Huanhuan. Because boys who like someone can't help but not contact each other. Besides chatting, they can't help asking girls to meet, they want to hug themselves and so on.

As a girl, I hope you can understand one thing: whether a man loves you or not, the details can be explained.

For example, if you have a cold, tell the boy you like that he won't just ask you to "drink more hot water" through the screen, nor will he just send a message "Don't forget to bring an umbrella" on WeChat when it rains.

A boy who really loves you will buy medicine for you when you have a cold. Even if you are in different cities, you can send you what you need by ordering takeout.

So, don't trust those so-called people who let you drink more hot water, but trust those who will send you home even when it rains. You are more eager to see you when you are sick than you are.

02.

Men's intentions towards women are obvious. Only those who like it take the initiative, and those who don't like it take the initiative selectively.

For example, if he feels lonely and bored, he will send you a message asking what you are doing. If you think he likes you at this time, you are all wet.

Because it's very likely that he sent it to you and others at the same time. So you think this is his unique greeting to you, but maybe it's just a pastime to kill time when he is bored.

Everyone is an adult, and everyone knows feelings. It's just that some people like to deceive themselves. Because I like it, I am willing to make excuses for each other. "He's just busy" and "He must have, uh, read my message". I don't know that while you deceive yourself again and again, you are also beautifying the image of the other person in your heart.

If you are a happy girl, then I want to give you some advice: First of all, no matter how much you miss each other, you must remember not to take the initiative to contact, because the feelings that come on your own initiative are cheap; Secondly, manage yourself well and make yourself more and more excellent, because only when you become excellent can men be easily attracted to you.