A letter to my dear ex-husband

Even if we are strangers with our ex-husband, we will never forget the past time, because we first met, got married and then separated. I have always loved you with my original attitude. Below I sorted out a letter to my dear ex-husband. Welcome to reading.

A letter to my dear ex-husband XXX:

Suddenly I don't know what to call you.

Congratulations, you are about to enter the wedding hall.

This time it's the bride, not me.

My heart is dying. Compared with the pain, struggle and entanglement before the divorce, I hope my heart is dead. Now that the dust has settled and everything has passed, my baby has finally been stolen, and I still have a heart to go.

My reason has gradually recovered, and now I can have a quiet chat with you.

We have been in love since high school. In order to be together, we struggle with teachers, with our studies, with our parents and with reality. It took us ten years to move and conquer everyone before we can be together. It only took three months from our divorce to your promise to another woman.

For me, you were the enemy of the whole world. But now, you are against me for another woman.

So I think you must love her very much. That's why you are willing to let your efforts be disappointed by yourself for her.

I never understood how you could ignore me and exchange your future for your harm. You used to love me so much. We get along day and night, tide over the difficulties, and rely on each other's body temperature to resist the cold. You are familiar with my soft hair, the smell of food and my nickname. Although we have so many difficult problems, we also have so many past that we can't give up. I thought that even if it was based on habit, you would change your mind sooner or later.

But then I gradually realized that I was imagining your situation with my mind. Because I still love you, I can't measure our past in your heart with the heart you no longer love.

Yes, I've changed. No matter how beautiful the past is, it has been shelved. Those beautiful and bright living rooms and well-ventilated rooms are left to your present and future. Even if you still have my seat in your heart, you are locked in that dark attic, because no one passes by all the year round and it is covered with dust.

You are just a person who dares to pay for love. This courage is not just mine. You are not loyal to me, you are only loyal to your feelings, your feelings and the people you love at the moment.

Your indifference to me is your sincerity to another person.

I used to hate you. You betrayed our feelings, our marriage, our vows. You promised to take me to a beautiful place. I trust you wholeheartedly and let you drive me anywhere. However, when I was crossing the sand dunes, you left me and rode away. I stood there alone, helpless and with tears in my eyes.

Later, I finally understood that the end of every relationship is related to the mistakes of two people. It's just that you showed all the problems and struggles between us in a secular way and ended this relationship.

My fault, too. These mistakes have gradually become irreconcilable contradictions in our lives, becoming more and more profound rivers, spanning between us, insurmountable and incalculable.

No one else can be the essence of our feelings. At best, they are a fuse.

So I try not to hate you, and try to write this letter to you when your wedding is approaching.

Whether you are still here or not, I will be fine. I learned to forgive life, and I learned a lot about right and wrong. I'm glad you have a new beginning. Although you haven't known each other for a long time, you have a lot of things. You have a failed marriage that has taught you something and brought you changes, which can offset too much running-in time.

I want to believe that this is also my wealth. My true happiness needs to go through such ups and downs between you and me, which shows how precious and heavy it is.

Divorce is much easier than I thought, and the pain is thorough. I can cry without hiding my tears under my eyes. This is a neat way to bid farewell to the past and get a new life.

Sometimes I feel that life is nothing, and there are thousands of programs set, which one we may meet. It is enough to understand carefully.

I won't attend the wedding so as not to embarrass many people and remind me of our original wedding. I will ask Xiao Ai to give me a red envelope. I hope you can really grow old together this time.

With the end of a marriage, I understand a truth. I wonder if this price will be too heavy. But now I have paid the price, and I must grow up. I will try to accept the life entrusted to me by fate, no matter what kind of life it is, I will try to find happiness in it.

Now, our play? Whether it is a tragedy, a comedy or a farce, there is an ending. I don't think I need to bother to name you. I will clean the room, lock all your things in the attic and lock the door. Soon, it will be covered with dust.

XXX

XXXX。 X. X

A letter to my dear ex-husband, dear Zhang.

Even if we are strangers from now on, please allow me to continue to call you that, because I have always loved you from the initial attitude since we first met, got married and later separated.

