Ex and the six underlying logics that you compound!

It is not recommended to complicate matters of principle.

Many times in our intimate relationship, when we encounter contradictions and tests, everyone will react differently according to their own cognition.

Some people will choose to break up when they are beyond their current ability to solve problems, especially for principled issues, so don't get back together easily.

Some people choose to face up to difficulties, and the tested feelings will be stronger. The feelings after being reunited are often sweeter!

Four common compound misunderstandings:

I have always emphasized my kindness and begging. "I'm so good to you, but you still have to show it: phone messages bombard me and leave me. Are you worthy of me?"

2, swearing, threatening performance: extreme, saying all kinds of swearing words, if you can't get it, you will destroy it and entangle the morbid emotions. "If you want to break up, I will jump from the sixth floor now"; "I don't want to live without you."

3, exposing shortcomings, personal attack performance: "Your eyes have been cut, why don't you go to breast augmentation as a big man?" Strike at the other party's confident conviction.

4, the scope of diffusion, looking for relatives and friends of both sides: looking for relatives and friends of the other side to judge. Let your best friend take the exam!

6 composite underlying logic

1, stop unnecessary entanglement and clarify the real reason for breaking up.

Many times, the cause of breaking up is just the fuse, and the relationship has already cracked. Entanglement will only make the other person more disgusted. Only by reviewing and communicating can we clarify the real reason for breaking up and prescribe the right medicine.

2, not because of avoiding pain and unwilling to get back together.

If you can't solve the problem just because you can't stand the sadness after breaking up, then before repeating the same mistakes, you need to think about how to solve the exposed problems and whether the relationship itself meets the needs of the other party.

3. Eliminate each other's negative emotions and learn to communicate and understand.

Intimate relationship needs heart-to-heart communication, sharing each other's feelings frankly, expressing their unhappiness without judgment, and letting each other know their needs. Get along as friends first, put yourself in each other's shoes and really walk into each other's hearts.

4, willing to change, re-establish a comfortable circle, attractive.

The establishment of intimate relationship is a process of growing together and finding a more suitable way to get along.

Breaking up is to remind both parties to see problems, such as being too busy to ignore each other, the relationship has long lacked freshness and the growth rate is different.

5. Let go of expectations for a perfect relationship

Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Only by accepting each other's shortcomings and growing together can we let go of our regrets and get closer. A relationship is also constantly running in, in order to achieve a more satisfactory way to get along!

6. Rebuilding trust in relationships

After the reunion, the relationship needs to be taken care of and repaired, such as actively enhancing interaction, increasing companionship, adding a sense of ceremony, establishing new agreements and planning the future together. See each other's changes and progress, appreciate, encourage, do more things that make each other happy, and recharge the emotional account.