What kind of lover do men like?

Generally speaking, these are the only species.

Men of different tendencies and types are looking for lovers.

1, emotional

Generally, when men cheat for the first time or are attracted by women outside marriage, the realm they pursue is more or less emotional. Even if it only starts from the contact in bed, there will be some feelings later, or you will delude yourself into thinking that you have come this far for feelings, because this can alleviate a man's moral pressure. After all, not all men can face the naked truth, they cheat for physical pleasure.

They talk about feelings and hide their physical desires in the coat of feelings. Even when we meet, we will tear off our clothes and catch fire, so don't forget to say a few words of "I love you" to paralyze each other's uneasy heart. They can also resist the physical impulse, wait for the other person to slowly enter the state, and use emotional expression to warm their lover's psychology and physiology, just like patiently frying fish in an oil pan. Only those who have patience can get the best food. Let the lover give his body automatically, and think that men are the real modest gentlemen.

There will also be simple feelings, really like a person, but across the fence of marriage. But if it is limited to ideological liking, it will not affect real life, and don't drag the other party into the tangled relationship of extramarital affairs. Only in this way, maybe the word "love" will be used locally, otherwise, it will be an archway erected for itself.

2, practical

Don't think that men only pay attention to realistic conditions when looking for wives, and so do some men when looking for lovers. Wouldn't it be nice to provide some practical conveniences, such as money, material and status, on the basis of providing an extra bed? Of course, people generally call such men "small white faces and soft rice". But in recent years, some non-white men who eat soft rice have joined the ranks, which has led to the decline of the overall quality of this group.

Some people may think that extramarital affairs mean that men invest more money and energy, but this does not apply to all extramarital affairs. Sometimes, men are the gainers and adopt the strategy of "empty gloves and white wolves". They don't spend money or spend too much money, and they can get women just by fooling around. Once many women fall into the whirlpool of feelings, they will lose the ability to distinguish objective facts. Men will give them anything they want, even their own money. Some men walk unimpeded among women with their mouths or faces, not only without paying, but also with great gains. Don't think that seducing men is all about women in order to get ahead. In recent years, many male subordinates have paid bribes to female bosses in an attempt to achieve the goal of promotion. Women are not born for politics, and when they encounter emotional problems, they will easily lose their principles and be successful by men.

In recent years, newspapers, magazines and TV have repeatedly seen examples of men cheating women out of money under the banner of affection. After careful study, men's methods are not complicated and scams are not novel. They are simply "carrots and sticks", fooling women with sweet words first, and then making a moving bait to make women feel that two people have become a family, so as to achieve the goal of seizing property. As I said before, the means are not afraid of being old, as long as they are effective. These cases have exposed women's weaknesses, that is, paying too much attention to feelings, blurring the boundary between feelings and self-protection, being too credulous and lacking basic common sense of social survival. Once you fall in love, you don't care about anything, you can give anything to please each other, which violates the basic rules and boundaries of feelings, indulges the man with ulterior motives, and finally ends up with nothing.

3. Appearance type

I don't know which ancient people said, "marry a wife, marry a virtue, and take a concubine." This sentence vividly shows the greed of men in their desires, and also profoundly locates the main direction of men in extramarital affairs, first of all, the amorous feelings and looks of women.

Who doesn't love beautiful women? Even the ugly quasimodo can fall in love with the beautiful Esmeralda, and the migrant workers on the construction site can also fantasize about the stills of female stars in the shed. Don't worry about whether it's worth it or whether it's possible. The little heart that men accelerate when they see beautiful women has never changed since ancient times.

Walking in the street, many men's eyes will slip past women and judge them psychologically. His wife can be a landscape in the eyes of other men, but he usually turns a blind eye. Who let "familiar places have no scenery"? You can't see how beautiful the scenery is every day. Therefore, the residents of the scenic spots feel that the tourists who take pictures are very funny when they arrive at the place. Isn't it just a bend of water and a few stones, which is also very exciting?

Men pursue visual effects and like beautiful women. If this beautiful woman takes the initiative, she can't find the north. Especially now, artificial beauty is all the rage. As long as you know how to paint, you are all like beautiful women, and men can't tell them apart. They are often attracted by unfamiliar scenery, because they have a desire to explore and feel new enthusiasm. But often this relationship will lose its original mystery with the deepening of understanding. After all, most women are passers-by after taking off makeup and washing their faces.

