A letter was admitted to Xueba in Tsinghua and gave eight pieces of advice to parents in China, which awakened many parents.

Since primary school, my parents have asked me this question. As long as I have a good learning attitude, I won't be blamed for how many points I get in the exam. So I don't have any pressure on my grades in the exam, so my grades are not much worse when I seldom play badly.

My experience is that homework should be as hard as exams, and exams should be as easy as homework.

Junior high school, my mother told me again: the exam, as long as you get your real level, you can. For example, in an exam, your real level is 90 points, and you got 90 points, which is very good. If for some reason, you only get 70 points in the exam, then mom and dad will feel sorry for you because your efforts have not been rewarded.

In our family, the reaction caused by the score is basically calm, no matter 100 or 80, there is not much reaction. Life is an examination room everywhere. Just face it calmly and test your true level. In our family, material things are not linked to scores and grades.

Material things can bring convenience to life, but if parents can afford them financially, they will buy them for me, which has nothing to do with grades. Mom and dad think that hook is easy to cultivate children's utilitarian thoughts, which deviates from the essence of study and life.

I don't lack pocket money. I have a bank card in my wallet for backup. In the small box at home, parents often put a few hundred yuan of change in reserve.

Mom and dad's philosophy is that in today's age full of temptations, children are not short of money or love, and the probability of detours outside is much smaller.

2 Enjoy life

The ultimate goal of education is to let children create a happy life and enjoy life.

Parents believe that to enjoy life, don't say that you have grown up, but start today and start now.

Once, an old woman told me that your parents are so kind to you that you must study hard and repay your parents when you grow up. My mother corrected this statement and said to me: the reward for my parents is not high marks, but to live a good day from now on.

Therefore, learning is only an important part of my life, not the whole thing. Make friends, watch movies, dress up beautifully, play with dogs, play games on the internet properly, relax and go to the countryside to accompany my loving grandparents, chat with boys who have a good impression, and so on. , enrich my life, make my life full of love, and the fire of life is burning with passion.

Mom said that she felt my understanding of love from every composition I wrote.

3 reading classics

Reading classics is the key to learning Chinese well. It is also an important way to understand life.

The reason why a classic becomes a classic must have its merits. I started reading foreign classics last year. I strongly feel that my composition, exams and reading topics have all reached a higher level.

When reading, you may not feel the obvious effect, but when writing a composition, the literary talent in your pen seems to be not your own, trickling out. This is the influence of culture, which is unconsciously integrated into readers' lives.

I suggest you don't let your children read fast food books, such as magazines, fairy tales, how to succeed quickly, etc. Instead, read classic world classics. I may not find the feeling at first, but after reading two or three books, I found the rhythm.

Once, my mother asked me: Did you feel happy when you read famous books? I said, feel it! At that moment, my mother was very pleased. Because pleasure is the highest level of enjoyment.

In terms of stage function, reading classics can improve Chinese scores by about 10%, which is very important for the college entrance examination.

4 moisten things silently

Children nowadays are extremely rebellious, and I am no exception.

For example, reading books and listening to music, my mother is very casual and does not show traces. According to my mood, when I want to have a rest or do other things, she will respect my opinion and will not forcibly apportion it.

5 Cultivate independence

My parents have consciously cultivated my independence since I was a child. Because children can't live under the wings of their parents all their lives.

It is most important to respect children's choices. Because there is not only one choice in many things in life, but many choices, and each choice has a certain truth. Don't judge children by their parents' choices.

For example, when I was five years old, it was very hot and I came out of kindergarten. I'm thirsty and want to drink something. Mom gave me money to buy it myself. I'm shy, because I've never tried, and I'm scared, so I won't go by myself.

Mom told me that now you have two choices, one is to buy it yourself and then drink it. First, if you don't buy it yourself, then endure it and go home to drink water. I hesitated, chose not to buy, and endured. Mom thinks this is also a choice, so she respects me and doesn't judge me.

In primary school, when it rains after school, my mother won't take the initiative to send an umbrella. She knows that I always have ways, such as sharing with my classmates, doing my homework in the classroom first, going to the supermarket to shelter from the rain, and visiting the supermarket by the way. Because, I once told my mother that your daughter is not as stupid as you think, and she will always find a way.

Another example: now I buy clothes, and my mother is only responsible for paying. Last time I went shopping with my classmates for a bargain. 25 yuan bought a shirt and wore it to school. My mother said it was beautiful, too, but she suggested that I cut those threads so that people wouldn't see that they were cheap at a glance. The second time, I went to buy another one, and when I brought it back, I felt small. Mom didn't comment on me either, and suggested that I give it to a friend who is a little shorter than me.

This is all my choice, and my parents respect me. Don't make negative comments. That's it. I thought all the way, and my parents respected me all the way. I grew up gradually, I didn't escape when things happened, I learned to think, and I had my own opinions.

6 About carelessness

I often hear parents say this about their children. My children know how to do many wrong questions this time, but they are careless.

Here, I want to talk about our family's point of view. From the fifth grade, my mother told me: carelessness means poor ability and poor study!

Never say that you didn't do well in the exam because of carelessness. Parents are also requested not to give their children this excuse to shirk their responsibilities.

Careful, calm and practical are essential abilities. If you have these abilities, you will occasionally lose one or two points. More than two points is understandable, but the ability is still lacking and the study is not solid.

This view, my mother began to communicate with me in the fifth grade, and I gradually agreed. Therefore, under normal circumstances, I can get high marks in the exam and my grades are stable, which should have played a great role.

7 Cultivate children's ability

Parents should let go and try to let go within the controllable range.

For example, if a child does something, he may only get 30 points. If you are dissatisfied, scold him or even do it instead of him, then the effect of things will get 90 points. But please pay attention to parents, this 90 points will always be your 90 points, and the children will still get 0 points.

If you let him do it and give directions in a way that he doesn't dislike, you may only get 30 points this time, 60 points next time, 95 points next time, or even better than you.

Therefore, parents should learn to show weakness wisely, give their children opportunities, and encourage and affirm their children in time. Mom and dad will get old eventually, so we should learn to give the stage to the children at the right time and let them play.

Only through repeated practice and thinking can children grow up, become independent and surpass their parents. The waves behind the Yangtze River hit the waves before, and my parents were often photographed by me happily on the beach.

Appreciate children, support self-confidence and care for self-esteem.

The Chinese nation is a humble nation. Educating children is easy to go astray. Do not pay attention to appreciate the advantages of children, but overemphasize the mistakes of children.

When I do something right, my parents will affirm me and praise me in time.

When talking to friends and talking about children, mothers will fully affirm the advantages of children. Occasionally, when I hear it, I pretend I don't care. Actually, we are very concerned. We will continue to adhere to these advantages and get better and better. I will calibrate my words and deeds to be as excellent as my parents described.

When a child makes a mistake, he should analyze it realistically. Don't be wordy, don't turn over old scores. Just face things correctly and correct them. Things have passed, continue to live your life well, and don't overemphasize and extend negative emotions.