How to chat with people you don't know?

Question 1: How to chat with strangers? Facing different strangers, I need to meet the psychological needs of different people through different forms of communication. They don't need too much understanding and too much bondage. In the face of strangers, I try to be free in the conversation, and the content of the conversation will meet his own needs as much as possible or be broader. This not only shows your honesty, but also makes strangers have scruples about you.

The following are strangers you may meet in the future. For reference, you can get to know them:

An analysis of the types of communication with strangers

● Like-minded type

Also known as the mutual appreciation type. If we all like literature and skating, we are all rock lovers ... Sammi, who just attended the gathering of game allies, told reporters that the so-called gathering is just for "matching seats" for their respective roles in the game. After getting to know each other and playing roles, everyone will smile and still call each other by their names in the game. The so-called real name, age and occupation are not within the scope of communication, and no one will ask. As soon as the party was over, everyone was still like strangers, fighting side by side again at the moment of networking.

Features: Because of the same role or mission, they only communicate in specific fields. In addition to this field, they deliberately maintain a strange relationship with each other, which will not be overstepped or intimate.

● Communicative type

Strong purpose (such as business needs), because work communicates with strangers, and they are linked to each other to realize their own organizational interests. For example, the addition of MSN contacts-in order to complete a job, you may have several contacts at once, and once the job is over, you will turn a blind eye to the contacts, even if you are online, you will never say hello ... until the next task begins.

Features: The purpose of this relationship is clear, and there is no consideration other than work.

● Mutual assistance type

Mutual tourism (exchange tourism) is a typical example of this type. Personal contacts on the Internet are used to travel and two strangers in two cities help each other in two directions. This new wave is sweeping the world.

Jay is in Beijing and wants to travel to Sanya in the summer vacation. She met Ivy, a Sanya netizen who wants to go to Beijing through the Internet. Jie and Ivy hit it off immediately and decided to help each other. Therefore, Jie was solely responsible for the accommodation of Ivy when she came to Beijing, and acted as her temporary tour guide, so the accommodation expenses of Jie when she went to Sanya were also saved because of Ivy's return.

Features: mutual aid pays the most attention to credit, which is beneficial to both sides and has the best of both worlds. It is becoming a popular way to communicate with strangers.

Low one-way communication type

As mentioned above, when you are depressed, ask the taxi driver to be a temporary listener, or call the hotline for * * *.

Features: one person confides mainly, and the object selection is more random.

Low one-to-one type

Because of loneliness or emotional needs, take the initiative to strike up a conversation or wait to be struck up in some public places, such as bars, discos and high-end fitness places.

Features: for the purpose of chatting, there is no responsibility and psychological burden to meet.

Strangers the radio host met.

Interviewee: Mr. Sha, a freelance media person/artist agent.

Because of his professional relationship, Sha Bao Fei often deals with strangers. She once hosted a program on the radio from 0: 30 to 0: 30 in the evening 12: 30. Every night, many people with hidden worries call her to chat, although this kind of chat is more just a kind of talk. They will give themselves a strange name whose identity no one can guess, such as "QQ Sugar" and "Prawn". Because their identities are relatively secret, all their emotional encounters and work puzzles are no longer secrets, and they are still enthusiastic even if they can't solve them. Shafeibao himself enjoyed meeting different strangers, and both sides felt a little satisfied at the moment when the line was closed.

The following is a conversation between the reporter and Shafeibao:

Q: What do you think of interacting with strangers?

A: There are too many right and wrong around modern people. For example, in the same circle, A knows B, B knows C, and C and A have a certain origin ... The privacy that was unintentionally snooped will be complicated by the multi-party communication between people. Too close a relationship often leads to something unrecognizable. With strangers, there will be no such problems, so I feel very relaxed.

Q: Will you leave a phone number for the audience?

A: Well, I will selectively tell some people ... those sincere listeners! However, this kind of contact is limited to telephone contact and will not meet. They will "report" my study and work from time to time, with pure motivation. In addition, some listeners will call the radio station after the show, hoping I can continue chatting with them, haha ... it's quite fun.

Q: Do you have any experience in dealing with strangers?

A: Of course! I used to have a "telephone friend" in middle school. I keep calling when I'm bored, and I've never seen them. Very interesting. Now, I have "empathy" with a foreigner (laughs)! The other party is a friend of a friend, although he is in a strange place and has never met before ... >>

Question 2: How to chat with people you don't know? From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.

When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.

Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?

Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.

Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!

Life is beautiful, enjoy it and learn to find it!

First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)

1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Not too formal, but not too casual.

Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.

Girls like to be a little cynical ... >>

Question 3: How to talk to people you don't know and truly express your thoughts?

Being so worried as you will give people a false feeling, as if you were faking it.

You can listen to how others chat.

How many serious topics are there?

It's basically jokes, trifles and complaints.

If you have no topic, you can follow someone else's topic.

Which means standing on the other side and following him.

This can lead to many topics and make the other person feel that you have more languages with him.

But also narrowed the psychological distance and became good friends.

Question 4: How to answer that I like a girl, but others say I don't know her and I won't chase her?

One day she asked me why I liked her.

I said, you are a goddess, you can't catch up.

