Can you save your ex without doing a few stupid things that annoy him?

In redemption, the important thing is not to ask you to do one more thing, but to do one less wrong thing. This is progress. But it happened that so many people had to hit the south wall before turning back. This reminds me of the story that we learned to carve boats for swords when we were young. At that time, we laughed at whether this person was stupid, but in fact, how many people lived in such a stubborn world when they grew up, deceiving themselves and not changing with the situation. Common mistakes in recovery, because of these, tend to push each other further.

1, moral kidnapping

What is moral kidnapping? If you meet an old man, you must give him your seat, otherwise you have no quality. Li Yong is dead, and my daughter must show her sadness in public, even saying that people take selfies? Unfilial? This is the hateful moral kidnapping. So in the emotional extension, we often hear:

I treat him so well that he should be my boyfriend?

I gave my youth, but he's leaving. Isn't that a person?

I saved it for so long and did so much for him. Shouldn't he come back? ?

You are all blackmailing others from your own standpoint. In this world, you may not be rewarded, so when you say those words, the other person's idea is:

You are good to me. Why should I be with you?

What does it matter to me that you have done so much? I didn't ask you to do that. ? The reason for this is that you not only failed to do what the other person wanted, but also wanted to kidnap the other person's freedom. How can we convince each other? This kind of pressure on the other party in the name of love will make people feel uncomfortable, and he can't afford this kind of love.

2. Modest reservations

Feelings always love one side. When the other party is leaving, they are humble to the bone, and they are willing to do anything as long as the other party is willing to stay. After breaking up with your lover, toss and turn at night; Wandering in the virtual network again and again, looking at his head, his mobile phone and his chat record, hearing every song seems to be saying? You guys? Because my mind is full of him, this mood is really too painful!

So you can't help telling each other: I know it's my fault. Can you stop? ?

I really love you. I can't live without you?

I don't know what I would do without you, but all I know is that it hurts to leave you. The end result is the indifference of the other party. Yes, you have never been so humble since you were a child, so why are you so humble for love? You say because you love him, but true love is not seeking, but attracting. Humble gesture in the other person's eyes, will only reduce their own value, so that he can not see the bright spot in you.

I think I can save each other with my body.

Keep giving yourself hope after breaking up. As long as I keep in touch with each other, I feel good. Even after some people break up, when the other person contacts her, dates her, holds hands with her, and does everything about lovers with her, they still feel that the other person loves you, and there is still hope for you to get back together.

But in fact, the other person is just lonely. Sure enough, after the fight? He left you after the breakup, so don't try to keep each other physically. This is because, if you do this, he will know that you love him enough to lose yourself. Then your value to him is just a tool of indulgence.

Step 4 hurt yourself and threaten each other

When the other person leaves, your sense of need will burst out because of the fear and panic of the other person leaving. The most common thing is to bomb each other with information and then bomb them by phone. Send messages. If the other party doesn't reply, speed up the frequency of sending messages. Finally, simply say:? If you ignore me again, I will die for you. ?

When love becomes extreme, it will become crazy and a little unreasonable. When full of love occupies their brains and hearts, they can't control their behavior and even want to possess each other completely. For men, it is a burden, and I think you are a person who can't control your emotions. Make sure leaving you is the right choice. Imagine who would want to be with a person with changeable emotions, and what might happen in the future!

You're not trying to save it, but you're creating a negative impression on the other side. Even if he does come back, it is because he is afraid that you will do something stupid. He doesn't really want to start over with you.

5. Ask parents and friends to help persuade.

When they are at a loss, many people will think of their friends and family and finally make a fuss about them. Boys and girls are different. They prefer to think and digest independently, not to mention their own feelings. So when your friends and parents try to persuade you, they will put pressure on each other. In order to solve this matter as soon as possible, he simply said? Is it really impossible? . You see, what could have been reconciled is impossible in the end.

At the beginning, you didn't find the essential reason for breaking up. Now you are running around like headless flies, constantly consuming the few opportunities left for each other to get back together. When you have tried everything you think is right, you can't go back.