Have you ever experienced emotional friction? How to solve it?

I have experienced emotional internal friction, and he is still my first love! I finally made up my mind to leave, only to find that my life seems to be free without him!

The so-called emotional internal friction, popularly speaking, is reluctant to part with each other, too tired to be together! This is a very typical mode of emotional internal friction. Unfortunately, many people's feelings are more or less like this.

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When I was with my first love, maybe it was because I fell in love for the first time, so I ignored his shortcomings and whimsically thought that he would change. I can wait until he gets better. How naive! I gave him opportunities again and again, and the result was countless disappointments, falling into an endless cycle, becoming numb to myself and almost making myself the most annoying person.

He is the kind of selfish and sensitive person who will talk about his future plans and what he will do after saving money. In reality, he spends all his money on games, even indulging in games and delaying his work! Talking about how to love me, often checking my mobile phone, imagining whether I have proper relationship with other boys, is really speechless.

The reason why I left him was that I gave up completely. He didn't say anything on my birthday that day. I bought three big crabs and two dishes, thinking that two people would eat well. I steamed the hairy crabs first, so I took them out and he ate them directly. I thought he would leave me one. As a result, when I cooked the other two dishes, only the pile of shells he had finished was left.

I was chilling at that time. He directly started to show off the other two dishes and asked me why I didn't eat them. Yes, where can I eat them? After dinner, he was busy playing games again. Looking at the mess of the dining table, I don't know what the significance of maintaining this relationship is. I broke up. He thought I was joking. After all, I have said it many times before, and he just said a few good words as usual.

This time I left directly, blacking out his contact information. He texted and called to get back together, and even borrowed someone else's phone to call me. Ironically, I just changed my new number and went back to be your free nanny.

After I left, I carefully examined this relationship. Actually, we both have big problems. He has an internal friction personality. He thinks too much and likes to be suspicious. He hesitated whether to make a choice. He is unhappy with me, but he doesn't want to separate and torture each other. I am a likable person. I know he is such a person, and I want to change him by myself. I should find someone who doesn't have this shortcoming and agrees with my three views.

If you are experiencing emotional internal friction and don't know what to do, try this:

1, regard yourself as the center of life.

Don't expect too much from each other, regard love as the most important thing in life and treat each other as the most important person, which shows that you have fallen into a misunderstanding. Self is the most important person. It is more practical to take self-improvement as the most important thing, rather than relying on each other or fantasizing about what to achieve through each other.

2. Communicate patiently and see the core needs of the other half.

Many times, it is because of the contradiction caused by poor communication that we learn to see each other's needs and express our own needs. If the other person doesn't know what you want, just tell ta. If you can't see what the other person wants, just ask. Better than your wild guess. Maybe after a period of running-in, your relationship will have a good trend.

Step 3 control your emotions

If you are unhappy, you must say it. The wrong way is to turn a blind eye to emotions and ignore them. Tolerance and habitual complaints are internal friction? We should tell the truth, stop those useless complaints and accusations, let the contradictions surface and solve the problem completely.

4. Ask people around you for help.

Many times, the authorities are fascinated. You can talk to your best friend, say what you really think, and ask him to give you an opinion reference. There are some things that make you particularly entangled. You must tell each other and let them help you analyze the matter comprehensively. Many times, it will inspire you.

Knowing that two people will not be happy if they go on, and they don't want to break up for various reasons in the past, in fact, a relationship has reached this point, both emotionally and physically, and it is not worthwhile to spend every day in internal friction. Finally, I hope that all sisters will stop emotional internal friction in time and learn to pay attention to their real inner needs ~