What do people with high emotional intelligence do?

My own summary, try to write it as comprehensively as possible for everyone:

1. Say that others have low emotional intelligence without opening their mouths, and say that others are wrong without opening their mouths

2 , Don’t persuade others to be good if you haven’t suffered from others; if you have suffered from me, you may not be good to me

3. The stupid bird flies first, diligence can make up for the stupidity. If a young man doesn't work hard, he will be sad.

4. Only say a few words to people when you meet them, and don't give them all your heart. No matter how good the relationship is with friends, they will not reveal their privacy casually

5. There are some things that can be done but not said, and there are some things that can be said but not done

6. Don’t speak ironically. Do not use the imperative tone, negation, or questioning tone when speaking to others. Do not express negative emotions

7. Filial piety is not foolish filial piety, respecting the old and loving the young is mutual

8. It is rare to have a close friend in life, and it is normal for close friends to be scattered, so we can gather and disperse as the situation dictates

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9. It is my duty to help others not to help me, but it is my duty to help others. Remember to repay the debt of favor

10. Do not attack with force when dealing with the strong. Showing weakness is the best way

11. You can hide things from others, stay calm when things happen, and deal with anger. Stay calm

12. Don’t point fingers at others under the guise that I’m doing it for your own good

13. Speak slowly and appreciate people slowly. Speak without aggression. Listen carefully, catch the key words in the conversation, and find the voice. Continue the topic naturally

14. Follow three major principles when helping others: Don’t help if you can’t do it yourself; Don’t help if you have a bad character; Don’t help if you lose contact for a long time and suddenly appear

< p> 15. Speak slowly. Pause and think logically. Let the other person hear clearly what you are saying. Maintain a clear point of view during the conversation, and say important things beforehand

16. Try to restrain yourself from the desire to interrupt others. If you have any opinions, wait until others have finished speaking.

17. High emotional intelligence is neither arrogant nor humble, and does not show happiness, anger, sorrow, and joy on your face, even when facing people you hate

18. When praising others, be specific and not general.

19. When visiting a friend’s house, bring some fruit gifts and don’t be empty-handed. Remember to be polite at all times

20. Never make friends with someone who is ungrateful. No amount of enthusiasm can warm a cold heart

21. If someone is angry at you, calm down and let him finish his anger. He will feel ashamed of himself afterwards

22. Leave worries to yesterday and hope to tomorrow. Rest and relaxation are equally important as focusing on work

23. Don’t be pretentious when talking to friends; don’t be crazy when talking to parents; don’t be choked when talking to customers. When facing the leader, listen more and speak less, and speak before the leader asks you

24. Adults’ jokes are always half-joking and half-serious. You might as well listen to the truth first

25. Taking advantage of others consumes hard-won favors and trust

26. A blockbuster. Don't be pretentious, weigh the pros and cons, and get out of it. Get along comfortably

27. If you are embarrassed in public, as long as you are not embarrassed, others will be embarrassed. Humor is also the best way to resolve problems

28. Silence is sometimes an answer

29. If someone wants to make you look bad in public. To do the opposite, you have to be extra polite to him. The other party will humiliate themselves

30. Replace "thank you" with "thank you", replace "uh-huh" with "ok", replace "I can't" with "I can try" ", replace "You are too bad" with "You still have a lot of room for development" and replace "You are so beautiful" with "Wow, you are so beautiful"... The difference between a few words is a world of difference

31. Be patient with the elderly and children. You should also consider the occasion and method of losing your temper. Do this when things happen, and wait three minutes before getting angry

32. Bar KTV is a place to vent your emotions, drink and have fun. It doesn’t matter if you don’t sing well or drink well. Be confident and free-spirited, and stir up the atmosphere

33. Don’t regret what you have done

34. When your friends are in a bad mood and come to chat with you, don’t just talk nonsense. Take care of each other's emotions first

35. Don't argue with others about right and wrong

36. Don't lower your standards for choosing a mate because of loneliness. It is better to be broken into pieces than to be intact, so as to avoid endless troubles

37. Don’t act as an afterthought.

Don’t say: “I knew it would be like this” “I told you so”

38. Accept criticism and suggestions with an open mind, and use criticism as motivation

39. Just remain silent It is the highest form of contempt

40. If you consider issues from the other person’s perspective, your opinions and suggestions will be more likely to be accepted

