The woman dictated: What should I do if the leader has been sexually harassing me?

Last year, after I graduated from graduate school, I went to work in a public institution. It is not easy to find a job now, and it is not easy for me to find such a job, so I cherish it and am serious and responsible for my work. I didn't know until I went to work that the relationship with the leader was too difficult to get along with, not as simple as I thought. What bothers me is not work, but the ambiguous harassment of several leaders. From my first day at work, my eyes sparkled when the supervisor looked at me. I didn't think much, because everyone said I was beautiful and a pure girl. I have been chased by boys since high school, so I have long been used to the burning eyes of men. At work, the leaders in charge take good care of me and arrange little work, which gives me time to familiarize myself with the business. If I don't understand, I can ask him. Once after work, the car in charge of the leadership stopped by me and asked, "Where is Xiaowen going?" I said go home, and he asked him where he lived. After I answered it, he said, "It's just on the way. Get on the bus and I'll give you a ride. " So I got on the bus. After getting on the bus, he chatted with me and asked, "Have you just started working and adapted to the environment of the unit?" I said adapt, and he asked, "How do you adapt to your job?" "Under the guidance and care of the leaders, I have mastered it." He smiled and said, "Xiaowen is still very talkative! Work hard, and I have to burden you? " We talked like this for a while, and he jokingly asked, "Xiaowen, don't you thank me for taking you home?" I said, "Thank you." "Then how are you going to thank me?" I am speechless. Seeing my silence, he put his hand on mine and I instinctively pulled it out. He said with a straight face, "Do I have electricity in my hand? Are you so far away from me? " I don't know how to answer him or how to deal with such a thing. I don't think I can take his car in the future. However, I don't have to take his car, but I have to work. It is inevitable to get in touch with leaders at work. When no one is around, he will say something ambiguous and provocative. I dare not contradict him. After all, he is the leader, and maybe he will give me "little shoes". Once the leader handed over the work, looking at no one, patted my ass and I dodged. He was a little unhappy and said, "Maybe my request is too much, but you have to think about it." I don't know what he meant, but I realized that he was threatening me. Being kissed by the leader for the first time, I dare not offend. Once, he gave me a lot of work, and I didn't finish it. He made me work overtime. Overtime didn't end until late that day. When I was almost finished, I got a call from him asking how I was doing, and I finished writing. He said it was hard work. Let me invite you to dinner. I didn't go. A few days later, he gave me a lot of work. I don't know if he did it on purpose. One day, he said he wanted to talk to me about work and invited me to a coffee shop. I wanted to refuse, and I was afraid that he would retaliate against me, so I went. When he came to the single room, he changed his old seriousness, talked to me about some things at work, said that the next step was to readjust the division of labor, and asked me what I thought. Of course, I won't say anything, I can only say that I obey the leadership arrangement. After chatting for a while, he sat next to me. I tried to hide, but I didn't. He hugged me and kissed me on the sofa. Although there is no substantive contact, he has violated me and I feel insulted. When I went to his office, he looked as if nothing had happened, motioned me to close the office door, and then whispered to me, "Honey, did you sleep well last night?" "No" I answered him reluctantly. "I didn't sleep well. I miss you. Come and kiss me. " At some point, he tried to hold my hand, and I quickly dodged. Boss asked me to call his brother. It's not just this leader that gives me a headache, but also the "number one". I went to deliver the document to him that time. He asked me to wait for a while and said that I would sign it right away. I waited beside him. He asked me what I was busy with while watching. I replied that I was sorting out papers, and he asked me if I would like to do the job. I said yes. We talked about work for a while and talked about some family matters. We feel that the distance seems to be closer. "Number one" said, "Don't call me a post in the future. Call me brother. " I didn't expect him to say such a thing, and I didn't know how to answer it at the moment, but I didn't call him brother. I think leadership is leadership, and there must be boundaries. If I really call him brother, he will make further demands, and I will be more passive. I dare not offend the number one, because he holds the power of life and death, so I can only keep my distance from him. Fortunately, he doesn't do this often, but sometimes when there is no one in the office, he will tentatively say something. "You are very talkative. Do you have a boyfriend? " "No" "You are so beautiful, there must be many people chasing you around." Oh, I haven't worked long and I don't want to find a boyfriend yet. I want to do my work well first, and I'll talk about my personal problems later. ""Well, yes, work hard while you are young, and there will be many opportunities in the future. "As he spoke, he handed me the document, and I quickly took it, but he took my hand and I hesitated to pull it