How is it that my boyfriend never sends me a message when he comes home for the New Year?

It depends on your emotional state, his personality and usual behavior.

If he keeps doing this, it's his normal state, and he still doesn't know how to express his feelings.

If he is warm to you when he is together and cold to you when he comes home, he may have some concerns, such as not wanting his family to know, or he just needs you instead of loving you.

If he is a strong party in your relationship, it means that you are lighter than your family and friends in his heart.