How do you know if she doesn't chase you? Just try it.

A month passed, and she still didn't promise me. I asked her, I thought you asked me to chase you.

She said: yes, how do you know you can't catch it if you don't chase it? Do you know now?

. . . Damn it! ! !

Question 5: How to chat with people you don't know? Facing different strangers, we should meet the psychological needs of different people through different forms of communication.

We may not need to know each other too well, and we don't need too many constraints.

In the face of strangers, try to speak freely, and the content of the conversation will try to meet his own needs or be more extensive.

This not only shows your honesty, but also won't make strangers have scruples about you.

Question 6: How do people you don't know usually chat? Just say I don't like taking pictures, and I don't have any. I'm sorry, but if he is interested, he won't want them. If he is not interested, all you have to do is be firm and easy to handle.

Question 7: How to chat with people you don't know? Just chatting.

Talk about life

Talk about hobbies

Talk about life

These will do.

Question 8: How to chat with girls you don't know? What's the first sentence? Previously, Tango, a well-known girl killer, mentioned the girls she just met in Bad Boys: Chatting Skills, and left phone calls with each other in a hurry, with limited understanding of each other. How to chat with MM through SMS? Because the sense of security established by chatting up is not very high, it is not suitable to enter the pursuit procedure immediately after meeting. First, list some wrong SMS chat methods to see if you have been shot. ...

When PS develops to a certain extent, it is time to strike while the iron is hot. Please see advanced chapter C. If you want to marry a foreign wife, you must have 20 romantic confessions.

Some wrong ways to chat by SMS:

Cut to the chase: "Are you free for dinner today?" (Too anxious, no bedding, girls generally don't like it, of course, there are also very manly people who will be willing. )

Household registration management type: "hello, my name is xxx, I work in yyy, zzz." Nice to meet you. " It's not like a person, it's a computer program. )

Be caring and attentive: "The lowest temperature tomorrow 1 degree, and the highest temperature 13 degree. Caring about the weather means caring about yourself. Don't forget to add one more dress. " Do we know each other? )

Joke: "Chimpanzees accidentally stepped on a bench pulled by gibbons. After the gibbon cleaned it gently and carefully, they fell in love. When asked how they got together, the chimpanzee said with emotion: ape dung! It's all ape dung! " Forwarding humorous news is a low-level performance that makes everyone laugh. )

Narcissism: "If one day, you feel tired, as long as you turn around, my blessing will be by your side. No matter how far away, no matter how many years, this blessing will turn into a blue star, flashing in the morning, flashing in the evening and flashing in every corner of your life." (mental derangement! )

Endlessly asking: "What should I do?" (Watching TV) "What program are you watching?" (If you are the one) "Is it interesting?" (Not bad) "What should I do after reading it?" (... the woman finally stopped answering her text messages)

What's more, it drags English: "Hey, what are you doing now? Close your eyes and I will be by your side, thinking of you day and night!" " (I don't comment)

Dear, if you have done these stupid things, please read on.

When it comes to how to send text messages to unfamiliar girls correctly, we must first understand the differences in thinking between the two sexes.

Sasha and Fangfang are together

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much."

Sasha is with her boyfriend.

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?"

For millions of years, men have been quietly waiting for prey in the grass, and women have been chatting with children in caves. Men and men cooperate because of a clear goal, and then start to act silently after consultation. It is normal for women and women to come together because of the same situation, and it is normal to talk about each other's state and feelings. Therefore, men are projection thinking and women are mapping thinking. To this day, we will watch it.

Up to now, two men can go fishing without saying a word, but they can spend an afternoon squatting by the pond. Two women go shopping, even if they don't buy anything, they will talk all day.

Look at the examples of Sasha and Fangfang.

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful." (where to see something, this is the state; What is particularly beautiful is the feeling. )

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much." Women seem to be chatting happily, but in fact they are all talking about their own affairs. )

Sasha is with her boyfriend.

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday. It was beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?" (Go directly to the problem solver)

Men talk to solve problems, while women talk to describe themselves in problems. Men don't know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because they accept the influence of sexual thinking. He will think: anyway, that's what we are actually doing, or we can meet directly; Or "giving gifts", that is, showing concern; Or "let her know how strong my hunting ability is", which is called display value. In fact, these are all purposeful behaviors. For a woman, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, it will resist men's purposeful behavior. The relationship between street and street is just not suitable for immediate pursuit, so this is also the fundamental reason why many chat-up offenders are unfavorable in the future.

There is a phenomenon that the active party will adapt to the thinking mode of the passive party. As a male ... >>

Question 9: How to chat with people you don't know and truly express your thoughts? If you are so worried, it will give people an illusion, as if you are pretending. How many serious topics are there? It's basically jokes, trifles and complaints. You can talk along other people's topics, that is, from their perspective, which will lead to many topics. In this way, the other person will feel that you have more common language with him, and can also close the psychological distance and become good friends.

Question 10: How to chat with people you don't know? You can ask each other's hobbies first. If you are like-minded, of course there will be topics to talk about. Otherwise, you should also find some topics that you are good at and improvise, but you just can't say anything too boring, which will make people feel bored ... It doesn't matter what you say, mainly because you are worried that you will believe everything others say.