On August 30th, when my daughter got the college admission notice, we broke up peacefully in front of several judges! I have known you since I was 24 years old, and now I have spent 20 years. The best time of youth is watching. For 20 years, time has stepped on my heart again and again. I thought tears and sweat could lead to happiness. I didn't expect it to be a point of no return. You left me on the way!

1June, 994 10, I just graduated from college, with a longing for happiness, followed you into the marriage hall. My parents and sisters managed to smile at our wedding. I know they are out of concern and love, and they are worried about my hasty marriage, because I just graduated from college and haven't been involved in the world. I don't know that the worries of my elders are all about the summary and lessons of my past life experience. Are you going on a business trip before your honeymoon? I thought such a business trip was just an ornament of our married life, but in the past 20 years, long-term separation has become the norm in our life? 365 days a year, you spend about 300 days away from home! It may be an objective work need at first, but gradually I find that you seem to enjoy this separated life more. Because you have been away for many years, my life is messy and trivial, with all kinds of worries? At the beginning of our marriage, for your work, the house we rented was very close to your company. I had to go through the whole city from south to north and fly over Daiyue to and from work. I am responsible for the trivial necessities of life, water, electricity and rent on weekdays? At that time, I didn't expect that such a big financial undertaking had buried hidden dangers for my future life, so that when I often asked you for living expenses before my divorce, you could still refuse me so naturally, because my contribution was taken for granted. 20 years of love is worthless to you! My sister once said that I am a person who runs after a bus? Indeed, since I met you, I have been fighting for survival and running for 20 years. Even after we had a daughter, you went on a business trip. Although you can apply for a second interview, you didn't. Looking at my starving daughter and thinking about making ends meet, I decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination at the suggestion of my little sister. At that time, I was only 26. Maybe I inherited my mother's submissive nature as a northern woman, but I will discuss with you from other places about the big things at home, so I truthfully reported my plan for the postgraduate entrance examination, and you didn't agree. I thought it was because you were afraid of the disparity in future status and your male chauvinism and selfishness, and you were secretly happy, so you have been living in poverty and distant love. 1999 It's time to raise funds to buy a house in your company. After five years of marriage, we couldn't even pay 70 thousand yuan, so my parents took out the pension money they had saved while raising four children to study and paid us the full amount? My parents said that as long as my daughter can be happy! I thought you would be moved by this and will always remember it. I also thought that this house would pass on the warmth and accompany us for 70 years? Time is here, years are here, you are here, I am here, our home, which was once full of laughter and laughter of our family, will continue to be happy at the next stop, and things will change, but that's all.

As a woman, do you know how I lived so long while you were away? ! I have been an excellent employee for almost all these years, but my colleagues don't know that I have to buy rice, oil and gas after work? The former community service industry is far from being so complete now. I was born with dozens of kilograms of rice, not born strong, but exercised me when you were away; I really can't move the gas tank, so I can only find a flat place to go home; The sewer was blocked, so I repaired it myself to save money. The light bulb is broken, so I'll build a bench to change it myself; My daughter went to school, from kindergarten to junior high school, and then to junior high school and high school. I broke my leg and mouth, went to various cram schools, and I was sent to pick them up. Once a woman full of illusions about life became more independent and stronger than a man under the test of survival? It's not that I don't want to be a warm woman, coquetry in your arms, but I have to go on living while you are away.

After having a daughter, my grandfather is gone, my grandmother is born with rheumatism, and she is paralyzed in bed, so she can't rely on it. My parents will continue to work hard for my younger brother and sister to study. Therefore, in addition to my mother's help during the slack season, my sister became a regular nanny in our family during the winter and summer vacations. The child just turned 2, and I gritted my teeth to send my daughter who can't urinate herself to kindergarten? Every morning, because we have to catch the bus, our daughter is the first to see it off, and sometimes even before the teacher comes, she gives it directly to the kind doorman at the door. In the evening, when I come to pick up my daughter non-stop, our daughter is often left alone at the kindergarten gate. Now that I think of such a scene, my eyes are wet! Four years of kindergarten, Leng Xia is hot in winter, and our daughter has been looking forward to returning to her mother's warm arms in time! What's my problem with you if you get divorced? I can ignore my personal pain and fatigue, but I can't forgive your absence when my daughter was growing up.

