When did you find yourself in love?

When I get to know my other half, I find that I am a love brain, a thinking mode of love first, and I will die without love. Speaking of love, I put all my energy and thoughts on love and each other. I have zero IQ and can't feel love at all. However, when I wake up and think back, I will doubt my life and focus on my partner.

Maybe ... everyone is a "love brain"

When we bow our heads, we recall our many performances in love, and always feel that we showed some "love brains" at that time and regretted our "stupid" behavior. In fact, the "dementia" in love is also based on brain science.

In April, 20021,researchers from Scripps Institute published a study in Nature, which provided an explanation for the phenomenon of "losing intelligence in love" from the perspective of biochemistry from the concept of "forgetting". Forgetting can be divided into permanent and temporary, which can help the brain manage memory (because there are too many memories).

In this study, researchers found that neurobiological mechanisms can lead to short-term forgetfulness in people in love. This is because there is a memory inhibition of temporary forgetting mediated by dopamine neurons in the brain, and the activation of dopamine neurons may cause temporary forgetting of some memories. In love, we secrete a lot of dopamine, and some memories are temporarily suppressed, which makes some original common sense judgments blurred and rationally leave. This provides an explanation for "mental decline" in love.

However, these common-sense memories have not disappeared, but they can't be retrieved in a short time. With the passage of time, when they can be retrieved again, this temporarily suppressed memory will become clear again. When our dopamine secretion decreases and we bow to love, our reason will recover with the recovery of repressed memories. From this perspective, it is a real psychological phenomenon that love blinds people, and the "love brain" is a "love trap" that everyone can't escape.

Here are some suggestions, hoping to help you!

1, know yourself

Learn to correctly understand your own advantages. Good love is evenly matched, and it is the love of two free souls. In most cases, what attracts the other person is not your affection and please, but your shining advantages.

2. learn to be practical.

When there are problems and contradictions in intimate relationship, don't point the finger at each other, let alone make unnecessary personal attacks.

3. Leave enough personal space for both parties.

No matter what form of intimate relationship, we should not enter each other's lives in an all-pervasive way, but allow two people to have their own life circles.

4. Pay attention to your own needs and build a sense of self-esteem.

Don't blindly cater to and pursue convergence, but pay attention to your own feelings, adhere to your own principles, and seek common ground while reserving differences.

Learn to live a rich life when you are alone.

Don't think that only the other half can bring you a happy life. Do more life planning for yourself when your lover is not around. Love is a kind of practice, and we all know the truth. I hope our love will not be carried away by the "love brain" and hurt people who are really good to us.