4. Young type

Whether a man is because of the "Lolita" complex or is eager to return to youth, in short, the general rule is that the age of a man is inversely proportional to the age of his lover. The older you get, the more you want to find a young and ignorant type. The younger he is, the more he likes maturity.

Nowadays, most of the popular extramarital affairs are between old men and little girls. On the other hand, some of them can also be said to be adopted. Men get youthful energy and naive enthusiasm from girls. These girls are generous and open-minded, and their over-developed bodies and brains are a perfect match. As long as men show their manners, abilities and means a little, they will feel extremely magical and infinitely satisfied. They have endless time and an attitude that they cannot afford to lose. Inexperienced tricks are a piece of cake in front of weather-beaten people. Men perfunctory them just like cats catching mice for fun, don't pay attention to them, and don't lose control.

Men like to brand a simple young woman with their own brand, not only physically but also spiritually. Sometimes a man will patiently cultivate his lover's growth and tell her how to face the society, how to socialize and how to distinguish all kinds of people. Don't think it's ironic. Smart men don't expect this relationship to last. He knew that she must be someone else in the end, and he hoped that he would be remembered by her forever.

5, romantic type

Men who are naturally romantic are one of the easiest types to cheat, because their restless nature and pursuit of interests will make them strongly resist the boredom of reality. Of course, this is not an inevitable law. It's just that some men choose to explore their interests in marriage and create romance, while others expand outward and continue to develop in other relationships.

Such a man's infidelity will emphasize the atmosphere, just as some people put napkins, knives and forks and light candles even if they eat corn. What matters is not what they do, but how they do it. He pays attention to details. He should also tie a beautiful bow on a stinky tofu and buy two packages of sugar-fried chestnuts with exquisite packaging. Usually, text messages are mostly affectionate and loving, and he also wants to make a phone call and say, honey, I love you. Love must have the appearance of love, and the absolute form is greater than the content. Not only such a man, but also a calm and dull man will expose such a side in front of his lover. In the blink of an eye, he will suddenly say a good word, be attentive and please women. It is a miracle that a man who doesn't like to do housework with his feet will suddenly wash vegetables, cook and cook soup for his lover.

In fact, wives don't have to be angry, and lovers don't have to be complacent. Men toss and turn, often the goal is not to be a wife or a lover, all in order to let themselves try different flavors. I want to be pampered and humble. I can't have both, but I can pamper myself and pamper myself. Try it. Do you expect him to be a cow and horse for his lover all his life?

6, exaggerated type

Some men are dramatic, and the pursuit of "perfect harmony between heaven and earth is to dare to make a decision with you" in love (I insulted this sentence, but I will review it) must have a vigorous effect, which will arouse the eyebrows of passers-by and even ignite the air. Like the friend I mentioned earlier, it's better to be Wei Zi 'erkang's type of swallow, and he won't stop until it's turned upside down.

It will be interesting if such a man meets such a woman again. In good times, the streets are full of gnawing, and all the ethics, children and wives have flown to the outside of the cloud nine, with bright eyes, and even the air can burn accidentally; When it's not good, it will make a scene. In restaurants, we will throw plates at each other and lift tables. We will slap each other twice, slap each other's units, vilify each other and scold each other on the spot. We really think of ourselves as the queen mother of the palace. After the quarrel, others thought that this was the level of breakup. Wrong. In a blink of an eye, the two of them made up like black-eyed chickens, crying their heads off, telling the truth, and people went to bed with tears and smiles.

Sometimes this is what the wife doesn't understand. It was hard to hope that the husband and lover turned against each other in order to clear each other's responsibilities, and experienced the most embarrassing confrontation, quarrel and abuse. Some men even slapped their lovers in public at the behest of their wives, completely tearing the last trace of warmth. I thought it was unnecessary for others to say anything, and the two of them would definitely not continue. Surprisingly, however, as long as the lover cries to the man with a runny nose and tears, it's all for love, and the man still cries that he was forced, and the two of them actually made up!

As the saying goes, people are shameless and ghosts are afraid. Perhaps the twisted feelings of extramarital affairs can best stimulate the bad side of human nature. Two people are desperately entangled, losing their healthy and peaceful mentality, hoping to completely cut off this hopeless feeling by hurting each other. If there may be some real feelings at first, in the end, after such exaggeration, we are submerged in abnormal movements.

