How to choose a school suitable for children in Xiaoshengchu

Another year of further study! What kind of school is really suitable for children? How to evaluate a junior high school accurately and objectively? Parents who are in a hurry to choose a school can calm down and look at their children and listen to their voices? In a sense, choosing a school is also risky, and other people's experience in choosing a school may not be effective for you. Therefore, facing junior high school, parents need to think rationally and choose carefully.

1. When choosing a school, you should do a good job in screening and screening enrollment information, and avoid blindly following the trend.

When choosing a school, many parents' understanding of junior high school is limited to the work unit, living environment and relatively stable crowd, which leads to incomplete understanding of junior high school enrollment or information. Even some information about junior high school students is hearsay, or learned from the internet and newspapers. Parents themselves have never been to the school they want to choose or want to choose, and often follow the trend and listen to unilateral recommendation information from colleagues or people around them, primary school teachers and class teachers. In fact, this blind choice of schools can easily make parents lose their judgment, which may lead to the choice of schools that may not be very suitable for children's psychological and learning needs. Because "choosing a school" is different from "pursuing fashion", choosing a school is an approval of the school's educational culture or teaching methods, not a blind and blind obedience. Similarly, "following the trend" is also prone to the phenomenon that good children "get together" in popular junior high schools, which also increases the difficulty of choosing a school or the possibility of success in choosing a school. Parents should be rational and clear-headed, be good at analyzing and grasping all kinds of information, and avoid blindness and blindness, which will lead to the passive result of the final school choice.

2. Overcome the psychology of "obeying orders".

There are many factors and demands in choosing a school. Some parents want to catch a good junior high school, and their children are more likely to attend hot high schools in the future. Some parents don't let themselves and their children "fall in price" in front of colleagues or people around them when choosing schools for their own "face". Some are because parents are busy with work, which is convenient for the elderly to take care of and pick up their children. Some parents choose schools according to their children's personality and specialties, so that their children can accept an educational method that is more suitable for their growth. However, people based on the latter idea only account for a small part of the school selection crowd. According to the national education policy, Xiaoshengchu adopted the policy of "admission to the nearest school without examination". There is too much information about choosing a school now, and some parents will have the psychology of "losing if you don't choose a school". So they began to take the initiative to choose schools, but many parents have not really figured out why they and their children choose schools. In fact, not all children need to choose a school, and not all children have to choose a school. The nearest school is not necessarily bad.

3. Overcome the "hesitation and wait-and-see" mentality.

Some parents are very keen on choosing schools, and there are many popular junior high schools they want to choose. They often spend a lot of energy to inquire about popular junior high schools in various districts. In the end, there are several popular junior high schools that they want to choose, which leads to the hesitation and wait-and-see mentality when choosing schools: on the one hand, they are afraid that they will not be allowed to choose schools, on the other hand, they are afraid that many people will "fall out of Sun Shan" and it is not easy to choose schools successfully. Judging from the reality, many hot junior high schools started enrollment promotion or registration in early February. Recently, many schools are overcrowded, and it is not uncommon for junior high schools with more than 600 or 700 students enrolled at the beginning of junior high school. Objectively speaking, on the one hand, it reflects the lack of high-quality educational resources or popular junior high schools, on the other hand, it also reflects parents' urgent demand for high-quality educational resources. But it also shows that choosing a school is still very difficult. If we look at the timing of choosing a school, parents who are on the sidelines and hesitant may have to take the initiative to make positive contact with their favorite schools.

4. Overcome the psychology of "lucky speculation".

At present, the number selection of private schools in Xiaoshengchu adopts the combination of independent enrollment and computer random lottery. Judging from this year's policy adjustment, 40% of the enrollment of Xiaoshengchu private schools is planned to be randomly enrolled by computer lottery. Some parents don't understand the nature and charging requirements of private schools, but take the initiative to enroll in private schools with the idea of "taking a chance" and "trying". But they don't understand that, according to the policy, children who successfully enter private schools will no longer participate in the allocation near public schools, so parents should consider the maturity before choosing private schools. In addition, some parents, with the psychology of winning the lottery by luck, put their children's future on the road outside Shanghai and spend a lot of energy preparing for the senior high school entrance examination outside Shanghai, thus increasing their learning burden. In fact, not all children are suitable for going to Nanwai. Nanwai, as a special type of school to train language talents, has very different requirements for talent training from other schools and different teaching methods from ordinary schools. Parents should choose schools according to their children's physical and mental characteristics and interest in learning.

