Do men and women need to chat every day in love?

When two people fall in love, they need to keep a certain chat frequency, but chatting with high frequency all the time will only accelerate the consumption of love between two people.

Why do you say that?

Because the puppy love period and the passionate love period have passed, the mode of couples getting along is constantly changing.

For example:

When pursuing the person we like, we need to chat with each other every day, create various topics every day, and take the initiative to find topics for each other to talk about.

What is the purpose of doing this?

Of course, chatting can deepen the feelings of two people and establish "understanding" between them.

If you know more, you will have a chance to be with each other.

When a relationship is established, your goals change, which will naturally reduce the frequency of chatting.

After the love period, your relationship is stable, so there is no need to chat every day.

You know, when you are pursuing each other, you will spend a lot of energy, time and money.

You need to choose between your lover and your life and work, and finally you choose your lover.

What about after being together?

The relationship is gradually stable, and you need to consider your next goal, such as getting married.

In order to get married, you have to manage your own life, and love is the icing on the cake for you.

At this late stage of love, it is inevitable to reduce chatting when you get married.

You have a job and the other person has a job;

You have your own social circle, and the other person wants to have dinner with friends;

You have your own hobbies, and the other person wants to play games.

So, do you understand?

It is normal to chat every day, and couples also need this kind of chat to feel each other's existence.

But it's not normal to chat too much and talk to each other all the time.

For example:

The other party sends you a message in two hours, which is different from the other party sending you a message in five minutes.

You can accept the former, and the latter's behavior will inevitably cause you stress and discomfort.

When couples get along, it is important to "understand"

Set chat scene:

The boy was playing a game when his girlfriend sent him a message: "What are you doing?"

The boy grabbed the keyboard in one hand and the mouse in the other, and the whole person's attention was focused on the game in the computer.

Seeing the message sent by his girlfriend, the boy replied without thinking: "Nothing".

Girl: "Then you can chat with me for a while. I'm so bored."

Boy: "Good".

Girl: "It's a beautiful day".

Boy: "Yes, very good".

Girl: "I ate steamed buns for breakfast, but I don't like delicious food." Have you eaten? "

Boy: "I haven't eaten yet. I'm not hungry. Have you eaten? "

When we get here, guess what will happen?

Girls notice that boys are absent-minded, so girls' emotions will become depressed or even irritable.

The girl began to think:

"He didn't know what he was doing, so he perfunctory me and I ignored him."

On the other hand:

When boys are bored, send messages to their girlfriends; At the moment, my girlfriend and best friend are shopping.

Girls mainly eat and wear, and have no time to chat with their boyfriends.

Do boys get angry when girls give perfunctory replies? Of course, I also feel uncomfortable and neglected.

So it's not a good thing for couples to talk too much.

Understanding is very important.

You can understand each other, get to know each other and play games, and give each other time to play games. This is his freedom.

And he knows that you are shopping, so he won't bother you again, which is also a respect and understanding for you.

This state of getting along is the best.

If you can't put yourself in others' shoes, you will never be happy. .

A short chat, as long as you maintain "high-quality communication", will not affect your feelings;

High-frequency chatting, if meaningless, is meaningless to feelings.