What psychology is it that you don't want to delete your predecessor's information after breaking up?

The real letting go is silent; True parting is the lightest ending. Unwilling to delete the previous information after breaking up is nothing more than two psychological categories:

1. Put it down completely

It doesn't matter whether it is deleted or not, and I won't have anything to do with this person. Love is gone, maybe we can be friends. After all, people in love need to act like sad people because they break up. Without deleting each other's photos, I think it is a period of time, an experience and a record in my life. There is no other more meaning. Bless each other.

2. Can't let go

I also want to care about whether she is happy, how she is doing, and who is around her in this way ... even if I know that there will be no intersection, I just know each other's living conditions silently in the dark. I don't want to delete my old photos, but I feel nostalgic when I look at them.

After breaking up, I don't want to delete my ex's information. What psychology?

There are three reasons.

1. Can't let go of my predecessor

Some people broke up with their predecessors, but there is still a place for her (him) in their hearts. Although he later talked about new love and met a new girlfriend, his predecessor still occupies a unique position and an important position in his heart. Nine times out of ten, he never really forgot his predecessor.

Want to get back together

When a person broke up with his predecessor, he still kept his predecessor's WeChat, photos or related materials, and often took the initiative to ask about his predecessor, probably because he wanted to get back together with his predecessor. Under normal circumstances, a person completely let go of his predecessor, and once he breaks up, he will decisively delete relevant information.

3. Forget to delete it in time

This situation is rare, but it is not excluded.

Judging whether a person has really let go of his predecessor depends not only on whether he has deleted the relevant information of his predecessor, but also on his actual performance and actions. If he really loves you, he will delete it quickly after you remind him, and he will never have anything to do with his predecessor again.

To sum up, there is no uniform standard and answer for emotional matters. You should learn to analyze it according to the specific situation.

I wish you happiness!

It doesn't matter whether you delete it or not, what matters is whether you always keep it in your heart. Whether it is memories and nostalgia for the good times, or the pain and entanglement that once hurt each other.

If you have become an ex, there must be an important barrier stuck in our relationship. In order to make a real breakthrough, it is necessary for both sides to reach a consensus, work together and break through this hurdle with courage and perseverance.

If you have no intention of breaking through this obstacle, it is very important to start your own independent life and not interfere with each other. There is no need to prove to each other how wonderful or unbearable your life is after leaving each other, because such care is meaningless.

The relationship between people may switch between relatives, enemies and strangers. Opposition from relatives often turns into enemies. However, hatred is often the emotional expression of the weak and helpless. The real strength is intimacy when you are like-minded, and there is no tie when you don't work together.

As for just breaking up when reluctant to delete, is also a normal performance. Maybe at the beginning, we can't help watching the dynamics of each other's circle of friends. This is normal, just don't disturb our normal life. You don't need to put on any moral shackles and blame yourself.

It's simple: this man is watching.

Not all people are so determined and motivated. Many times, I will receive similar advice: this person obviously just can't let go of his predecessor. This man obviously wants to change himself, but as soon as he is allowed to act, he immediately flinches.

There are two most common reasons:

1. Afraid of failure, unwilling to face failure, afraid that once the failure is recovered, two people can't even be the most basic friends.

Considering the face, I think it is a shameful thing to take the initiative to save, and I think even if I succeed in saving, I will be in a weak position in my future relationship because of my initiative to save.

This is actually the same as when we were in love. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, and fear of losing our high position prevented us from taking action in our emotions again and again until we finally missed the crucial opportunity.

Of course, specific to the case, in fact, many people are more familiar with these two issues:

1. Does the other person see the same as me?

2. If my ex is watching, what can I do to make this person let down his guard and take the initiative?

As for whether the predecessor is watching this matter, there is a more subtle approach: in addition to actively contacting you, or adding friends behind the scenes, always pay attention to your existence.

For this kind of watcher, as long as you give some reasonable guidance, they are easy to expose-you need to embed something in your conversation that you have not sent privately before, but is reflected in your social dynamics.

For example, a former client said "I'm in the library" when chatting with his predecessor, and his predecessor directly said: Haven't you finished your paper yet?

This is a good signal: because this boy wrote his thesis after they broke up, the girl said this sentence, which directly exposed the fact that she has been paying attention to this boy's dynamics.

You may ask: which predecessor will realize in time that this is a cliche, so even this is hidden? My answer is, not likely.

Because you know, no one really wants to wait and see for so long. This person is just waiting for a step to appear, and you take the initiative to chat, which gives this person a step-this person is waiting and watching, which shows that he can't let you go. With the steps, this person is more likely to show his sincerity.