5. Overcome the psychology of "putting all your eggs in one basket".

Many parents have heard that some popular junior high schools have good results in running schools, so they are desperate to choose schools. "There are no non-prestigious junior high schools." This mentality is very bad. On the one hand, the choice of schools in popular junior high schools is very popular, and parents with good quality and need to choose schools will also have the phenomenon of centralized choice, which will increase the difficulty of choosing schools; On the other hand, the psychology of "not going to hot schools" will also make your children lose many very good opportunities to choose schools suitable for their children. Parents are advised not to "hang themselves from a tree", and to compare choices in many aspects and comprehensively consider the needs of choosing schools.

6. Identify information and don't blindly believe it.

The information of Xiaoshengchu needs rational choice. At this stage, the information of Xiaoshengchu is flying all over the sky, so parents can't blindly listen to the information and make hasty decisions. In fact, sometimes hasty decisions are very accidental. Therefore, it is necessary to collect information from many parties and visit the school on the spot. There are many ways to collect information: for example, on-the-spot observation, listening to the experiences of colleagues and neighbors, watching media advertisements, visiting the school website, and asking students who are at school and have graduated. However, in the face of a large number of junior high school information, parents need to screen and compare, make choices and focus on them. A lot of network information has obvious subjective tendency and emotional color, and its authenticity is questionable. In addition to the official policy information, Xiaoshengchu's other information should not only consider the authenticity of the information source, but also consider the applicability to his children's choice of schools. Usually, you can choose the information provided by general acquaintances and media for reference, and the information provided by teachers can be verified. The information provided by hot junior high school students is more real, but the listening area is wider. Students who graduated in the past can also listen to it for reference. Because other people's past successful examples, their children may not be able to copy others' success, so many parents' school selection experiences are interfered by various factors, which are very subjective and sometimes even go to extremes because of emotional factors. Therefore, when parents hear all kinds of information, they can't "regard the wind as rain", especially for some so-called "gossip". Don't fidget at the slightest sign of trouble, which is not good for children's psychological development and has an impact on family life. Parents are advised to choose a suitable school according to their children's actual situation with a rational and peaceful mind.

7. Famous schools are not the only choice.

Although many parents are keen on prestigious schools, prestigious schools are not the only choice for junior high school students. Many parents consider the reputation of the school first when choosing a school, and think that a good school is famous and well-known. Some private schools have a lot of lottery players because parents blindly admire the names of private schools and blindly choose to participate in the lottery. In fact, when choosing a school, parents also need to consider the matching degree between their children and the future teaching requirements of the school. If children have a weak foundation, it is not rational to "catch up" with popular junior high schools. Parents should not think that children will study hard as long as the environment is good, and they can "rush" as long as they have teacher guidance and management. In fact, this idea is very idealistic. Statistically speaking, such children have a low probability of success. If your children's grades are not outstanding and their self-study ability is not very strong, then they may not adapt to first-class schools or first-class classes. Because most students in so-called prestigious schools or popular junior high schools have a good foundation and outstanding learning and understanding ability, the teaching requirements of schools are much higher than those of ordinary schools and classes. Many children objectively have different levels of intelligence and the speed and maturity of physical development, and their learning and acceptance ability is relatively slow. Some children can't keep up, and their accumulated achievements will get worse. Many parents blindly send their children to a learning environment with high teaching requirements. It is easy for children to fail to meet the teaching requirements at school, and they will soon be hit by academic failure, so that their psychological pressure will be very great, which will affect the normal development of their studies and even get worse. Therefore, parents can't replace their children's growth with their own ideas. It is very likely that parents have exceeded their children's acceptance and learning foundation, desperately trying to encourage their children's junior high school life to fail. Therefore, every child has his own growth direction. It is suggested that parents should calm down, help their children find a correct position and choose a school suitable for their academic development according to their actual ability and level, which may be more conducive to their adulthood.

