What absurd reasons have you heard for breaking up? How did you respond?

I once received a private letter, something like this.

My girlfriend is Aries. She usually loves to talk and laugh, and likes to be crazy. And I'm a cancer, I'm sensitive and I'm not very good at expressing myself. After reading the online constellation analysis, I feel that our characteristics are quite similar. The horoscope analysis says that our happiness is 50%, and I feel a little uncomfortable with her. What should I do? She has a good nature and a kind person. After getting along for half a year, she has certain feelings, but sometimes she is like a child in character.

Wonderful!

Then my reply.

Hello:

First of all, please allow me to extend my most sincere respect and heartfelt thanks to your parents on behalf of witchcraft, divination, tarot cards, witches, and many online celebrities, large and small, who make a living from horoscope jokes.

Imagine if you go on a blind date and the other person asks for a copy of Li Juming 20 16 Year of the Monkey, will your heart thump? How come when it comes to yourself, this nonsense of "50% happiness" also matters?

It may be because it coincides with your unwillingness to say it, reflecting that there is a ghost in your heart.

Astrology has spread for thousands of years, and constellation theory has spread all over the world, which must be reasonable. However, what is terrible is that believers take the deviation as a logical starting point, and then form psychological hints, and take astrolabe analysis as a reference for life. The more I believe, the more I look like it, and finally I can't extricate myself.

The great chicken soup for the soul tells us that a glass is half full, a pessimist is empty when he sees it, and an optimist is full when he sees it. I came to you, and the constellation analyzed "50% happiness" and pointed to the conclusion that "I feel a little uncomfortable with her". The question is "What should I do?" I'm afraid I have given up.

Borrow a sentence from Lin, the representative of your pessimistic circle: "Look at whose heart the moon once represented, and the results are all the same." The most futile struggle of ordinary people is to be different. But the road of love, who can avoid custom.

The half-year experience of "having a certain feeling" and the current confusion are nothing more than confirming the lyrics of Uncle Jonathan Lee who has read all over the world of mortals: "The first minute is wonderful, and everyone thinks that the enthusiasm will never decrease, except for a little bit of fatigue after the passion fades."

But people who grope in love are not all like you, looking for shields everywhere to cover up their inner cowardice. When encountering an inflection point, rational people are willing to hold the space of trial and error, communicate frankly and give each other some opportunities. Emotional people will at least tell the truth and break up openly. Only immature people will revolve around the problem.

People who usually ask what to do are not inconclusive, but just want to find an expected answer from other places. But I'm afraid the truth will disappoint you. Even if you follow the constellation guide and look for your love in the endless horizon, you will meet "happiness 100%" at the foot of endless green hills. Once you get along with each other day and night, you will find other shortcomings, and then drop to 50% or even lower.

The urgent task is to abandon the obsession with perfect scores and learn to accept and tolerate the present.

For people who don't understand love, feelings are like playing a stand-alone game, constantly saving/loading, and replicating similar experiences in different individuals. The right love is to meet the right person, then get together and start an everlasting adventure. There is running-in and even friction, but stumbling does not affect the goal and destination of * * *.

All the troubles in the world, cognitively speaking, are either your problems or mine. If we are more thorough, we should quote Wang Xiaobo: all human sufferings are essentially anger at their incompetence.

None of the above has anything to do with birth, family background, education, appearance, and even less with the constellation.

Can you find a more decent excuse for breaking up?

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