Solving the other person's second worry is also a step: make the other person realize that he can appear in your life and make the other person feel that you can need him.

Here I really want to vomit some people's actions: I know many people are proud after breaking up and don't want to lose to their predecessors, or you all remember to improve yourself and build yourself-but have you ever thought of seeing you in such a good life?

My answer may be different from others'. Two people who really love each other cannot be friends. When you know that two people can't be together, you will delete everything about each other, and there is no point in keeping it. If you make a new appointment, it will cause unnecessary misunderstanding and redundant explanation.

On the contrary, after breaking up, you can continue to associate and be ordinary friends without deleting the information of your predecessor. It can be said that two people are not really devoted to one side of love, and they are dispensable and indifferent.

Many friends around me say that they can still be friends after breaking up, but in fact they have never really loved each other. Whether it is a man or a woman, there will be a dull pain in her heart after seeing her ex find the other half. In order to avoid pain, the best way is to delete all the information about the ex. It is also the most effective psychotherapy.

Recently, I made a new girlfriend. During the conversation, I accidentally talked about the other person's predecessor. She said: Why do you want to delete it? He hasn't paid me back yet! It means that there is a certain purpose to not delete the information of the predecessor. Although it is impossible for two people to go back to the past, there is no need to delete the contact information.

Just like today's society, whether it's blind date or talking to yourself, the love history of two people has come to an end. They both understood each other and didn't delete each other. On the contrary, they have no contact with each other. After a long time, their feelings will fade, and everyone can see it.

So to sum up, if you don't delete the information after breaking up, it may be that one party owes something to the other and needs to make up. It may also be that there are many friends, and friends can help each other. What is certain is that not deleting does not mean getting back together with you.

Everyone has had this trick of hacking in love, but it is not uncommon for two people to quietly leave each other's contact information on their mobile phones after they really break up. Anyway, I kept it all the time, without hacking, contact or curiosity. This is probably the way to test whether I really put it down! [Cute]

I am a passionate Aquarius girl, and I am rational and calm in the face of feelings. I found this relationship really bad, even if my heart is broken, I will choose to leave. Although it doesn't matter if you are cold and rude when facing each other, you will feel sad and nostalgic when you turn your back, and you will also want to secretly miss the past. Keeping each other's contact information is not to relive old dreams, but to commemorate good feelings. After all, the predecessor is already a symbol at this time. Just like the scar left by physical injury, is it necessary to remove it by plastic surgery? After a long time, it will grow into a part of the body, which is difficult to detect.

Of course, this may be because we broke up peacefully and rationally and left a good impression at the last minute. If the breakup is extremely unpleasant, it is estimated that in addition to deleting the other party's contact information, I hope that the other party will disappear from this world immediately [cute] [cute].

Do I have to delete the information after breaking up? Not necessarily.

Everyone has a choice. There is no clear answer. There must be a reason why you chose not to delete it. It's your choice.

No matter how a relationship ends, it must be beautiful and sweet at the beginning. The content in those chat records is the common experience of two people, and it is the testimony of emotional interaction and emotional connection. Although that person has gone, those feelings and experiences belong to you. You can keep them and cherish them.

Many times, we all think that when two people break up, we have to erase each other's traces from our lives. You don't say! All experiences and memories will exist in our bodies, and will not disappear together because of each other's departure. Whether this feeling brings you happiness or pain, it belongs to you. What we can do is to put the beautiful part brought by the other side, together with our love and sincerity, in our hearts and internalize it into our own strength and resources, so that we can have the courage to bid farewell to this relationship and start our new life!

Everything you are doing now is reasonable, and it is the best choice you have made at this moment. Comfort yourself and appreciate yourself. You are precious, unique and worthy of being loved!

There are two kinds of psychology, 1 still love each other, but because of their own problems in reality, it is good to wait for the other person to come to their senses and start from the center of gravity and be a spare tire. I don't love it anymore Some can't stay because the children are involved. Anyway, they will be needed in the future.

Those who are unwilling to delete their predecessors' information after breaking up have not fully come out. If the other party already has a boyfriend or girlfriend at this time and keeps the information of his predecessor, then it is necessary to pay attention to the possible setbacks and think about his predecessor. Such people are very tired to contact.

This question will vary from person to person.

Some people are too lazy to delete it. Don't think it seems incredible, but there are such people.

Some people think that they can still be friends after breaking up.

However, there may be more people who want to rekindle the old love, or have hope for their predecessors, or still love each other when they know there is no hope. I can't let each other go.