8. Choosing a private school depends on strength.

Some parents have "given up public schools at home and chose private schools with a long way to go". The parents of several private schools in Xiaoshengchu, Nanjing, are very enthusiastic. The number of enrollment plans is small, but a large number of outstanding students are concentrated. Objectively speaking, the competition pressure between classmates is also great. This year, the city's "Xiaoshengchu" guidance was issued, and the enrollment plan of private schools was basically flat. In the past, the enrollment forms of private schools were also divided into computer allocation and independent enrollment, in addition to which a small number of school-choosing students were recruited.

This year, according to the requirements of higher authorities, our city canceled the student selection plan of private schools, and the enrollment plan only has two types: computer allocation and independent enrollment. This year, the computer allocation plan accounts for 40%, and the independent enrollment plan accounts for 60%. Although in order to ensure the opportunity for students to enter private schools through computer allocation, it is also stipulated that the number of computer allocation in private schools should not be less than 20 10 this year. But objectively speaking, according to the requirements of the new curriculum, the number and scale of enrollment in private schools will not change much this year, and the overall enrollment plan of each school should be the same as last year, but the proportion of the plan will be adjusted. However, compared with last year, the possibility of excellent students entering private schools has increased, but it is not smooth sailing for middle school students. They will face the conditions of independent enrollment, and it will be much more difficult to enter private schools.

For children who successfully enter private schools, it is inevitable that students' academic basic ability varies greatly because of computer lottery. If some "weak" students "squeeze into" private schools in various ways, it is not easy to keep up with the overall rhythm of classes and schools, and more children with poor foundations will have a psychological gap. If you can't keep up with the overall teaching rhythm and progress of the class for a long time, children's self-adjustment ability is limited, and the sense of loss can't be solved, which will have an impact on learning and physical and mental health.

9. Pay attention to details rather than fame.

When choosing a school, parents should not only look at the reputation of the school, but also ignore the campus atmosphere. School spirit is the cultural accumulation of a school for many years, and a good school spirit can create a good educational environment and learning atmosphere. Pure school spirit is conducive to children's psychological development and academic improvement. It is the easiest way for parents to judge the school spirit from the details of school management. From a certain point of view, considering the management details of a school, we can see whether the school management is rigorous and standardized from the aspects of the management of the school reception room, the cleaning of toilets, the campus environment, the management of school education and teaching facilities, the activities of student associations, and the setting of subject-specific courses. For example, parents go to the school gate every day after school and stand there "hearsay". They will know what the school spirit is like in a few days. Parents can also see how their children go to physical education class through the school playground fence. From the importance attached by the school to physical education class, we can see whether the school's school-running ideas are correct and whether it cares about children's physical and mental health and development; Parents can ask about measures to help students who are temporarily behind in their studies to see if a school has implemented the educational requirements for all students; Whether the school has a specially designated teaching plan or training plan for some students with learning ability can be seen whether the school teaches students in accordance with their aptitude, so that students can get their proper places.

10. Highlight the advantages and make the major more distinctive.

There are many ways for children to become talents. Some primary school students with artistic or sports specialties should not give up their specialties easily. In fact, judging from the development trend in the next decade, the popularization rate of going to college will be further improved, and college enrollment will highlight diversified admission. Some gifted children should not give up their specialties easily, such as small inventions, scientific and technological creation, art, music, sports and so on, which are all sustainable. Parents should not pay too much attention to academic performance and neglect the further development of their own specialties. In fact, many popular junior high schools have special students in sports and art. Parents can choose some schools with sports, art and science and technology characteristics according to their children's specialties, so that the unique advantages accumulated by children from childhood are more prominent and their specialties are more special. For example, the dance in China Middle School, the women's volleyball team in Nanjing No.3 Middle School, and amateur radio features. In the long run, it will increase more development opportunities for children's future development than ordinary people. Therefore, parents are advised to cherish the cultivation of their children's specialties, but not to encourage them too much. In addition, although the characteristics of some junior high schools are obvious, it is also a rational choice for parents to learn to give up properly if they do not combine their children's personality and specialties.

