Why not send new year greetings in groups?

Every year on New Year's Eve, when a family is celebrating, there will always be a situation of "Wait a minute, wait for me to send the New Year message (WeChat)".

Sending new year message (WeChat) in groups is like a task, perhaps because of herd mentality, perhaps because there is no time to customize it for everyone, or because many "people with no special intersection" don't know how to pay New Year greetings.

But is the mass New Year message really useful?

I believe that everyone will be bombarded by group messages (WeChat) during the New Year. I also believe that we all have the history of editing New Year greetings and then bombing others in groups. Before the Spring Festival this year, we might as well think about how you feel when you receive a mass message.

In Li's book "Please Stop Invalid Socialization", I was deeply impressed by a passage. She said, "Why don't I send new year messages in groups?" Discriminatory treatment is a taboo in interpersonal relationships. ""From the SMS era to the WeChat era, the platform of flowing water, the iron-clad public New Year message. This has almost become the New Year custom of China people in the era of communication popularization. I can't refuse or complain about mass texting wrapped in blessings and goodwill, but a long time ago, I stopped mass texting New Year greetings and holiday greetings. "This post-90 s girl broke the sense of helplessness, loss and even boredom when I received a mass blessing message. Yes, it is helpless, lost and boring.

I don't see too much sincerity about the stereotyped mass short messages, but it affects the really useful information transmission during the New Year. It's just that during the Chinese New Year, I have a lot of unread information to deal with on WeChat. Usually I will at least process all the unread information of the day before going to bed every day. But what can I say in the face of a large number of short messages with blessings and goodwill? Even more embarrassing, how should I reply? Reply to the same group message?

Sometimes I feel lost when I receive a group blessing from a friend who thinks I am close. "I thought our relationship was different from that of ordinary friends. I didn't expect the face-slapper to wait for a blessing from the masses." I believe many people understand this feeling.

Knowing that even if you write a group of short messages with high literary talent, it will not have a good effect. Why do we still enjoy it? Perhaps it is the "relationship society" that China people attach great importance to. Some people don't have much in common, but they feel too cold if they don't maintain their relationship during the New Year, and they are afraid of losing this network. As a result, this group blessing was born, and various "blessing messages" on the Internet began to get hot again.

But is the "network" you maintain by "sending messages to celebrate the New Year" really useful? In addition to making the number of your WeChat contacts "look a lot", how many of these superficial relationships can really be used when you need to talk and help? China people seem to have many misunderstandings about "connections", thinking that knowing "high-end people" means entering "high-end circles", but they don't know that interpersonal communication is based on the principle of reciprocity, that is, "equal replacement of resources". I know that saying this will make many people jump out against it and feel that they have defiled each other's "pure feelings." But if you think about it carefully, even the friendship that is not utilitarian in the student days is to cherish each other, accompany each other and talk to each other. No one can pay unilaterally for a long time. The resource of "peer-to-peer replacement" is not necessarily "money", but also "feelings". I don't deny that everyone has a desire to grow up, but I suggest that instead of focusing on "meeting and maintaining high-end contacts", it is better to focus on "cultivating your own ability first". Before that,