7. Complementary type

Men pursue extramarital affairs in order to make up for the regrets and shortcomings in life, so when looking for lovers, some people often subconsciously find someone who is inconsistent with their wives in order to be fresh.

Compared with his wife, even a shrew, even an ugly person, even a low quality, even a dusty background can make a man who is good at digging new and hot, enjoy a long-lost feeling. You can call this bitch or ingratitude. Anyway, people just want to taste something new. I don't know how good my wife is without comparison. It's not that no man has been humiliated by his lover and then came back angrily. Maybe his wife will close the door and go home, leaving some annoyance for him to chew for the rest of his life.

8. Type of security

For those men who have a good relationship and can't shake their marriage, or just go out for picnics often, a lover is a lover and a wife is a wife. The difference between the two is just like the difference between Pakistan and Palestine in the international community. Only a few people who have no knowledge and culture can't tell the difference and are very confused. They regard their wives as lovers and wives as wives. Those of us with better minds know that the two are so different, we should stay out of it, and we also know how to lose our lives and protect our handsomeness at critical moments.

Therefore, some men's extramarital affairs must be safe. For those who have a strong desire for control, it is better not to be unsafe, and they will definitely act step by step and be cautious. They don't like that kind of reckless guy, who has slept several times and is always clamoring for a divorce, marrying this and marrying that. They often put out the conditions, marriage is marriage, and they don't lie from the beginning. I just want to be with you, but I can't give you marriage. Of course, they don't choose girls with impulsive personality and clear moral concepts. They choose women who believe in feelings, are weak in character, have little social experience and are easily brainwashed, so there is a saying among men to find good women as lovers. Such a woman is easy to appease, not good at making trouble, and also wronged by her own grievances. She won't sue this and that easily, and she often clamors to meet her wife. They not only don't make trouble, but also think that a man is good to his wife and it is a duty not to divorce, which shows that he is not the kind of person who can make love. He and his wife are also true lovers, but they never met before they got married, so they must abide by their duties, be confidantes and cherish the days together.

It's really stupid But there are too many such women, especially those lofty women who think they are connected with men. They think they despise the world and get a pure and refined love. Finally, it's not cheap for the most tacky and cowardly person.

9. Convenient type

People always say that rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests, but rabbits are so sophisticated these days. The grass next to their nest is also grass, which is easy to find and environmentally friendly. Why not eat? Only fools don't eat it.

So men go to the most convenient, accessible and harmonious places to look for extramarital affairs. There are male teachers looking for female students everywhere; Male doctor looking for female nurse; Male leaders look for female subordinates; Male boss looking for female secretary; Examples of male relatives looking for female relatives. This is not only in line with the principle of long-term feelings, but also in line with the health standards of cultivating feelings with labor. You can make eye contact at work, kiss when you get off work, and everything will be solved when you are on a business trip. Men will never affect your participation in family life. You can confidently tell your wife your lover's phone message: this is something that someone in our unit asked me about my work. If you meet a fool's wife, you will even strongly support other people's revolutionary actions. Maybe. It's so harmonious. It is really knowing that there are tigers in the mountains and leaning towards the tiger mountains. Both the black rabbit and the rabbit eating grass near the nest are good rabbits, which will definitely improve labor productivity and make due contributions to the construction of a harmonious society.

If you feel that you can't afford a man's life after an affair, please choose to leave, because a lifetime of pain will wait for you. If a man is just taking part in accidental amusement and you can't live without this man, please be yourself and win this game! Men are really elusive these days. You can't stop a person from going to work. You can't let a man always live in the same sex. You must bite the bullet and know that this is a dead end. Even if the story of extramarital affairs is flying everywhere, how can it be shocking anyway? But we women still live very calmly and ignore it.

Psychology and Life: Extramarital Affairs, Missing a Role in Marriage

We can simply analyze it, so if both husband and wife, don't say that both sides can't enter the role of husband and wife, as long as one party can't enter, the other party will feel very painful. He will feel that he doesn't have a husband or wife, so we know that there are many opportunities for us to contact many people in society now, and everyone will have the opportunity to communicate, so if one party doesn't have a family member who plays the role of husband or wife, he needs to communicate with someone like husband or wife.