Boarding schools have to pay attention to children's psychology. Many parents find it difficult to take good care of their children because of their busy work. They plan to send their children to boarding school. They think that boarding schools are tight in study and strict in management, and some so-called "quasi-militarized" management is good for children's self-care ability. In fact, in order to cultivate children's self-care ability, sending children to boarding schools is not necessarily the best choice. Because junior high school students are at a critical stage of growth and development, it is also a critical period for the formation of children's values. Some parents want to spend more money and save less for work reasons, and sometimes they put their children in boarding schools. In fact, it is always parents who have the greatest influence on a child. Whether entering a prestigious school or an ordinary school, parents' supervision over their children plays an irreplaceable role. Boarding schools pay more attention to strengthening the management of study and life, but in the face of increasing academic pressure, many children will have temporary psychological problems, which need parents' timely care, guidance and care. Parents are advised to choose boarding schools carefully. If children have strong self-care ability and good psychological quality, they will be easier to adapt.

1 1. What is the charm of small classes?

Facing the hot junior high school, middle school students objectively face great difficulties in choosing schools, and there is little room for middle school students to choose. This year's policy clearly stipulates that it is necessary to gradually reduce the proportion of hot-spot public junior high schools to recruit students who choose schools, and the number of hot-spot public junior high schools to recruit students who choose schools is obviously reduced. Private junior high schools should strictly implement the enrollment plan and not enroll students beyond the plan. It is difficult for middle school students to choose a popular junior high school. Parents of middle school students are unwilling to go to ordinary schools or enter schools nearby, and take the initiative to choose schools. In fact, it seems that middle school students' crowding into prestigious schools is a resource opportunity for quality education. In fact, objectively speaking, they just curbed their own development opportunities. Because middle school students in hot junior high schools have more opportunities to get teachers' attention than students with excellent learning ability, middle school students may not be able to develop in a better direction due to the limitations of their learning foundation and their own acceptance ability, and objectively lose more attention from teachers, leading to better development of top students. In fact, small-class schools are the real fertile ground for middle-class talents. The government of small-class schools has given strong policy support, with excellent hardware and relatively few classes. If middle-class students choose to go to small-class schools, they will have more opportunities to get teachers' attention and help than in hot junior high schools, and they are more likely to be at the forefront of class development. For example, Nanjing No.24 Middle School, 18 is a small class school. The school adheres to the educational concept of "paying attention to everyone", so that middle-aged children can get more academic guidance and help in class than hot schools. Judging from the results of teaching practice, small-class schools are very conducive to the rapid development of middle school students, and schools can let such students "excel in learning and excel in learning."

12. Private operation and public operation, with appropriate "cost" accounting.

Choosing public schools or private schools has always been a headache for parents. For most children, the best school is not necessarily the most suitable. Objectively speaking, the enrollment policies of private schools and public schools are different. For example, most enrollment plans of private schools need computer lottery, so parents should contact a school for their children before choosing to go to private schools. At present, the government implements the policy of free and compulsory education for junior high schools, and the fees charged by private schools are relatively high, and the tuition fees of different private schools are also quite different. For parents with less affluent family economic conditions, it is suggested that the investment in education cost should be properly considered. For migrant families, you can also choose Wen Shu Middle School and Love Class in No.28 Middle School.

13. Admire the famous schools in your eyes, and also consider the traffic under your feet.

Many parents covet the reputation of the school, seeking further and further, and blindly pursuing famous schools. Many parents choose schools across administrative regions, such as going to the suburbs or choosing schools across urban areas. Nowadays, there are more and more private cars in the urban area, so it is difficult for traffic to flow smoothly. Many children need to spend more than 1 hour driving to school every day. Because parents choose schools blindly, these children spend a lot of time on their way to school. After three years' study, they wasted a lot of sleep and study time than the children who entered the school nearby, which will have a certain impact on their study life. On the one hand, children's physical development is affected by lack of sleep time; On the other hand, due to the limited study time, the study burden is increased. If there is a well-qualified public school near the parents' residence, there is no need to go further and further. For children in the physical development stage, it is very precious to sleep more every day. In fact, children need not only study, but also good health in the next three years. If some parents insist on choosing schools across regions, it is suggested to consider the convenience of transportation, such as choosing a school near the subway or a school near the bus stop. For example, middle schools such as Hexi Campus of Jinling Middle School and Hong Guang Campus of No.9 Middle School rely on subway stations. It takes much less time than riding a bike or taking a bus. Parents are advised to pay attention to their children's feet while choosing schools carefully.