I'm 2 1 year old, and I haven't been in love yet. What should I do?

I'm graduating soon, and I haven't been in love yet. Unfamiliar boys feel that there is no common social circle and no topic, while boys who are too familiar feel too familiar and have no possibility of development. How should they find a boyfriend?

Steps/methods

I haven't been in love since 2 1. Perhaps the most important thing is that the social circle is too narrow, interpersonal communication is simple, and there is almost no opportunity to contact the opposite sex except for study and work, so I left.

The most effective way to judge whether your social network is narrow is to look through the telephone address book to see how many heterosexual contacts there are. If it is not ideal, then you should make some changes in your lifestyle. For example, give yourself more time to participate in some public activities, such as some cities in Douban, and expand your social circle in these activities, but nightclubs and the like are not recommended. If you are sure to find a boyfriend (not discriminating against nightclubs, but talking about feelings really needs to be serious), you can also study on weekends, sign up for a class for yourself, forget about yoga and so on, and find one that basically keeps the balance between men and women.

Of course, if you already have a secret crush, but you are not sure about each other's mind, you can test each other a little. The way is to chat by SMS. Don't ask him questions, just tell him. For example, if someone asks you what you are doing, you say you are in class (at work). Answer succinctly and minimize distractions, so that you can basically judge each other's attitude. For example, if you answer that the other person won't talk to you anymore, you may really treat you as an ordinary friend. If you still seem to want to talk to you at this time, congratulations, it's time to stop.

There is no one around you who meets their eyes.

How do you say this? It depends on your own development. If you are very confident about your future, keep it up. But if you don't have a clear expectation for the future and are in a hurry at the moment, I personally suggest that you lower the threshold slightly, perhaps because you are one centimeter tall and a large number of high-quality boys are blocked out.

You are too kind to scare the boys away.

For this kind of girl, the most effective thing is to live in harmony with everyone in life. Don't put pressure on people around you, but show some small shortcomings in time instead of trying to be a perfect woman.