Then there are many opportunities for heterosexual intercourse outside marriage. Once he can find a bosom friend and speak the same language as others, he will feel that this is his spiritual husband or wife. In fact, that husband or wife never became his real husband or wife. In fact, his family, his marriage, lacks a role, which is equivalent to a single state.

For example, in her early life, a person who particularly lacked fatherly love fell in love with a man who was more than 20 years older than herself, and then she felt that she was pursuing true love, not at the expense of asking for money from the other party. Then in this case, she will make the man feel that the other person's feelings are particularly sincere and pure, and then he will fall into such an extramarital affair.

Some parties, because she is mentally unhealthy, use her complex as such a feeling of love and such an act to attract men or women in marriage. If it's a man, that's the woman in the marriage he attracts. If it is a woman, attract men in marriage. This leads to extramarital affairs, which are actually both parties or one of them. Unhealthy psychological complex is mistaken for love by both sides, so an extramarital affair arises. He thinks that this is the true love, and this is the love he really needs. He thinks that this kind of love is so strong that it is actually an act driven by some unhealthy psychology.

In this era, the loyalty of marriage has plummeted, and extramarital affairs have become an overwhelming hot topic since when. After three, seven or ten years of marriage, normal men always have the idea of "cheating", either actively or passively. The so-called "three-year pain" and "seven-year itch" are still very reasonable. Married men want to "cheat" on extramarital affairs, which contains a strong "sex" color, mainly due to the following factors.

First, the need to meet. Mencius, the old gentleman, said, "Food and color are also important.". The so-called eroticism also means that sex life is as important as eating. There is an old saying in China: Man is iron, rice is steel, and if you stew it, you will be hungry. If the couple's sexual life is not harmonious for a long time, then men will inevitably cheat and meet their sexual needs. The weakness of human nature is that it can't stand the temptation of the outside world, especially when the husband and wife are separated for a long time or can't vent their loneliness. When men need more sex life and can't get it at home, men's affair becomes a way to satisfy sex. So many men can't help cheating in the metropolis when they are on business trips. For many men, a one-night stand is not a big deal, and there is no guilt. Of course, some men who like to seek excitement are often eager to seek adventure in order to change their unchanging lives. These men don't lack the sexual satisfaction brought by marriage, just for fresh excitement, to adjust ordinary life or to enjoy temporary pleasure.

Second, prove your charm. Once men reach the age of 40, especially married men, at this time they have a legitimate career, a certain economic foundation and social status, so they will rebel, especially those workaholic men. They always feel that they have missed the best time in their lives, as if they have never enjoyed life. This is the so-called "midlife crisis", which is what we call the seven-year itch. During this period, men began to question life and resist aging, so when they saw the love affair between young women or married men and women in Paradise Lost, they wanted to enjoy it again. Don't think that these men really love the young women around them and like such silly movies? In fact, men just want to find the shadow of youth and good memories to prove that they still have male charm.

Third, relieve stress or get tired of each other. There are many "modern diseases" in modern society, with great work pressure and tight pace of life. Most modern women are no longer housewives, because they have their own careers, and their self-esteem and self-confidence are pushed to the extreme by work. They often work hard and are tired when they get home. Men, too, can easily bring their work emotions home, and as a result, they are still thinking about work when they sleep, and naturally feel depressed. At this time, men and women are most likely to have conflicts, and their emotions will be more violent than usual. Many women fail to make good use of sexual life to relieve stress. Some wayward women only cry, make trouble and hang themselves three times, and they don't know how to increase their charm with clever attraction, temptation or encouragement. When a married man can't bear the pressure of reality, at this time, if there is a woman who can comfort him, the man will soon fall in love. Some men are tired of married couples, or when intimacy is uncomfortable, they will let men go out to find game.

Fourth, the psychology of comparison is at work. In real life, some mature men don't want to have fun outside, but they find that men like themselves are cheating on each other, some even have lovers, and even find a "mistress" and lover, which becomes a symbol of identity and ability in a certain circle. Some crooked reasons think that if a successful man doesn't find more women to play outside, it's really a waste of time in the afterlife, which will lead to having nothing in common with his peers, and sometimes make others look down on him, even others don't want to be with you: you don't find a woman outside, if I get too close to you, you will find out, and you will talk nonsense in front of my wife and outsiders. The reason is just like Song Siming said: In a circle, if you have him or me, I will be marginalized.

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