41. Don’t show off in front of people who are better than you. . Don’t be miserable in front of people who are worse off than yourself

42. Don’t tell all the truth, and don’t tell any lies

43. Learn some psychological knowledge and legal knowledge, learn some Self-defense. You can better protect yourself

44. Learn to be grateful, keep smiling, and stop complaining

45. When friends gather to eat and chat, pay more attention to the one who is not like everyone else. Familiar people

46. Don’t smack your mouth when eating, as it will affect your image. Just close your mouth and chew slowly

47. Challenge yourself with things that you are not good at or know how to do. The more challenges, the faster the progress

48. Don’t always listen to relatives and friends when things happen. In your life, you are the one who ultimately knows the truth

49. Don’t ask questions that the other person doesn’t want to answer. It takes three years to learn to speak, but a lifetime to learn to shut up

50. The better you are, the fewer friends you have. Don’t be afraid of loneliness

51. Don’t study fragmentedly, keep reading. A person's growth takes a lifetime to complete

52. Good friends can hurt each other. But people who always hurt you are not your friends

53. When others ridicule you, don’t rush to sarcastically respond. Self-deprecation can slap the other person in the face even more

54. Keep smiling. People who love to laugh will not have bad luck

55. When a friend is sad, talking more is useless. Have a drink with him or go out to watch a movie

56. Take the initiative to force yourself to grow up, knowing that society is no better than your parents, and no one will spoil you

57. Maintain a sense of mystery, not easy Show your trump card

58. When there are many women, men should not tell jokes

59. In your spare time, learn some new skills. Enhance your core competitiveness, use your strengths and avoid weaknesses

60. Learn to use nice words to smooth things over for the other party and cover up shame. Praise each other more often

61. Take the initiative to regulate your emotions and do not vent your work worries on your family

62. Really smart people are those who can admit their ignorance People

63. Always compete with your peers and don’t argue with fools

64. Don’t argue with your elders if they are wrong. Concepts formed over decades cannot be changed by a few words from us

65. Keep a low profile. Luck is the humble word of the strong, and fate is the excuse of the weak. No one will be lucky all the time

66. Find the reasons for everything from yourself. Take the initiative to admit mistakes and correct them. Communicate calmly when there are problems, and deal with the problem rather than the person

67. Misfortune comes from the mouth. When you're not sure whether a sentence should be said, don't say it. Your hesitation explains everything

68. When you have just entered an unfamiliar workplace environment, doing small things to take care of your colleagues around you can quickly bring you closer to everyone

69. First impression Very important. When you meet someone of the opposite sex who is particularly good-looking, don’t stare at them, it’s very rude

70. Live in a low profile and do things in a high profile. Everyone likes strong, low-key people

71. Clean up your WeChat friends regularly to make your social circle more direct and efficient

72. Set small goals for yourself on a regular basis. excitation. Always have confidence in yourself

73. Say hello to villains frequently. Smiling and praising will not offend villains

74. Do not quarrel with others

75. Do not compete with superiors for credit or co-workers for favor. Avoid exposing your shortcomings in ability prematurely due to showing off your strength

76. Don’t blame or complain when things happen. Know how to play the emotional card

77. Life is like a play, it all depends on acting

78 Some people take advantage of others, while others bully the weak and fear the strong, and treat them differently

79 Smart people, Generally very easy-going and easy to get along with. Stupid people often lose their temper.

I don’t know why, but he touched his so-called bottom line

80. Turn enemies into friends, play both sides, advance and retreat freely, and successfully rise to the top

81. Don’t deceive someone who trusts you casually People

82. If you want to be promoted, get closer to your leaders and think more about what they need. 83. Don’t talk about the personal affairs of your boss or colleagues, and don’t inquire about privacy. Newcomers who have just joined the company should not be too busy taking sides

84. It is difficult for upright officials to stop household chores. Don't get involved in other people's family disputes and keep your distance

85. If you do something wrong, admit it as soon as possible. Don’t make excuses and regain the other person’s trust

86. When encountering a problem, find a way to solve it first and don’t make it a habit to trouble others

87. Don’t expose a person who is bragging in public. Do not interrupt others when they are talking

88. Recognize the complexity of human nature. Know that adults are all wearing masks

89. Don’t joke around, don’t expose people’s scars and sore spots

90. When getting along with others, don’t try to change them. Learn to accept the differences between others and yourself

