If a couple is not in harmony, listen to what the Buddhist master has to say.

In many family lives, couples cannot avoid quarrels or cold wars over some things. Sometimes the consequences of cold wars are more serious than quarrels. If these problems are encountered, couples should pay more attention to them. Details may be the reason for the discord between couples.

Reasons for discord between husband and wife 1. Not being humble to each other

If everyone stands in their own point of view, then the perspective of looking at the problem will become very narrow. When a conflict arises, you should be considerate of the other person and consider the problem from the other person's perspective, so that the two people can find a harmonious entry point.

Causes of discord between husband and wife 2. Not being considerate

When the other party loses his temper, give him due consideration, "You have had a hard day, wash your face first, eat." "It'll be fine soon" is the best "fire extinguisher". Of course, the party venting bad emotions should often do some physical exercise to let the resentment evaporate with sweat, or shout a few times in uninhabited places such as rivers and woods.

Reasons for discord between husband and wife 3. Transform each other

Husbands and wives must not blame each other, but should change each other through communication. When two people slowly move closer to each other, they will Find a new bonding point. Remember not to have the idea of ????changing the other person. Doing so is in vain, because it is difficult for people to change themselves, let alone change a family.

Reasons for marital discord 4. Long-term cold war

The breakdown of many relationships and marriages begins with indifference. Indifference is the most terrifying thing in married life. If the cold war lasts too long, one party will be tired of this state and unilaterally show the "no-war card" and either choose to run away or throw themselves into the arms of a new confidant.

Causes of discord between husband and wife 5. Mutual suspicion?

“Who did you go on a date with when you came home so late?” As soon as the husband came home, the wife kept talking. Check his cell phone to see if there are any unfamiliar phone numbers or disgusting text messages. Even when he speaks a few words to the opposite sex, he becomes jealous. Sometimes it's because you give the other person too little space. Cultivate your own hobbies, go to the community fitness center to dance and take a walk. When your life is rich and colorful, you will not blindly focus on the other person. ?

Causes of discord between husband and wife 6. Blindly asking for things

Husbands and wives should remember this sentence: "You will get something in return if you give." When you receive care from the other person , we must use words or actions to express our gratitude to the other party. For example, when your wife is doing housework, even if you can't intervene, it is best to stand by and chat with her and say "you have worked hard" to make her feel that the value of her labor is fully recognized by her husband. Of course, if you think of doing housework as a chore, it's best not to do it. Because the more you work, the worse your mood becomes, and you can always use this bad mood as a bomb to attack your opponent.

Causes of emotional discord between husband and wife 7. Harsh words and bad words

Husbands and wives must respect each other and give each other a certain amount of room when speaking. Don't be careless and say whatever comes to mind. If you go too far, it will be too "destructive", which will bring pressure and grievance to the other party.

Causes of discord between husband and wife 8. Threat of divorce?

Often talking about "divorce" is a threat to the other party. Over time, it will be like "wolf coming" Just like the story of "I'm sorry", there will be a crisis of trust. Marriage is not just a certificate, it is a responsibility. Topic: Besiege those women who are looking for excuses for divorce?

Reasons for discord between husband and wife 9. Neglect of husband

When the children grow up, couples should not put all their thoughts on the children On the body. In life, the husband and wife should be the center. Only a three-legged family is the most stable. Once the husband is not satisfied for a long time, he will look for emotional support outside, which will easily lead to an affair and put the couple's relationship in crisis.

Causes of discord between husband and wife 10. Use sex as punishment?

Mixing bad emotions with sexual life will have a negative impact on sexual life. At this time, the husband should ask his wife whether she is feeling unwell, unhappy or too tired from work, and then give her appropriate comfort. If a wife is in a bad mood and is unwilling to have sex, it is best to tell her husband directly what she is thinking and let him understand that she is not in the mood for sex because she has not vented her anger, rather than as a punishment to her husband.

One day, a virtuous nun came here. My wife went to see the nun and asked her about the cause and effect of her family life. The nun said: "I am not an official in the underworld, how can I check the cause and effect account between you and your husband? I am not a Buddha or a Bodhisattva, how can I predict other people's past, present, and future events in the three lives? However, as for the principle of karma and retribution, I know a little bit about it, let me tell you. When it comes to marriage, no couple is united without a reason. Those couples who are united by kindness are bound to be happy and beautiful. Husbands and wives are bound to have grievances and entanglements. There are also cases where there is neither grudge nor grudge, or a combination of grudges and grievances. The grievances and grievances between them have the opportunity to compensate for each other. The relationship between husband and wife in this world must be like this. They are combined with grievances as the antecedent. This is destined by God and not what humans want! Although it is said that "Heaven is destined to conquer man," humans can also conquer Heaven. Therefore, Buddha Shakyamuni established the teachings. , allow people to repent and rehabilitate. As long as you work hard to eliminate the competitive spirit, overcome the arrogance, accept everything, be affectionate to your husband, and do your best to serve your parents-in-law. Be filial, be harmonious with your sister-in-law, and be tolerant and kind to your concubine. Just be a good person and don't worry about how others treat you. If you can do this, you may be able to restore your relationship. It is of no use to inquire about the cause of the past, even if the inquiry is clear and detailed."

The official wife listened to the nun's words and followed them, and the couple got along as well as before.

My mother often uses this story to educate the women in the family. She said: "What this nun said can really be used as a mantra to resolve grievances in the boudoir. It can make a strong man! Faith and practice will never fail to work. If it doesn't work, it must be that the practice is not thorough enough."

One day, a virtuous nun came here. My wife went to see the nun and asked her about the cause and effect of her family life. The nun said: "I am not an official in the underworld, how can I check the cause and effect account between you and your husband? I am not a Buddha or a Bodhisattva, how can I predict other people's past, present, and future three lives? However, as for the principle of karma and retribution, I know a little bit about it, let me tell you. When it comes to marriage, no couple is united without a reason. Those couples who are united by kindness are bound to be happy and beautiful. Husbands and wives are bound to have grievances and entanglements. There are also cases where there is neither grudge nor grudge, or a combination of grudges and grievances. The grievances and grievances between them have the opportunity to compensate for each other. The relationship between husband and wife in this world must be like this. They are combined with grievances as the antecedent. This is destined by heaven, not what humans want! Although it is said that "heaven is destined to conquer man", man is determined to conquer heaven. Therefore, Buddha Shakyamuni established the teachings. , allow people to repent and rehabilitate. As long as you work hard to eliminate the competitive spirit, overcome the arrogance, accept everything, be affectionate to your husband, and do your best to serve your parents-in-law. Be filial, be harmonious with your sister-in-law, and be tolerant and kind to your concubine. Just be a good person and don't worry about how others treat you. If you can do this, you may be able to restore your relationship. It is useless to inquire about the cause of the past, even if the inquiry is clear and detailed."

The official wife listened to the nun's words and acted according to them, and the couple got along as well as before.

My mother often uses this story to educate the women in the family. She said: "What this nun said can really be used as a mantra to resolve grievances in the boudoir. It can make a strong man! Faith and practice will never fail to work. If it doesn't work, it must be that the practice is not thorough enough."