My predecessor, who broke up almost a year ago, sent me a message.

When two people are separated, it is inevitable that they will say something to denigrate both sides, and the other side may constantly deny you and accuse you of being wrong. At this time, you are likely to fall into self-doubt, doubt yourself and become inferior.

Inferiority is a kind of self-denial, lack of confidence in oneself, and also a psychological expression of disapproval of oneself.

It makes you lose courage, shrink back, dare not do it, fall into a strange circle of self-denial and cannot extricate yourself. Perhaps because of this, you lost the best opportunity to save.

Therefore, after breaking up, we should learn to adjust our mentality, straighten our thinking and move in a positive direction.

After breaking up, some people feel that they should make up for it immediately. As long as they do more and treat each other better, they can move each other and make them change their minds. So they began to send text messages, bomb phones and bomb gifts.

They think that this can make up for what they have done in their previous relationship and make each other moved, but they are wrong.

Because of impatience and eagerness for success, things that were originally easy to do are often pushed to a difficult position, and at the same time they are bored by each other.

Therefore, after breaking up, you should learn to be self-centered and think about your shortcomings and problems in your feelings, instead of rushing to save them. If you want to save each other, you must save yourself first.

Revenge psychology is widespread among the public. When a person's interests are harmed by another person's behavior, he will feel disgusted with the latter and may even take some actions to retaliate against the latter.

Some people can't adjust their mentality after breaking up, and feel that the other party's departure is wrong, and the other party should not leave themselves. At the same time, the other person's departure also changed their lives.

So they stubbornly do things that may hurt each other, forcing each other to turn around and return to their own side, even doing things that hurt each other, hurt themselves and hurt others. This will not only make the other party resist, repel and dislike you, but also make your relationship worse, thus making the hope of recovery more and more slim.

No matter why two people are separated, they should always respect each other's mentality, and learn to save each other with a good mentality and the right way of thinking and skills, instead of being at the mercy of psychology, no matter whether it is right or not.