91. Stay humble, but don’t be overly humble. When someone compliments you, a "thank you" is enough. Accepting compliments generously from others is a sign of high emotional intelligence

92. Do not show happiness, anger, sorrow and joy on your face. Be good at hiding your emotions

93. Observe the words and colors of others, and judge what the other person is thinking through their expressions and movements

94. High emotional intelligence means being versatile. Exchange of benefits and resources, we can’t do it without you

95. Take the initiative to report your work to superior leaders, so that leaders can leave a good impression on you

96. Only those who have seen flowers bloom are Understand the gentleness of the wind. High emotional intelligence makes people feel as comfortable as a spring breeze

97. Don’t send blessing text messages and bargaining links in groups during holidays

98. When you are a guest in other people’s homes, you can detect the host. emotions. It’s almost time to leave voluntarily

99. Don’t go through other people’s things

100. Be willing to share your knowledge, information and skills

101. See things through without telling them. , Don’t do anything without doing it

102. Let the unspeakable things rot in your stomach

103. Help others sincerely and don’t expect anything in return

104. The attitude towards people at the bottom is the truest character of a person

105. The so-called reliability means that there is an explanation beforehand, everything is in place, and there is a response afterwards

106. And outsiders Get along with both kindness and power

107. Friendship and love, stay with whomever you feel comfortable with, and stay away when you are tired

108. Overflowing with positive energy, the whole person is like a The little sun that shines

109. Save face for others in public. Suffering is a blessing. Accumulate more favorability in everyone's heart, and the benefits will be doubled at critical times

110. Maturity is not about tact but tactfulness

111. Have a sense of time and be trustworthy. Not wavering. Be responsible for your own words and deeds

112. Encourage and praise children. Support his interests and hobbies. Pay attention to the parent-child relationship

123. People who do not take advantage of others and know how to reciprocate are worthy of close friendship

124. Try to remember everyone’s name. Even criticism can make people feel warm

125. People who are so strong that you can’t believe it also have stories behind them that you can’t imagine

126. Birds of a feather flock together. People are divided into groups

127. Speaking is asking, listening is giving. People with high emotional intelligence know how to listen

128. A gentleman should be cautious in his independence. If you can't say it in person, don't say it behind your back either.

129. People with high emotional intelligence do not compromise or please everywhere. While taking care of others' emotions, you can stick to your own bottom line and position

130. Selling your privacy and secrets cannot buy true friends

131. Treat others sincerely, and only then can others I will treat you sincerely. People with high emotional intelligence know how to make others feel comfortable in interpersonal relationships

132. Don’t send voice messages to leaders, remember to type. The information content is simple and clear, and the key points are grasped

133. Don’t talk about the superficial and the profound.

The problem of speaking openly when you are close to others needs to be corrected

134. It is not difficult to work hard, but the difficult thing is to find what you are good at. Persevering all the way depends not on temporary passion, but on real interest and study

135. Don’t say harsh words and don’t do soft things. Don’t embarrass yourself to please others

136. Don’t make a fuss or agree casually

137. Don’t explain too much about your private affairs to others, people who understand you will understand. Leave time and energy to those who love you

138. A person’s strength begins when he lets go of his arrogance

139. The fastest way to lose someone is Get too close to him

140. Don’t complain to others. There is no such thing as empathy

141. Most outstanding people are clear-headed and purposeful, and seem a bit unsociable. In fact, they all have their own circles

142. Accept other people’s opinions first, and then refute them

143. What you can see in the circle of friends is what others want you to see.

There was a vice president in the company. He drove his car to the company before going to work in the morning. Since there was no parking space, he had to park it on the side of the road. He had something to do in the morning and needed to go out. Since it was not far away, he took the bus. The car went out. His phone call came after a while.

He told me that when he was taking the bus just now, he saw the traffic police posted a note saying that the car keys were on his desk and asked me to sit on the bus. I told him that I couldn't drive and didn't understand. He told me to just hold the key and press the unlock button and sit on it. Since I still had a job, I agreed verbally, but I was very unhappy in my heart.