Of course, after 20 years of marriage, you can't erase the time you once loved because you broke up. At that time, when you were in love, you still beat your chest and said that you would give me warmth and happiness for a lifetime. Even though I knew that the promise at that time didn't count, I was still happy at that moment. You're on a business trip, so I'll travel with you with my children. In a few days after you come back from a business trip, you will bend over 180 cm to help me wash clothes and fold quilts. However, in our marriage, time in this place is precious because it is few, but in retrospect, there are not many words to record, but I would rather smile than write off your kindness, because I still remember my initial heart when I entered the marriage? We were young then, and we fell in love!

Many nights when you were away, I was lonely. My pillow is full of books, especially essays and travel notes. It's not that I don't need to be loved, but that when you are away, my body has nowhere to put it. At that time, books became my best comfort before going to bed? From the footprints of others, or from the love of others, I open another window of life again. Because I am young, I also hope that my body and mind can wander freely in love. If not, please allow me to imagine! ? My parents used to be privately dissatisfied with our life, saying that I read too many books and was stupid. I lost money and went to a university in Beijing, and it is one of the two enrollment plans in Beijing! Probably, because no one my age in the community seems to have a worse life than me. The most important thing is that I don't even know it myself, but I still enjoy it! After having a daughter, there are piles of children's books beside my bed. The main spiritual supply of our daughter's childhood is probably being in her mother's arms every night? Baby stories? Yes! Now that I think about it, the luckiest thing is that our daughter has been healthy and happy by my side, even if you have been away, even if you find fault with her study every time you meet briefly, even if you hardly give her living expenses. I think this is probably the best reward that life has given me for so many years. So even if I'm single now, even if I'm still poor, even if you haven't given my daughter any college fees yet, I'm still grateful! After the divorce coincided with the National Day holiday, I was black and blue and went back to my elderly parents. They said? Go away, don't worry, mom and dad are here, there's nothing to get through. ! Walking on a familiar country road, smelling the familiar smell, I remembered Hu Defu's "Hurry"? At first glance, spring flowers are red, but in a blink of an eye, it has become winter. In a hurry, in a hurry, a year is easy to come to an end, and the years have disappeared without a trace? I suddenly burst into tears!

My sisters accused me of being passive in my marriage, like a sunflower, only revolving around you and not living for myself. Think about it, too. After watching it for 20 years, my body and mind are tilted. Just like at this moment, even if we are separated, I wish you happiness, because you are not only the father of my daughter, but also the man I have loved for 20 years!

That's it, don't cross! Goodbye, you are still my ex-husband!

XXX

XXXX。 X. X

A letter to my dear ex-husband San XX:

After calling you, I thought about it for many days, but I still wrote this letter to you. No other meaning. I just want to finish what I didn't finish on the phone. After so many years, the old grievances have almost been erased in my heart. The only thing that hasn't been erased is the affection for you and your family. If the earthquake in Japan was not so serious, I would always think about your sister's safety in Japan, so I wouldn't call you. Originally, it was also an international direct dial, but the phone prompts that the international call has not been opened, so I have to call you. To tell the truth, I really can't stand your sour tone, so I have to swallow my unfinished words back. I can't help it, just finish what I haven't finished. You said that after you returned from Japan, you started your old job again. In fact, I really want to ask you that the old man is too old to work with you now. Do you do it yourself or find a partner? I also want to tell you that people who are almost 40 should get married quickly. Your mother is kind-hearted and vain. If this goes on, will you find a divorce to take care of your children in the future?

You didn't ask me a word, and I didn't have a chance to tell you about me. Let me say a few words to you now, and even tell you that I am fine now. I have been a professional online game businessman for so many years, and my income is ok. Several computers are working every day. Usually there is little time to go out, and she has become a veritable house girl. My parents are fine, my mother has fully recovered, and my father is still strong. My brother, who has promised to buy two bulldozers with his own loan, is now doing earthwork and earning a good monthly income. He should have paid off all the loans for half a year ... nothing else. I want to tell you this.