out. Wouldn't it be a shame for him if he pulled it abruptly? He gave me a look, said the skin was really good, and then kissed it. I said awkwardly, "If it's all right, I'll leave." He smiled and said, "I don't want you to go. "I have a paper to finish," I said and ran out of his office. I was drunk by the leader. Occasionally I get a call from him asking me to send him a file or something. As long as there is no one in his office, he will say something ambiguous or do something ambiguous. At that time, the superior unit came to inspect the work, and the leader found several lesbians with good temperament to entertain the inspection team at dinner. Halfway through dinner, I saw "No.1" in the bathroom. He asked me where to go after dinner, and I said I would go home. After the entertainment, the driver will send the members of the inspection team away separately. I take the "No.1" bus home, and I sit in the back seat with him. He is close to me. In the dark, his hand held mine and touched my leg several times. I didn't dare to make a noise to resist, because the driver was driving, and I was worried about the bad communication, so I had to endure it. Not to mention, there is a leader in charge who I can't cope with. Sometimes, I get short messages from him, either inviting me to dinner or sending a message of concern. I can politely refuse this meal, but I have to go to the office. Once, he called me to his office. I went, and he arranged an unimportant job for me. When he finished speaking, I turned to leave. He asked me if I was in a hurry. I said no, he chatted with me for a while and asked me what my future plans were. I said I would obey the arrangement of the leader, and he smiled and said, "Well, as long as I obey, it's only a matter of time before I get promoted. Besides, you are so beautiful and exciting. As long as you are smart, promotion is easier said than done. "I know he has something to say, so I dare not speak any more. I said thank you and turned away. Soon, he asked me to go to his office on the grounds of work, and I had no choice. He sat at the big boss's desk and asked me if he had finished the work he gave me. After I reported it truthfully, he said, "I had a dream last night that we were on a business trip." After the business trip, I took you to Hainan, and we swam together at the seaside ... "He said and came to hug me, and I struggled. He groped for me a few times and let go and said, "Xiaowen's body is so soft and feels so good." Your boyfriend is very blessed! " "I don't have a boyfriend. If the leader is fine, I will leave. " "One more thing, tonight we are going to entertain the relevant units. You can go together. " He said. At night, on the wine table, if I was in charge of the leadership, I made a lot of wine to toast. Everyone is happy to drink, but I am a poor drinker and drink a lot. Watching me vomit in the bathroom, he asked with concern, "Are you all right? Drink some water. I can't let the driver take you home first. "I said no, just have a rest. After dinner, he asked the driver to take the leader of the related unit. He drove me home himself. On the way, he asked me if I wanted to go to the teahouse to sober up. I said no, he was driving and I was half lying in the back seat. After a while, I felt the car stopped and the door was pulled open. He sat next to me, hugged me and asked, honey, are you okay? I opened my eyes and saw that the window was black. He started kissing me and I struggled. The more I struggled, the crazier he kissed. He reached into my clothes and touched them at random. At this time, I really panicked, afraid of letting him succeed, and the wine woke up. I shouted for his position, but he didn't listen. He said in a hurry, "I like you, call me brother, baby, I love you …" I tightly protected the most critical part of my body and said, "Let me go, I hurt …" Without my cooperation, he didn't succeed in the end, but I felt very wronged. I am very sad and have a headache. Although he didn't really get me, the boundary with him has broken the professional relationship between leaders and subordinates. I don't know how to deal with this relationship in the future. Small leaders also have a headache. These are just a few big leaders, and some small leaders in some departments are also very annoyed and have a headache. Although they didn't physically violate me like these leaders, the light in their eyes and some ambiguous words made me unacceptable. I don't want to offend anyone of these people, and I can't offend them. After all, if I annoy them in broad daylight, it will be very unfavorable for my future work development. I really want to find a way to kill two birds with one stone without offending them and being safe. If I offend them, my promotion is hopeless and my future is bleak. What's more, a leader told me directly that many women were promoted by "selling themselves". A male colleague introduced his office lover to the leader for promotion, and both of them were reused. You are too young to understand this, but you can't be willful. You should consider your future. I asked him, "What will I get if I do as you say?"? "He smiled secretly and said," How can a smart girl like you not know? " "How should I know if you don't tell me?" "This is self-evident. Why do you have to say it? " He looked at me with bedroom eyes as he spoke. Alas! Hearing him say that, I am so worried that I really want to leave. Escape is not the way. Such people are everywhere, but I don't know how to handle them. 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