I sat in the car and felt extremely hot. I really wanted to get out. He called me and said, I will tell you how to turn on the air conditioner and radio so that you don’t feel too hot. . After turning on the air conditioner, I sat in the car with my eyes closed and meditated. Suddenly his phone rang again and he said to me, there is a box of Furong King in the box in the middle of the car. Don't you like to smoke? Take it and smoke. I was not happy with this at first, but seeing the vice president's actions made me feel indescribably comfortable.

I stayed for a while and saw that the traffic police didn’t come, so I turned off the car and got out of the car. He came back at noon and brought me a bottle of drink and a pack of cigarettes. You can tell me how good this person is at getting things done and how high his emotional intelligence is.

There are many other manifestations of high emotional intelligence. I have summarized a few.

1. People with high emotional intelligence will never look down on others or laugh at others.

2. People with high emotional intelligence never complain when things happen. They are calm, discuss things as they are, and do not make noises or make noise.

3. Low-key, don’t talk enough and don’t do anything.

4. Know how to correct your posture and position.

5. People with high emotional intelligence never cause trouble for others.

6. People with high emotional intelligence know how to share benefits.

7. People with high emotional intelligence will not follow the crowd and follow what others say.

After reading several interviews and reports about Hu Ge, I feel that Hu Ge’s emotional intelligence is actually quite high.

1. Hu Ge was not only not angry when faced with Zhuo Wei's secretly photographed scandal, but actually wanted to send a camera.

2. At the Magnolia Awards Ceremony, Hu Ge and Jin Dong, who played the eldest brother Ming Lou in "The Pretender", were also nominated for the Best Actor award at the same time as Hu Ge. When Hu Ge won the title of King of Views, the host asked Hu Ge what he wanted to say to Jin Dong? Hu Ge said, "We are family on set, and we are family outside of set. No matter who wins this award, it belongs to our family." The host asked him what he wanted to say to his good brother Huo Jianhua? Hu Ge even said, "My heart will tell him what I want to do."

3. In an interview with Beijing Youth Weekly, the host asked: "The metabolism of the entertainment industry is very fast. In the past two years, many young talents with high popularity and good looks have emerged. As a former Are you stressed about "fresh meat"? ”

Hu Ge: I’m not stressed. Little fresh meat has a shelf life. You can’t always be a little fresh meat. If you are always a little fresh meat, It means you put a lot of preservatives. What is the end point of Xiaoxianrou? Its end point is the old drama bone. Now I am in the process of growing up from a young kid to an old drama star, and I am in a state where my flesh and blood are connected.

Moderator: Can this state be described by a Shanghai dish?

Hu Ge: (laughing) Haha, I have made an analogy before. Now I am very much like a dish in Shanghai called "Jian Du Xian". If you want bacon, I will give you bacon. If you want fresh meat, I will give you fresh meat.

5. When Ruby Lin got married, she and a group of friends openly teased Hu Ge about whether he was here to steal his bride. At this time, Hu Ge’s high EQ Q&A reappeared, and she responded wittily, “I actually understand that I am in his relationship. (Huo Jianhua) The meaning in life, all the CPs I formed with Jianhua were to protect you. Seeing you so happy together, everything I did for him was worth it. As a brother, I am really happy for Huo Jianhua. ."

6. Hu Ge and Liu Shishi attended the "Love Package Launching Ceremony" and were asked to share their feelings. Liu Shishi was a little nervous and couldn't say anything anymore, so she could only smile. Seeing the silence, Hu Ge quickly took the microphone to help her, "Actually, I think charity activities don't need to be said too much. The main thing is to in action”.

7. Li Xiaoyao, played by Hu Ge in "The Legend of Sword and Fairy", is torn between Zhao Ling'er and Lin Yueru. When he was asked if he could do it all over again, would he choose Ling'er or Yueru? , Hu Ge joked, "I will choose whoever can survive. Because I have played too many roles, and they all asked me to stay alone to take care of the children."

Hu Ge is knowledgeable but not I think Hu Ge, who is an angry young man, has an attitude but not extreme, is good-looking but not greasy, and is extremely hot but not arrogant. I think the real and unpretentious Hu Ge is more attractive than what he appears on TV.